I’m skint and think this is a good way to pay off some debts – AIBU?

[WhereTheresAWill]

I?m a single parent and although I have a day job it?s minimum wage, so like most people money is tight. I have debts to pay off and anything extra is very much needed so I can get back on an even keel. I started doing webcam work a few months ago after a suggestion from a friend who?s in a similar industry (she?s an escort), and it?s helping me to pay off my debts and give me a bit of extra cash to treat my DC. I can?t do a second job outside the house as I have no evening childcare for my DC, so in that respect it?s ideal. At present I only work on the cams for approx. 3 hours on Friday and Saturday nights when DCs in bed and although there are some time wasters on the site I work from, most of the blokes are fine (with some interesting requests!) and I have a few regulars, one of which spends approx £40-50 a time when he has a show with me.

I know the moral majority won?t approve and will say that I?m being exploited, used, abused etc. but they are the ones paying a lot of money to see me put on a show, so surely it's the other way around! I just dress up, watch TV until a show is requested then do a bit of a dance and a strip tease and watch the money to stack up as the minutes pass - so who?s the fool?! I?m not a victim, as I choose to do this and actually enjoy the fact that these men are paying me to put on a show for them. They can?t touch me, have no idea where I live or even what my real name is, so it?s safe from that point of view, and if I don?t like them for any reason I can kick them out of my ?room?. Obviously I?ve only been doing it a few months and the novelty may wear off, but if things go well, my friend has suggested I could branch out into the odd bit of escorting as well to up my income a bit more.

AIBU doing this to make a bit of much-needed extra cash?

Oh, I love sgb's posts

Can't agree with the sex industry ones, but she is bloody good at the fuckwit partner/deadbeat dad/cocklodger type relationship ones

They are often amusing posts....just a bit misguided that is all. They are good hearted but a little biased.

SGB, please I've worked 80hrs when I dropped out of college in the care industry and I was never tempted to sell sexual services.

I was tempted to go back to study and qualify to do something else though, maybe OP should consider training for a better career rather than sell herself short.

I like the random bolding too, as if you can't read the sentence on its own

AnyFucker, GORGEOUSX is a real poster, not a troll from another forum. She has been here for about 2 weeks. She came to MN from another education forum and she first started posting on the education threads.

If you say so claig

I suppose we are all "real" in the sense that our words appear on the screen

I feel Jeniffer Love Hewitt adequately covered the dangers of getting into prositituion to pay the bills in her Golden Globes nominated made for TV movie, The Client List.

Description of movie here

Thanks Claig Is it any wonder that I love you!

Gorgeous-'I'm soooo bored of MN and the hysterical women on here who get wrapped up in words on a screen'.

So I see you're still lurking around 'boring' Mumsnet then

"I'm soooo bored of MN and the hysterical women on here who get wrapped up in words on a screen"

JimmyChoo I can probably rephrase that so you get the general sentiment. "I'm soooo bored of hysterical women on MN who get wrapped up in words on a screen."

I don't think its actually boredom of MN, just boredom of dealing with this kind of hysterical mob minded behaviour. This is my first real experience of it and I can see how it would turn people away from using the website. Not because of MN itself, but because of the people who make it un-welcoming. The fact that there are women who actually leave MN because of it, shows that it is a genuine problem. People are bullying people out. MN is a great resource and contact site for mothers, shame some people are using it to be abusive and generally rude. The fact that people are actually telling people "well why don't you just bugger off then" goes to show that you are actively made to feel like you should leave.

I am not speaking on GORGEOUSX's behalf, just putting forward my opinion of her statement and the responses to it.

bloody hell this thread is still going. I can see Jimmy that you have still failed to contribute anything constructive to this thread and are still trying to bully people.

Trying to bully people?Haha!You are very funny MrSpoc

And LDNmummy-she said she was bored of MN.Her words not mine.

Anyway going to leave the thread.Have a lovely day everyone

Tried to read thread but I see most of it has turned into a slagging match so I am only going to respond to the original OP.

WTAW - No I don't think it's unreasonable to want to do anything to pay off debts and to give your children a better life but I don't think this a long term thing.

Although you may enjoy it now I doubt that you will when your children are old enough to realise and ask what you do for a living, it is admirable that you will go to such extremes for your kids but please, please do not persue this further into being an escort etc as this is when it CAN become dangerous. Obviously people will have their opinions that any job has an element of danger to it but in this instance it is all the more real and what would happen to your children if anything did happen to you?

And yes I do realise that there are many men and women who do this and make a successful 'career' out of it but I don't think it is a suitable or responsible job for a parent to have.

Just try to think about the long term as well as the short term before you decide if this is for you.

And also FWIW if you had no doubts then you would'nt be asking AIBU unless you are just seeking attention of course.

Has the OP even been back to comment! Probably another poster just trying to whip up an argument on Prostitution.

Thanks LDNMummy That IS what I meant - but as you have hinted, every word gets pored over by the bullies who want to keep attacking/bullying to the death

Every word one ever posts is met with hysterical rants of 'justify' and 'you said/he said/ she said.'

Unfortunately MN mirrors RL - i.e. there are a lot of morons out there/on MN and I shudder to think how their DC are being raised.

I also think Carmenelectra is right about OP, as I suggested yesterday. (Even though I was accused by one poster of not having contributed to the discussion)

GORGEOUSX was actually trying to stick up for me in what can only discribe as bullying. you may of mist it, it was on page 15 or 16. I was called many names including

Slimeball
Spinless Twat
plus many others.

All i did was disagree with peoples views.

I was also accused of not being a real poster but actually a man who pays for sex and have come from another site delibiratly to cause trouble.

Would you now say GORGEOUSX has a point?

There's an art you perfect as a lawyer, to basically swear at the other side or completely dismiss both them and their opinion, without actually using swear words or highly inflammatory language. It's called the "polite fuck off".

Here are some of the words you have used, LDNmummy, which I'd say fall into the polite fuck off category:

"Or they will just spew their own moral bla bla bla at you."

"Get off your high horse."

"The morality police are obviously out in force."

In other words, "they don't agree with me, so their opinion isn't worth shit." Some of the posters being pulled up here for swearing are just being a bit more direct than you, that's all.

Maryz realy please point them out. I post alot and try to give advice. My advice my not be to everyones choice and should be used if applicible. But belive it or not i have had a few people PM me to say thank you for the help.

I am not here for a fight at all and have even said a few times here that we just have different of opinions but no people then feel the need to attack.

Actually it's quite good to get a mans perspective. The sex industry effects all of us.

I wonder what GORGEOUSX is basing her assessment of people's parenting skills on ?

Twice now, she has said she feels sorry for the "vile and nasty bully's" children