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As I spent most of my time here..I thought I'd use it to say goodbye

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ThePosieParker · 22/02/2011 16:17

As starkly reminded by recent threads, MN is not the sort of place that I feel very safe, with or without anonymity. I don't expect to be missed, I have often been quite and outspoken bitch on here and haven't exactly made a lot of friends. I am delighted to have met some of the feminists, and will hopefully see them again. But twice in two weeks I've had PMs reminding me of things I've posted about my husband and I'm really upset about it. For me MN has been a quick knee jerk experience, one that captures my mood at any moment. So toodle pip.....about time I did more with the dcs anyway.

I am really aware that this is an attention seeking thread, but I just wanted MN to know that I won't be the only one leaving when apparent heartbreak (not mine) is fodder for someone's 'shit stirring Sunday'.....

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Blatherskite · 22/02/2011 16:49

Sorry to see you go Posie

SueWhite · 22/02/2011 16:51

I think it's just because you have a very memorable name, which you have kept and which also gives off a certain impression of 'prissiness' or whatever. It combines to make quite a powerful/memorable persona. I seem to remember you also had quite a lot of pics of you and the kids and DH up and asked people to look at them - something to do with coats Confused ?

But it was out of order for people to message you with stuff like they did - it's clearly going to come across as quite creepy/threatening.

BinJeeta · 22/02/2011 16:52

If you like it here, then namechange, often, as I do, and keep any identifying details off the boards. Don't go.

Antidote · 22/02/2011 16:54

Damn it woman, you are one of the posters who isn't afraid to be an individual and say what you think.

Lots of the interesting, ballsy, straight-talking folk seem to be leaving or name-changing.

It's going to be like netmums soon.

Sorry to hear about the creepy stalking, that would definitely weird me out.

SingingTunelessly · 22/02/2011 16:55

Posie just name change. Quite a lot of us do that often so we can just chat inanely. Can't believe somebody PM'd you like that - that is horrible. Report it to MNHQ.

Don't leave. Smile

RunAwayWife · 22/02/2011 16:55

Posy have you reported the PMs to MNHQ?

Sorry you are having a tough time

GwendolineMaryLacey · 22/02/2011 16:55

Who the fuck would pm someone about their personal life? There are some really strange people out there/here. I'm not surprised you're freaked out :(

Sorry to see you go, hope you change your name mind and stick around.

nickelbabe · 22/02/2011 16:56

Posie - I wish you felt differently.

I have seen loads of your threads where you've spoken your mind, and not been afraid to do so.

You always seem so strong.

"[I am secretly laughing (and crying) about the amount of people that will miss me but for all the wrong reasons....]"
what reasons did you think you would get?

If you have been bullied by PM, then you really need to tell MNHQ. that's not on, we're not in the playground, and it's horrible that you're being targetted. :(

TheSecondComing · 22/02/2011 16:59

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FabbyChic · 22/02/2011 16:59

Hey not had any run ins I don't think, but why leave?

Namechange.

Someone is obviously really mean to PM you about stuff you have posted, it's okay to PM offering support but to shit stir?

Don't let them win.

lovenamechange100 · 22/02/2011 17:01

I think if (not knowing you ) you feel vulnerable then you should stay and gather strength from the good ones on here, why should you go, weed out the nasty ones, I say, out this nasty PM'ger I say.

Lots of threads about bullying and nastiness this last week.

perfumedlife · 22/02/2011 17:02

Don't leave Posy. I took a couple of weeks off and did me the world of good. Or name change.

But very odd that someone would pm you with past posts, how irrelevant and nasty. I would ask for your past posts to be deleted and start over.

ScaredOfCows · 22/02/2011 17:02

Really sad that you have reached this decision. I'm sure that, given the stuff going on over the last few days, you won't be the only one.

'By parents for parents', well, until people get hounded off...

IcingOnTheCake · 22/02/2011 17:05

I agree about name changing. I name change every so often, just so i don't get too familier.

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ThePosieParker · 22/02/2011 17:06

No, I know what I put 'out there', I'm not expecting a farewell of 'you were nice'....I'm not really expecting a farewell....but then I have posted a thread saying I'm leaving!!

When I post I post how I feel at that moment, no agenda to be popular, agreed with, alarmist....I hope when I have posted my aim has been to help at least one side of the story, whether it be the person posting or someone they're arguing against or standing up for. I think I'm a nice person, it doesn't always come across I know. I also have issues in my RL that has meant at times my posts are, at best, hypocritical. I would like to think that I know right form wrong and want more for others than I accept for myself. I don't think I'm unusual, we all have a little of that in us.

I haven't been bullied, the PMs weren't nice, but the tone and insinuation were much worse than the content.....someone say 'I remember [posting name] one cold night reading what you said about [xyz]' is deeply unnerving.

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burninghamwastemidlands · 22/02/2011 17:07

Another one urging you to name change. I do so all the time and find it works for me. It does take away from the MN experience, and it would be nice if we could all remain in the same guise and build close online relationships based on knowing each other really well over time and sharing posting experiences. Ho hum.

Don't go though; I don't think I agree with your stance on a few things Hmm but you make a valuable contribution to the MN community.

FabbyChic · 22/02/2011 17:07

Honey, name change if you want to stay, why be forced off. If you want to leave and not post do so because you choose to not because someone sent you PM's.

BluddyMoFo · 22/02/2011 17:08

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exexpat · 22/02/2011 17:10

Posie, I've seen you around on lots of threads, and I'm pretty sure I'd recognise you if I bumped into you around Bristol, as you used to have photos on your profile page - not something I would ever do, as you really can't know who is looking at them, as we have all discovered.

I'm sure if you lie low for a while, and come back with a new name and without the identifying photos etc, it might take a while for people to spot you (though to be honest you weren't exactly unrecognisable under the feminist name you were using recently).

But you will probably get a lot more done if you spend less time on here (I know I would).

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ThePosieParker · 22/02/2011 17:14

I know...one poster in the past had said she'd recognise me from photos and sort me out of she saw me on [local] road!! MN just isn't what it used to represent to me....

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janiesmum · 22/02/2011 17:16

why bother with a leaving thread, why not just log off and spend time with your kids

or is that not dramatic enough

oh well, you have had all the "please dont go", "we will miss you" etc etc so mission accomplished really

scurryfunge · 22/02/2011 17:16

Posie, you really should report that sort of crap behaviour.

bupcakesandcunting · 22/02/2011 17:17

Don't go.

LessNarkyPuffin · 22/02/2011 17:17

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bupcakesandcunting · 22/02/2011 17:17

POSIE THAT IS SHIT.

Send me the details of the threatening poster and I'll sort her ahhhhht Grin