AIBU to despise the term "manshape" with a vengeance

[figcake]

.. and close down all threads where it appears (it appears to be catching on).. bring back "hubby" pleeeeeeese

Well said figcake. Absolutely.

but the point is, it is not important. Terms of endearment are personal, you obviously think what DH sometimes calls me (and that was a repeatable one) as awful (McCririck?) but it is none of your business what I call my partner and what he calls me
That's why, irrelevant of how many people use the term, you all need to get a grip and stfu.

imo.

I never lay claim to have invented the word 'manshape', i just use the word, is all.

I understand it wasn't a personal attack, Figleaves - no issue there, it's just that there have been at least six threads of a similar ilk as long as i've been here - and no doubt there will be more

Awful.... have heard 'himself' used too. I also hate that. as in "HImself won't move off the sofa". I'll just check with himself.

[sickface]

ilythia, nobody is saying it's anybody's business what somebody else calls their partner. No it isn't (unless they're being insulting and cruel and the partner doesn't like it) but you can't be the language/thought police. We're human, we have likes and dislikes, language by its very nature is designed to make you feel. We read poetry and listen to lyrics and read books because language elicits a response in us. And when so many people have the same response to a word, it's clear that it has the potential to cause that reaction. It's not personal or isolated. Dee herself acknowledges the number of times it comes up. It's not necessary to tell people to stfu for having an honest reaction to something.

Deemented I just hate the term, had no idea you used it. Its like people using the term 'my bird' 'my chick' 'my bitch' ughghgh. Where on earth did the term manshape come from, I have heard it elsewhere. I can imagine a disembodied shape of a man wandering the streets

I was just about to type what Freudian Slippers said.

If we weren't allowed to comment on anything that wasn't our business, this place would be deserted.

That's fine Dee - I have not seen any of the other threads you mentioned.

I just thought that one of the positive points about writing a post on MN was the fact that we did not have to resort to parallel vocabulary beyond the generally accepted small list of abbreviations, acronyms, MN funnies etc.

Out of interest, are you planning on using 'it' indefinitely or will he eventually become DH, DP or OH? Not being rude, don't need to answer if you don't like the question.

I will tell you if it ever makes it onto countdown

I don't like the term, find it a bit creepy, don't know why, but hey each to their own.

Well, we got engaged on Christmas day
but even when we do wed i can't see me calling him anything else, tbh...

Thanks for your PM Hecate.

Dee - of course I am not averse to you (alone) using it for as long as you feel it is necessary.

However, I do wish that it was kept as an exception to the rule and others would not jump on the bandwagon and start using it as well.

Aggressive comments such as shut the fuck up/ engage your brain show lack of judgement and are much more annoying than the OP - there are a huge number of threads on here and it is naive to assume that everyone would know the back history of every thread.

I guess it's up to other people to choose what they want to call their partners/oh/dh/manshape/hubby - it's nowt to do with me, and i couldn't give a fiddlers fart, tbh.

As long as they are happy with it that's fine by me.

YANBU, you nosy old busybody. You don't like you piss off. And take the revolting "hubby" with you.

Dee....I don't care whether you really invented, in my eyes you did. No discussion, it was you.

Oh waah, words are upsetting me. Post about stuff all you like but don't overreact by saying that you 'despise a word with a vengeance.
Drama queens
Have we turned into netmums? DO I need to start asterisking out letters when I swear or calling people itches?

When I first saw deemented using manshape I had no idea of her story. To me it was obviously a term of endearment and I wished I had been clever enough to think of it .

ilythia, it's hyperbole. It's a quirk of language, one of the same quirks that make people have a visceral, gut reaction to a word.

Manshape, btw is a novel, published early 80s iirc. Is also a type of men's slimming vest, like spanx. It's used outside of MN quite a bit!

that is my point though. it is a quirk of language, so why get upset about it.

I mean, it pisses me off when people use words in the wrong place but I don't get all hysterical over it, nor to I ^profess to be despairing and overdramatic about it to gain attention.

Nobody's actually hysterical. The hyperbolic language merely expresses a point. I'm sure nobody's breathing into a paper bag or wringing their hands at an altar.

I thought that people might dislike it as it seems to objectify the man. When men use words that objectify women we get quite upset, and rightly so. My first reaction to the thread title was to assume that people found it offensive.

I personally don't like this word as it seems so devoid of any love or endearment, so I will choose not to use it. If it means something different to someone else then of course they should be free to use it. Surely if you don't like a word then you just shouldn't use it yourself? It isn't up to us to police other people's language.

BHG - As it happens, it's the complete opposite. It is (to me, anyway) full of love and endearment. I idolise manshape, love the bloody bones of him.

Oh feck off. Just cause you ain't getting it tonight

Dee that is very sweet!

I don't think the OP meant it as a personal attack. I too had heard 'manshape' used on MN increasingly and in RL, usually to describe a casual sex buddy. I'm sorry that this may have come across as an attack on you, I completely understand now why you use it.

Congratulations on the engagement!

Ugh. don't encourage her. She'll be off soon enough to 'play cards' with Manshape (although I am sure that is a euphemism...)