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to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

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GetOrfMoiLand · 26/01/2011 12:25

DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

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Giddyup · 26/01/2011 16:09

I was bang up for it after having DD (c section). The midwife said as soon as not bleeding is fine. We waited about a week and did "stuff" before then. After DS was a different matter entirely...

NancyDrewHasaClue · 26/01/2011 16:10

maxy I don't remember there being loads TBH. Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

NancyDrewHasaClue · 26/01/2011 16:12

I have had three DC's and varying blood loss each time. Also seems to vary throughout day and dependent on what you are doing etc.

bestmamaderwelt · 26/01/2011 16:13

No think the blood was gone by day two my womb retracted very quickly and like i said back to normal after a few days. Just lucky i guess.

fatpantsandgladrags · 26/01/2011 16:17

Bloody hell I can't believe how soon after childbirth some of you have been doing the deed Shock

After DD2 it was 8 months before sex stopped being painful. DD1 was about 6 months. I can't even imagine 5 days

naughtymummy · 26/01/2011 16:19

When I had Dd I was in hospital for 4 hours and physiological 3rd stage. I had stopped bleeding by a week.

I remember going to the beach, museums and John Lewis before 10 days (when DH went back to work).
So I would say it is possible. We did it at 2 weeks with ds and 5 with dd as if anyone cares...

saffy85 · 26/01/2011 16:19

Someone's pants are on fire if you ask me. 5 days after birth and this bloke reckons he got a "good shag"? Hmm

Mind you my DP somehow got me to shag him 3 weeks after DD was born (it was that or listen to him nag me and it was over in minutes as he hadn't had any for a while Grin) I'd stopped bleeding by then though...

crje · 26/01/2011 16:21

Back in the saddle 10 days after ds1
was about a week after ds2,
no reason not too,everything was in good shape and bleeding had stopped.

Each to their own,
would have killed dh if he told anyone.

naughtymummy · 26/01/2011 16:21

I have to say that shannanigans on the postnatal ward is just plain weird.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 26/01/2011 16:23

There are blokes out there that actually pay a premium for sex with prostitutes who have just given birth. A friend works in an inner city hospital and they now know to turn a blind eye to the prostitutes coming in, giving birth, going out again for a couple of hours (leaving the baby in hospital) and then coming back later. Sad but true.

It's a sick World we live in.

bestmamaderwelt · 26/01/2011 16:24

Im not saying it didnt hurt slightly the next day but at the time thanks to a couple of glasses of wine it was as per...good.

PuppyMonkey · 26/01/2011 16:25

I'm sure someone was on MN a few weeks ago going on about BJs immediately afterwards. As in literally immediately afterwards. I may have just dreamed this, if so my apologies.

naughtymummy · 26/01/2011 16:26

OMG at HollyBooBoo

dexifehatz · 26/01/2011 16:27

Christ! I couldn't shit never mind shag after five days!!!

figcake · 26/01/2011 16:27

Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

Well, my DH has never (nor would ever) get (or want) sex during my period so I guess thats why I felt Shock . It is basically a step up from that, you are right

NancyDrewHasaClue · 26/01/2011 16:32

Each to their own figcake but sex on your peiod is hardly the last word in sexual devience Grin !

PatTheHammer · 26/01/2011 16:34

I agree with you there figcake, bloodsports are not something I would consider.

I accept that to some its perfectly normal but to us menstrual blood is not sexual.

I also acept that other people vary in which bodily fluids they find attractive/sexual before anyone starts mentioning that (but please don't its nearly tea-timeGrin!).

I think there are valid points that you can feel perfectly normal a few days later, after I had DS (very quick labour, no tear/stitches or any complications) I felt fine very shortly afterwards. But sex was very far from my mind so maybe it is how the hormones affect each person.

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ThePosieParker · 26/01/2011 16:35

I had sex two weeks after a emcs, both times, although after number four it was about three months!!

ThePosieParker · 26/01/2011 16:35

Holly....sick, sick, sick bastards.

naughtymummy · 26/01/2011 16:36

I often feel realy sexy on my period ( due to increased blood flow to the area I was once told). I did not at all feel sexy just having given bith, I would say not the same at all.

PatTheHammer · 26/01/2011 16:37

twopeople- Yes, the 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything' kind of maybe suggests that they are not 100% into it, which is a bit worrying but anyway I must stop being a prude clearlyWink

maxybrown · 26/01/2011 16:39

boak at sex on period - put a towel down Grin I don't think either of our sex drives are that high tbh!

Wow I can't remmeber how long i bled for, but bed was for sleep if possible and trying to work out how i could turn over in bed with my boobs hitting the ceiling Grin

MoonUnitAlpha · 26/01/2011 16:43

God, I wouldn't want to risk infection etc so soon after birth. I couldn't respect a man who was willing to put his partner's health at risk either.

frgr · 26/01/2011 16:44

Pat, re: 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything'

I was always under the strange notion that the point of sex was that all parties gain pleasure from it. If a woman's in pain or feeling nothing from it, surely that would be the biggest turn off in the world? What sort of man would want to continue in that scenario - when the woman clearly isn't enjoying it too?

I find this idea utterly bizarre and repulsive.

And it concerns me that the women involved are in unhealthy relationships generally then - i.e. feeling forced to please your partner, against medical advice, etc.

(The above doesn't apply to the posters here who were clearly up for it though - as mad as you seem, that's an entirely different thing:))