to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

[GetOrfMoiLand]

DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

[Giddyup]

I was bang up for it after having DD (c section). The midwife said as soon as not bleeding is fine. We waited about a week and did "stuff" before then. After DS was a different matter entirely...

[NancyDrewHasaClue]

maxy I don't remember there being loads TBH. Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

[NancyDrewHasaClue]

I have had three DC's and varying blood loss each time. Also seems to vary throughout day and dependent on what you are doing etc.

[bestmamaderwelt]

No think the blood was gone by day two my womb retracted very quickly and like i said back to normal after a few days. Just lucky i guess.

[fatpantsandgladrags]

Bloody hell I can't believe how soon after childbirth some of you have been doing the deed

After DD2 it was 8 months before sex stopped being painful. DD1 was about 6 months. I can't even imagine 5 days

[naughtymummy]

When I had Dd I was in hospital for 4 hours and physiological 3rd stage. I had stopped bleeding by a week.

I remember going to the beach, museums and John Lewis before 10 days (when DH went back to work).
So I would say it is possible. We did it at 2 weeks with ds and 5 with dd as if anyone cares...

[saffy85]

Someone's pants are on fire if you ask me. 5 days after birth and this bloke reckons he got a "good shag"?

Mind you my DP somehow got me to shag him 3 weeks after DD was born (it was that or listen to him nag me and it was over in minutes as he hadn't had any for a while ) I'd stopped bleeding by then though...

[crje]

Back in the saddle 10 days after ds1
was about a week after ds2,
no reason not too,everything was in good shape and bleeding had stopped.

Each to their own,
would have killed dh if he told anyone.

[naughtymummy]

I have to say that shannanigans on the postnatal ward is just plain weird.

[HollyBollyBooBoo]

There are blokes out there that actually pay a premium for sex with prostitutes who have just given birth. A friend works in an inner city hospital and they now know to turn a blind eye to the prostitutes coming in, giving birth, going out again for a couple of hours (leaving the baby in hospital) and then coming back later. Sad but true.

It's a sick World we live in.

[bestmamaderwelt]

Im not saying it didnt hurt slightly the next day but at the time thanks to a couple of glasses of wine it was as per...good.

[PuppyMonkey]

I'm sure someone was on MN a few weeks ago going on about BJs immediately afterwards. As in literally immediately afterwards. I may have just dreamed this, if so my apologies.

[naughtymummy]

OMG at HollyBooBoo

[dexifehatz]

Christ! I couldn't shit never mind shag after five days!!!

[figcake]

Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

Well, my DH has never (nor would ever) get (or want) sex during my period so I guess thats why I felt . It is basically a step up from that, you are right

[NancyDrewHasaClue]

Each to their own figcake but sex on your peiod is hardly the last word in sexual devience !

[PatTheHammer]

I agree with you there figcake, bloodsports are not something I would consider.

I accept that to some its perfectly normal but to us menstrual blood is not sexual.

I also acept that other people vary in which bodily fluids they find attractive/sexual before anyone starts mentioning that (but please don't its nearly tea-time!).

I think there are valid points that you can feel perfectly normal a few days later, after I had DS (very quick labour, no tear/stitches or any complications) I felt fine very shortly afterwards. But sex was very far from my mind so maybe it is how the hormones affect each person.

[ThePosieParker]

I had sex two weeks after a emcs, both times, although after number four it was about three months!!

[ThePosieParker]

Holly....sick, sick, sick bastards.

[naughtymummy]

I often feel realy sexy on my period ( due to increased blood flow to the area I was once told). I did not at all feel sexy just having given bith, I would say not the same at all.

[PatTheHammer]

twopeople- Yes, the 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything' kind of maybe suggests that they are not 100% into it, which is a bit worrying but anyway I must stop being a prude clearly

[maxybrown]

boak at sex on period - put a towel down I don't think either of our sex drives are that high tbh!

Wow I can't remmeber how long i bled for, but bed was for sleep if possible and trying to work out how i could turn over in bed with my boobs hitting the ceiling

[MoonUnitAlpha]

God, I wouldn't want to risk infection etc so soon after birth. I couldn't respect a man who was willing to put his partner's health at risk either.

[frgr]

Pat, re: 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything'

I was always under the strange notion that the point of sex was that all parties gain pleasure from it. If a woman's in pain or feeling nothing from it, surely that would be the biggest turn off in the world? What sort of man would want to continue in that scenario - when the woman clearly isn't enjoying it too?

I find this idea utterly bizarre and repulsive.

And it concerns me that the women involved are in unhealthy relationships generally then - i.e. feeling forced to please your partner, against medical advice, etc.

(The above doesn't apply to the posters here who were clearly up for it though - as mad as you seem, that's an entirely different thing:))