I’m skint and think this is a good way to pay off some debts – AIBU?

[WhereTheresAWill]

I?m a single parent and although I have a day job it?s minimum wage, so like most people money is tight. I have debts to pay off and anything extra is very much needed so I can get back on an even keel. I started doing webcam work a few months ago after a suggestion from a friend who?s in a similar industry (she?s an escort), and it?s helping me to pay off my debts and give me a bit of extra cash to treat my DC. I can?t do a second job outside the house as I have no evening childcare for my DC, so in that respect it?s ideal. At present I only work on the cams for approx. 3 hours on Friday and Saturday nights when DCs in bed and although there are some time wasters on the site I work from, most of the blokes are fine (with some interesting requests!) and I have a few regulars, one of which spends approx £40-50 a time when he has a show with me.

I know the moral majority won?t approve and will say that I?m being exploited, used, abused etc. but they are the ones paying a lot of money to see me put on a show, so surely it's the other way around! I just dress up, watch TV until a show is requested then do a bit of a dance and a strip tease and watch the money to stack up as the minutes pass - so who?s the fool?! I?m not a victim, as I choose to do this and actually enjoy the fact that these men are paying me to put on a show for them. They can?t touch me, have no idea where I live or even what my real name is, so it?s safe from that point of view, and if I don?t like them for any reason I can kick them out of my ?room?. Obviously I?ve only been doing it a few months and the novelty may wear off, but if things go well, my friend has suggested I could branch out into the odd bit of escorting as well to up my income a bit more.

AIBU doing this to make a bit of much-needed extra cash?

bristols...is that "Girls Aloud" to vote ?

Wow, is this still going? A whore is a whore, dress it up as you will, and defend it all you like. Someone who gets paid for sex is a whore and if they are OK with that then so be it. I couldn't do it for the world. I would rather have a glass of

Ah, ok AF, sorry.

didn't scroll back to your post, SF, sorry

Anyfucker I have only responded when prompted by others. If you go through past posts, you will see that I have kept my comments consistent with the OP's original post and the subsequent discussion, except when prompted by others to veer off the point.

going through past posts then...do you think GORGEOUSX's post to me was acceptable ?

you didn't comment on it upthread when I asked you

I asked you to enlighten me about it as I had not seen it.

LDN, you have pretty much judged as much as anyone. Please don't pretend to be a middle of the road, non committal, fence sitting neutral.

FFS, yes, life experience counts for more than mere age, but I'll warrant I've had quite a lot more life experience than you because I'm a heck of a lot older than you, have lived more life and have had more experience as a result. Jesus, the "around the block" comment was in response to your, quite frankly, patronising posts along the lines of, "well you do realise there are some very naughty men in power who use prostitutes, don't you? "

Claig, I never said she did, I was giving an example of hearsay in the context of the subject at hand.

But, for those who are advocating it's viability and suitability as a life's career, if it's not wonderful, fun, desirable, sexy, etc, why lobby in favour of it? There's a huge difference between making conditions safe for women desperate enough to turn to prostitution and advocating prostitution as a positive career choice when there are alternatives.

you are being disingenous LDN

you took issue (rather verbosely, with several quotes included) with my post that was in direct response to hers

so you are happy to comment on mine...but not the one that insulted me ?

and you still haven't

wow, flouncer's corner is a very sad place. Never knew it existed. Some good posters have left.

claig...funnily enough, it is often because of threads exactly like this one

Yes OP, Dittany is right you could go bankrupt or into an agreement with your creditors, is it an IVA. Get in touch with Citizens Advice. Preferable to selling your body for sex, hey?

"FFS, yes, life experience counts for more than mere age, but I'll warrant I've had quite a lot more life experience than you because I'm a heck of a lot older than you, have lived more life and have had more experience as a result."

Quite possibly you are right, but possibly you are wrong. You are making a judgement simply on the quantity of time you have been alive. It doesn't mean you have actually experienced more. Our experiences will most likely be completely different too, which would make us more knowledgable on different topics.

Anyfucker you and a few others have spent more time insulting other people on this thread than anyone else. From what I remember, GORGEOUSX chimed in (insultingly or not) way after the insults had begun and to point it out. If she was rude to you then of course I am not showing some wierd impartiallity and saying one person was more entitled to insult, I probably just missed her post at the time. Unless I am misunderstanding, if I have gotten something wrong here then I would be the first to apologise, I do not think too much of myself to say I am never wrong, sometimes I am. But please outline the posts you are talking about.

LDN, as previously said members of punterner DO come on here and they are open about it. Both escorts and men.

The girls come on to tell us they screw our men so watch out and the men think we are frigid. Think we hate or withold sex.

They are even heartless to come on threads where women tell stories that their husband has cheated with escorts.

It does make me laugh in a way as I have a really exciting sex life, regular and FREE! As I guess do many mumsnetters.

To the poster who has never heard of it please don't look. Seriously.

"LDN, you have pretty much judged as much as anyone. Please don't pretend to be a middle of the road, non committal, fence sitting neutral."

Scurryfunge in one of my posts earlier I said that I had made judgments, I openly admitted it. Just not massive judgements about prostitution itself. I am not claiming to be a fence sitter, I don't like fence sitters lol. But when it comes to issues aside from the subject matter, as I have said, go back through the posts and you will see I have only veered off topic when prompted by others.

The two posts I am talking about, LDN, is the abusive one to me from GORGEOUSX which you have now twice pretended to "miss"

and the one where you seem to think I have "proved" something by just quoting my own posts back at me

I don't need to highlight them because you are perfectly well aware of them...for different reasons each time

Carmen, now that I know that I will be more aware of it. Its twisted, and I feel very bad for women who have had to read comments like that on threads about husbands cheating.

Well yes, I am making a judgment based on the amount of time I've been alive. Yes, I'm afraid that does mean I have experienced more, it's just a fact of life, the longer you've been alive the more you experience, even if that's just getting out of bed in the morning and having a groundhog day. I've actually had a pretty fucking interesting life, but then, I'd have to give you chapter and verse on my life story to convince you, and that's not going to happen here. We'll just have to agree to differ.

Anyway, what Dittany said with knobs on, I'm turning in.

Anyucker please just copy and paste it so I know which one. As I said, if I have made a mistake somewhere I will acknowledge it and apologise. I am not pretending to not have seen it, possibly just do not remember it. Please just copy and paste instead of all this back and forth or outline what page its on or what it says.