AIBU to despise the term "manshape" with a vengeance

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.. and close down all threads where it appears (it appears to be catching on).. bring back "hubby" pleeeeeeese

i think that when I first came across it ( not even on here i don't think) it just seemed to imply that this person was simply "manshape"

ie, the appearance of a man, but not much else. which isn't that nice

now clearly, there is someone on here who uses it and I have no idea of the backstory, so this isn't aimed at her at all, just my feelings on it

am curious why she has good reasons to use this very specific term though! will have to search archives for manshape lol

Ok I'm a nosy bugger- what is the reason for using it please?

I've not seen the term used, so I don't really have an opinion anyway lol

I have never seen or heard it used other than by one person on here and she has explained why.

I am nit bothered . If I was going to start objecting to terms used on here I would have retard, baby dancing and various others way ahead on my shit list

2shoes - no need for that. I posted before I saw your second post.

Dee uses it, she has her reasons.

Sadly, you can't help the fact that people don't know the reasons (and others do use it too sometimes, I heard it in rl t'other day) and don't like it. This thread has been done before and it's clear that a lot of people don't like it.

But it is tolerated because of the aforementioned reasons.

2shoes, I think it's the reductive nature of it you don't like. Reducing a whole person down to a shape.

Whenever I see "manshape" I think that it's deemented who has posted. That's fine. I don't particularly think of it as an insult or anything.

What's the problem?

oh god pag, babydancing. It just sounds lke something from Ally McBeal!

well how would you feel? ...womanshape?..rectangle with boobs?..objectification at it's worst imo..yes it can be fun...but still scary

Ok no one had asked when I started typing...

Could someone tell me the reason, please?

I've heard it more in RL than on here - it's not that unusual is it?

'hubby', OTOH, is vile. I imagine middle-aged couples who'd like to swing but don't quite dare, refer to their 'hubbies'.

pag, what on earth is 'baby dancing'?

yeah hubby is right up there with "preggers" and "bub"

baby dancing is SEX SEX SEX SEX SEXY SEX

Maybe I am quite naive - I just thought "manshape" was a term of endearment Maybe not, but I always like to see the best in people....

I dont like it, when I see it written down it makes me go eek. I understand the person who uses it the most has their reason for using it... I just dont get it

We don't have babydancing on here anymore. It's SWI now which is hardly better.

bub is awful, but so is 'baby' with no article ie 'How's baby?' Bleurgh.

at SEXY SEX, as opposed to UNSEXY SEX

DH sometimes calls me booblady. It's called a term of endearment, other people don't need to approve.

xpost with somuch!

POAS grims me out as well, it's just so...graphic!

hubby makes me want to vomit, so does babydance. I dont babydance, I have sex, I am an adult and refuse to use twee phrases, like that and auntie flow. I never had an auntie that ruined my knickers and day.

and yes OP, I think you are damned unreasonable. Ive only ever seen dee use it, this looks to me like sniping.

ilythia - is your DH John Mccririck by any chance?

what does babydance mean? I have never got that

Don't know about Dee so no, not sniping - I have definitely seen others using it as I said.

I'm suitably revolted now.

It's a word! Get a grip!