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I’m skint and think this is a good way to pay off some debts – AIBU?

592 replies

WhereTheresAWill · 09/02/2011 16:53

I?m a single parent and although I have a day job it?s minimum wage, so like most people money is tight. I have debts to pay off and anything extra is very much needed so I can get back on an even keel. I started doing webcam work a few months ago after a suggestion from a friend who?s in a similar industry (she?s an escort), and it?s helping me to pay off my debts and give me a bit of extra cash to treat my DC. I can?t do a second job outside the house as I have no evening childcare for my DC, so in that respect it?s ideal. At present I only work on the cams for approx. 3 hours on Friday and Saturday nights when DCs in bed and although there are some time wasters on the site I work from, most of the blokes are fine (with some interesting requests!) and I have a few regulars, one of which spends approx £40-50 a time when he has a show with me.

I know the moral majority won?t approve and will say that I?m being exploited, used, abused etc. but they are the ones paying a lot of money to see me put on a show, so surely it's the other way around! I just dress up, watch TV until a show is requested then do a bit of a dance and a strip tease and watch the money to stack up as the minutes pass - so who?s the fool?! I?m not a victim, as I choose to do this and actually enjoy the fact that these men are paying me to put on a show for them. They can?t touch me, have no idea where I live or even what my real name is, so it?s safe from that point of view, and if I don?t like them for any reason I can kick them out of my ?room?. Obviously I?ve only been doing it a few months and the novelty may wear off, but if things go well, my friend has suggested I could branch out into the odd bit of escorting as well to up my income a bit more.

AIBU doing this to make a bit of much-needed extra cash?

OP posts:
waffleanddaub · 09/02/2011 18:02

I find it hard to believe that you are asking this here. Unless, deep down, you feel a twinge of discomfort, guilt, whatever.

Not that I'm saying you should, necessarily.

MrSpoc · 09/02/2011 18:03

not always Jimmy, i know 1 or 2 people who do it one has sex the other does not. Why what do you know about it apart from what you read?

Chil1234 · 09/02/2011 18:05
Biscuit

Is there more than a whiff of swamp gas about this little tale...?

JimmyChooChoo · 09/02/2011 18:05

And how do you know these people are telling you the truth??
(Unless you're the one paying them of course)

Shakirasma · 09/02/2011 18:06

Whilst I have nothing against escorting in principle, your body your choice, I would be very concerned about your safety.

There are some real mutters out there you know, and they don't have 'serial killer' tattooed across their forehead. Escorts and prostituted are a vulnerable group.

What would happen to your children if the worst happened to you?

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Shakirasma · 09/02/2011 18:07

Mutters = nutters of course

CJ2010 · 09/02/2011 18:08

Good for you, I respect that fact that you are not just sitting on your backside and taking benefits. You are trying to give your DC and yourself a better standard of living.

People will judge, but then everyone has differing opinions on most things.

Just make sure you keep safe.

MrSpoc · 09/02/2011 18:09

Jimmy - their my friends and are very open about it. i trust them and their judgements.

I also signed up as a male esort before i married but was actually coned or you could say no one would pay for my services ha ha.

But i take it from your post that you have no real life experiance and are just going off what you have read.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:09

I didn't say you were an idiot, OP

but using terms like "escorting" in place of "fucking men for money" is just being disingenuous, isn't it ?

you see even MrSpoc, who I assume is a man of the world is kidding himself on this thread (or is being deliberately obtuse...you decide)

let's call it what is really is, then no room for misunderstandings here

JimmyChooChoo · 09/02/2011 18:10

Mrspoc-you sound very naive.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:12

you were coned, MrSpoc ?...isn't that a specialist service ?

perhaps not much call for it these days...

JimmyChooChoo · 09/02/2011 18:12

Haha!

MrSpoc · 09/02/2011 18:13

why because i do not agree with your views?
Anyfucker it may be sex for money but the name this occupation is given is called Escorting. and please explain why i am beingobtuse?

Jimmy why am i naive? I obviously have more experisnce in this subject than you.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:14

I shall leave this thread on that note

Yet another load of prostitution for/against clap trap

it's fucking boring tbh

MrSpoc · 09/02/2011 18:14

I relaise i was conned and can laugh at myself. My wife often does. you see that is what is good about me. I do not take life as serious as you obviosuly do.

PaisleyLeaf · 09/02/2011 18:15

I'm not convinced that you're "in control"/"want to do it" etc when you're also talking about debts, even keel, minimum wage, very much needed.

Would you be doing it if you didn't very much need the money?
It just doesn't sound much like "free choice".

MrSpoc · 09/02/2011 18:16

Anyfucker - may be you do not like the fact times are changing and women are responsible for making thier own choices.

I agree it can be dangerous but so can working on a construction site.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:20

nope, I have no sense of humour linky

times are changing for the worse, IMO, MrSpoc, where the sex industry and the sexualisation of society is concerned

JeremyVile · 09/02/2011 18:20

Mrspoc - you've gone from having a friend who escorts but doesnt have sex with clients (whilst inferring that anyone who is disbelieving of this type of set-up is just not as knowledgable on the subject as you are Hmm) to "Anyfucker it may be sex for money but the name this occupation is given is called Escorting"

Gosh, confusing.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:22

JV, forgive MrSpoc, most people are never quite the same after a coning experience Smile

JeremyVile · 09/02/2011 18:24

...and he didnt even get paid for it.
Bugger.

AnyFucker · 09/02/2011 18:25

Off to eat my sausages and mash

toodle pip

houseworkwhore · 09/02/2011 18:31

there are names for women who take their clothes off for money.. non of which are to be be proud off..

what would you say if your daughter was doing what your doing??

On the other hand your providing for your children so fair play but its still wrong

Niceguy2 · 09/02/2011 18:33

...putting yourself in dangerous situations with strangers, is a sign that you're a bit of an idiot I'm afraid

Niceguy2 · 09/02/2011 18:38

I say fair play. If a man is happy to pay £40-£50 to pay a woman to webcam with him then he's a fool who deserves to be relieved of his cash.

It's a big step from the anonymity of webcamming to escorting but lets face it, I'd rather see a UK woman earning the cash doing the job of her own free will than some eastern european who thought she was coming to the UK for a "waitressing" job then pimped out.