to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

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DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

I was bang up for it after having DD (c section). The midwife said as soon as not bleeding is fine. We waited about a week and did "stuff" before then. After DS was a different matter entirely...

maxy I don't remember there being loads TBH. Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

I have had three DC's and varying blood loss each time. Also seems to vary throughout day and dependent on what you are doing etc.

No think the blood was gone by day two my womb retracted very quickly and like i said back to normal after a few days. Just lucky i guess.

Bloody hell I can't believe how soon after childbirth some of you have been doing the deed

After DD2 it was 8 months before sex stopped being painful. DD1 was about 6 months. I can't even imagine 5 days

When I had Dd I was in hospital for 4 hours and physiological 3rd stage. I had stopped bleeding by a week.

I remember going to the beach, museums and John Lewis before 10 days (when DH went back to work).
So I would say it is possible. We did it at 2 weeks with ds and 5 with dd as if anyone cares...

Someone's pants are on fire if you ask me. 5 days after birth and this bloke reckons he got a "good shag"?

Mind you my DP somehow got me to shag him 3 weeks after DD was born (it was that or listen to him nag me and it was over in minutes as he hadn't had any for a while ) I'd stopped bleeding by then though...

Back in the saddle 10 days after ds1
was about a week after ds2,
no reason not too,everything was in good shape and bleeding had stopped.

Each to their own,
would have killed dh if he told anyone.

I have to say that shannanigans on the postnatal ward is just plain weird.

There are blokes out there that actually pay a premium for sex with prostitutes who have just given birth. A friend works in an inner city hospital and they now know to turn a blind eye to the prostitutes coming in, giving birth, going out again for a couple of hours (leaving the baby in hospital) and then coming back later. Sad but true.

It's a sick World we live in.

Im not saying it didnt hurt slightly the next day but at the time thanks to a couple of glasses of wine it was as per...good.

I'm sure someone was on MN a few weeks ago going on about BJs immediately afterwards. As in literally immediately afterwards. I may have just dreamed this, if so my apologies.

OMG at HollyBooBoo

Christ! I couldn't shit never mind shag after five days!!!

Much like sex on your period - put a towel down and get to the bathroom straight after!

Well, my DH has never (nor would ever) get (or want) sex during my period so I guess thats why I felt . It is basically a step up from that, you are right

Each to their own figcake but sex on your peiod is hardly the last word in sexual devience !

I agree with you there figcake, bloodsports are not something I would consider.

I accept that to some its perfectly normal but to us menstrual blood is not sexual.

I also acept that other people vary in which bodily fluids they find attractive/sexual before anyone starts mentioning that (but please don't its nearly tea-time!).

I think there are valid points that you can feel perfectly normal a few days later, after I had DS (very quick labour, no tear/stitches or any complications) I felt fine very shortly afterwards. But sex was very far from my mind so maybe it is how the hormones affect each person.

I had sex two weeks after a emcs, both times, although after number four it was about three months!!

Holly....sick, sick, sick bastards.

I often feel realy sexy on my period ( due to increased blood flow to the area I was once told). I did not at all feel sexy just having given bith, I would say not the same at all.

twopeople- Yes, the 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything' kind of maybe suggests that they are not 100% into it, which is a bit worrying but anyway I must stop being a prude clearly

boak at sex on period - put a towel down I don't think either of our sex drives are that high tbh!

Wow I can't remmeber how long i bled for, but bed was for sleep if possible and trying to work out how i could turn over in bed with my boobs hitting the ceiling

God, I wouldn't want to risk infection etc so soon after birth. I couldn't respect a man who was willing to put his partner's health at risk either.

Pat, re: 'in pain' or 'not feeling anything'

I was always under the strange notion that the point of sex was that all parties gain pleasure from it. If a woman's in pain or feeling nothing from it, surely that would be the biggest turn off in the world? What sort of man would want to continue in that scenario - when the woman clearly isn't enjoying it too?

I find this idea utterly bizarre and repulsive.

And it concerns me that the women involved are in unhealthy relationships generally then - i.e. feeling forced to please your partner, against medical advice, etc.

(The above doesn't apply to the posters here who were clearly up for it though - as mad as you seem, that's an entirely different thing:))