...to want to never, ever see my step-daughter again as long as I live?

[IrisMurdoch]

The worst thing is...my dp says he doesn't want kids with me because it would be 'too complicated' eg I've had my two kids so I'm OK and my daughter has also told me not to have any more kids! So instead of having a family of my own, I have to put up with his awful children for the rest of time. Anyone been in a similar plight and found a way through? Thanks so much, Iris. Sorry that I sound like a child-hating cow.

Also from the OP "Sorry that I sound like a child-hating cow"

I think that might be as simple as the fact that she is! And that in itself is no crime, providing you dont actually have any!

or do as my dp s ex did and give the kids up to be with her new partner as he did not like her kids

Life is to short for all this awkwardness it really isn't right for you.

OP please dont take this the wrong way, but do you have any special needs yourself? Your reaction, or rather non-reaction to emotionseems a bit odd to read. Perhaps ts just the way Im reading it, but you seem a little child like and as though you dont understand that hating a child you have know and been in a semi caring role with for three years is, well, strange and unfeeling. You dont appear to be able to emphasise, with the little girl or any of the posters trying to explain the feeling normally behind such a situation...

Woooooowooooo zombie thread (rubbish spooky sound effect sorry). Hallowe'en was yesterday, no?

Sorry, just seen references to another thread, obviously more behind this i spose.

Why has an eight month old thread suddenly resurfaced?

Doh!

Rather old thread

I wonder how this all panned out. For those of you naive enough not to realise- step children especially step daughters to step mums can be cruel.
That was my experience. I didn’t know what to do and it usually passed under my husbands radar.
Over the years they’ve gradually accepted my existence and been quite nice but I have come to think that it was probably easier for them to treat me badly than face the hard truth of their anger towards them mother and father whom they loved of course.
I’m not sure how long it will take to recover. It’s now 20 years.