to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

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DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

Yes, perhaps DP misheard

'I got my wife a new bag'

'I am going out for a fag'

'My car is broken I am going to get a new jag'

'that's not a mountain that's a crag'

Christ air embolism sounds awful, I have no idea what it entails but it doesn't sound to clever.

"Me and the wife had a brag" (about the baby)? (clutching at straws)

"it's not my baby, she's a slag"?

My god that's odd - there would have been blood everywhere. I'd fear for my linen... hell, I'd fear for the mattress.

He has to be lying... surely? Is it his first?

Or perhaps he meant the dance known as shag?? Are they into dancing?

There was a poster on MN recently who felt the need to share the fact she had given her OH a BJ (in hospital) 45 mins after giving birth. She said she felt so amazingly empowered by giving birth that it was an appropriate response.

Jeez, 5 days! I have a mate who admitted they had done after 9 days (very straightforward birth) and I thought that was grim

When I mentioned Lochia to her she replied 'Oh, there was hardly any......' all breezily like

Agree that this man sounds like a knobber and if putting out is the benchmark for what he uses to judge his wife's wellbeing then I feel sorry for her.

yanbu

I've had 3 c-sections but was a leaking/bleeding mess at 5 days post birth.

And what an odd thing to say to someone too.

Well maybe, just maybe she really wanted to and so did she, and so they did?

if so, lucky them!

and so what?

I thought a request from DP at 5 months was rather optimistic. What a strange conversation to have.

I really hope he used something otherwise she'll be going through iut all again in 9 months

I dis it 2 weeks after having DS, I wanted to and had was actually gagging fir it

5 days is a bit soon though!

I suspect he's bullshitting.

I had sex ten days afterwards, but I didn't know then it was dangerous. Five days is pushing it though. I reckon he is probably lying too.

I stopped bleeding after 6/7 days, so there was no mess!

pip- At least with a BJ there is nothing going near your poor old sore and battered nethers!

Blokes DO talk about this to a certain extent but its not usually the first thing that comes to mind straight after a baby. One of DH's friends asked him how long we had waited because his DS was 4 months old and he was unsure how long it would be before she got her mojo back. As it turned out it was 10 months for them, everyone varies I guess!

I was at a party once and my friend said ' Let me introduce you to xxxx' then hissed through clenched teeth ' she's the one I told you about, who had sex IN THE HOSPITAL after having her ds!!!!!!!!!!! '

Apparently she felt 'really up for it, and had never fancied her dh more'

I didn't know about it being dangerous - not that there was any danger as far as I was concerned, I wasn't up for anything for AGES and that was after a c section!

What a crap way to talk about your wife, anyway.

I agree with whoever said - don't ask a man whether or not they had sex, ask her.

Or, your DP misheard.

Right, that's enough of that.

Also, a BJ after giving birth as feeling empowered?!?!?!?!?!
Eh?