to think that having sex 5 days after childbirth is plain bloody strange?

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DP's friend's wife has just had a baby last Thursday. All fine and dandy, but she had a long birth (24 hours or so).

DP saw his mate yesterday, asked how the baby was etc, said 'yep she's fine and so is X (his wife), we had a good shag as well last night, so all back to normal'

DP thought 'wtf' and so did I.

I'm surprised that you're all so surprised!

Complete YEUCH personally, but I have a midwife friend who sent one lady home....only for Ms X to return the next day to have her stitches re-done because "Johnny was at me". Formation hurl anyone!?

Ginja that is hideous. Poor bloody woman. I would like to ram a cucumber up johnny's arse.

It is dangerous. There is a risk of air embolism as had already been said, plus you also have an internal open wound where your placenta used to be. That's true whether you've had a vaginal or section delivery and you don't want to be introducing "foreign matter" in there unless you have to. Which, in the case of spunk, you really DON'T have to.

There's a reason they say to wait.

Not my thing at all tbh, but ...

I do remember a lady from my post natal group admitting to me she had to ask for the morning after pill 7 days after giving birth to her first.

Her husband was the local undertaker which made me feel a bit queasy for some reason.

Blowjob 45 minutes after birth thread. Ergh.

GOML - You're much too nice. I'd use a marrow.

Erm... coughs...back entry perhaps?

It is odd that this was the most exciting thing he had to say after the birth of his child.

Unless your dh asked

Yuck! Even if they did you'd like to think he'd have a bit more respect for his wife than to tell people about it! I think he's definately trying to prove something, if not why mention it?

Ach maybe he was being totally sarcastic!

Facquin' hell!

No
no
and no.

He he he, this thread has made me laugh.

Especially: 'Perhaps they ate a Shag and it was delicious? Or smoked some lovely shag tobacco?'

I was told that you have to wait 2 weeks for it to be safe to have sex. And after 3 weeks, you're at risk of conceiving again.

Her husband was the local undertaker which made me feel a bit queasy for some reason.

thats just amused me no end, for no real reason :o

Euuuuuuch.

She can't possibly have wanted to - not hormonally possible not to mention the bleeding. Personally, I can't stand these male-pleasing types

Surely health wise you wait six weeks? Is she mad?

At least one poster has said that she felt the desire for sex due to a hormonal high. I agree that it's not the brightest idea in medical terms and that in some cases it's probably an indicatior of an abusive relationship, but people do have different reactions to different things - look at how pregnancy makes some women rampant with lust and others go right off the whole idea.

yes- it could be a hormonal blip I suppose; a very rare one

I'm suprised people are so suprised TBH.

And I can't really get too outraged about a man telling his mate he had sex in somewhat unusual circumstances, since I'm sure there are an awful lot of woman who discuss the details of their sex lives with their close friends.

After my first baby I certainly remember discussing whether or not I had had sex post natally. It seemed a really big deal.

After one of my DC's I was up for it within days. I was extremely emotional and hormonal and I felt an absolute desperate need to be physically intimate with my DH.

I am sitting here with my 6 day old baby.
I am wearing pj's. With the buttons undone and a small child attached to my boob.
My brain seems to have shrunk to the point where Wife Swap and This Morning are entertaining.
I have on ultra flattering surgical stockings.
If DH suggested a quick shag right now I would laugh hysterically.

He must be lying.

yanbu having sex while still bleeding is gross.
im more shocked at these tales of people trying to have sex on the postnatal ward though i mean omg wtf why on earth would you?! surely they can not be that desperate for it immediately after giving birth that they cant even control themselves to be in a private place?! post natal wards tend to be quite horrible and packed with people its surely the last place that having sex would ever come to your mind! so weird

When being discharged after DS (3), the MW asked me what form of contraceptive I would be using. I told her, "A big stick".

Not sure when we did have sex after DS, I know we must have at some point as I am 21 weeks pregnant...

I did i think maybe 5 days after. I had my son spet 2 hours in hospital, took him out for lunch the next day. I had no tears or bleeding and felt the same as i did before so couldnt see teh porblem. And just to clrify, by sex i mean full on penetrative sex.

wow - what about all the blood though nancy? I had very straight forward birth, no stitches but blimey I'm not sure I could remember my own name at the time - let alone rememeber how to fornicate I have always had relatively light periods so I was rather shocked at what I thought at the time must be my whole blood supply I was losing - no one told me anything about that, or the clots the size of a small country (ok so i exaggerate a little)

No bleeding? I had no tears either but well see the TMI post above for blood loss - so, (sorry being thick here) do some people not have any blood loss then?