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I’m skint and think this is a good way to pay off some debts – AIBU?

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WhereTheresAWill · 09/02/2011 16:53

I?m a single parent and although I have a day job it?s minimum wage, so like most people money is tight. I have debts to pay off and anything extra is very much needed so I can get back on an even keel. I started doing webcam work a few months ago after a suggestion from a friend who?s in a similar industry (she?s an escort), and it?s helping me to pay off my debts and give me a bit of extra cash to treat my DC. I can?t do a second job outside the house as I have no evening childcare for my DC, so in that respect it?s ideal. At present I only work on the cams for approx. 3 hours on Friday and Saturday nights when DCs in bed and although there are some time wasters on the site I work from, most of the blokes are fine (with some interesting requests!) and I have a few regulars, one of which spends approx £40-50 a time when he has a show with me.

I know the moral majority won?t approve and will say that I?m being exploited, used, abused etc. but they are the ones paying a lot of money to see me put on a show, so surely it's the other way around! I just dress up, watch TV until a show is requested then do a bit of a dance and a strip tease and watch the money to stack up as the minutes pass - so who?s the fool?! I?m not a victim, as I choose to do this and actually enjoy the fact that these men are paying me to put on a show for them. They can?t touch me, have no idea where I live or even what my real name is, so it?s safe from that point of view, and if I don?t like them for any reason I can kick them out of my ?room?. Obviously I?ve only been doing it a few months and the novelty may wear off, but if things go well, my friend has suggested I could branch out into the odd bit of escorting as well to up my income a bit more.

AIBU doing this to make a bit of much-needed extra cash?

OP posts:
reluctanthomosapien · 10/02/2011 22:01

You are 24. I'm old enough to be your mother. As are, probably, a lot of the women posting on here. My personal experiences span a generation more than yours. I therefore conclude that I have been around the block a few more times than you.

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:03

Anyfucker I admit my naivety in terms of MN and the abuse of the forum, but that does not mean it extends to other aspects of my life. It is dependant on what I have experience in, and I am a relatively new MN so was not aware.

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:03

christ, I've been round the block, down the avenue and up the tower more times than I care to mention

sweetgilly · 10/02/2011 22:06

You clearly suffer from very low self esteem.

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:07

Ummmm... Well I would go through my life experiences on MN but I do not feel that I should have to validate my ability to be knowledgable on life issues. I think experience is relevant, there are people in this world half your age with more life experience than you. Age is not a defining factor alone in what a person must or must not understand about life and social, political and cultural issues.

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:08

but LDN...you literally scoffed at the fact that scuzzy men from punternet might deem it entertainment to come here and upset women posting about their vulnerable situations

would you like to me to detail some of the examples ?

perhaps not...really unpleasant reading

you are new to MN, best not to make unfounded assumptions about what has gone on here

and only you said that naivety may extend to your other missives about "how life is" on this thread

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:08

Sorry, that was supposed to be "experience is relative".

claig · 10/02/2011 22:09

Very true LDNmummy. It doesn't matter how many times you have been around the block, you still won't necessarily be wiser than someone younger. King Solomon was wiser than people three times his age.

reluctanthomosapien · 10/02/2011 22:10

Claig said "So if someone tells me that they like their work, whatever that may be, then I am entitled to believe them and not treat their statement as just hearsay?"

You are entitled to believe whatever anyone tells you. But just because someone tells you they like being a prostitute doesn't mean that you can attest to the fact that prostitution is wonderful - only to the fact that someone told you it is. There's a huge difference.

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:10

Anyfucker I was going on this sentence "you are quite naive , I think, even with all your talk of informed choices"

Obviously I misread it.

But then I have come to find that my age is being used as a reason to undermine my opinion.

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:11

King Solomon is a fictional character

< hears sharp intake of breath all over MN land >

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:12

I never mentioned your age, LDN

You are confusing your conversations

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:13

No, I was just pointing it out, not specifically saying that it was down to you.

Was just tagging it on to the end of my post.

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:15

Just tagging it on ?

No, you are trying to say that all people are disregarding your opinions because you are 24 (which I hadn't taken any notice of until the last 2 minutes)

don't spit the dummy out now

bristolcities · 10/02/2011 22:16

Honestly I enjoy sex and to be brutally honest im fairly promiscuous(when i can be and my son is else were obviously).

If i had the confidence to do this and not give a fuck what people think i would.

If you know what the agenda is from word go chances are your going to be far more careful about knowing your limits and being proparly prepared and there for in control.

claig · 10/02/2011 22:16

reluctant, I agree with that. But LDNmummy never said that prostitution was wonderful.

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:18

No, if you go back through my posts you will see I have combined responses or comments before. It just avoids me posting over and over.

Its wierd how you are really trying to pick holes in my personal actions and no longer even focused on the original discussion.

socialhandgrenade · 10/02/2011 22:18

What is punternet? Will my eyes water if I google it?

QueenBathsheba · 10/02/2011 22:19

LDN when I was 24, just like you I knew girls who were involved in escort work. I am now 38 and I agree with the majority of people posting on here.

There are very real risks both physically and emotionally and until OP is way down the road and washed up she won't know if those risks apply to her.

scurryfunge · 10/02/2011 22:20

AF, just trying to illustrate a point with the Solomon reference.

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:21

social...don't do it, honestly

your faith in the decency of men and women will be forever tarnished

LDN aren't you still on this thread, shootin' the shit about stuff that bears very little resemblance to the OP ?

you have a lot to learn about MN Smile

bristolcities · 10/02/2011 22:21

and sorry but age was clearly mentioned, age has nothing to do with the strength of one argument, we are after all aloud to vote at 18.

Can we not live and let live. If no one is being hurt and only the OP can judge that, whats the problem?

BachAtTheMoon · 10/02/2011 22:22

To all the cardy-clutching dissenters.

How about,

"If you have such a low opinion of Mumsnet and those who regularly post, why don't you just
JOG ON?"

You will find Flouncers Corner here

Thank you drive through.....

AnyFucker · 10/02/2011 22:23

scurry, I was directing my King Solomon retort at claig

LDNmummy · 10/02/2011 22:23

But I don't think that apply's to everyone queenbathsheba, I think some women are quite happy with the choice they have made and are actually more upset about how others make them feel about it. Although I am sure it does have an adverse affect on some people, not doubting that at all.