AIBU to despise the term "manshape" with a vengeance

[figcake]

.. and close down all threads where it appears (it appears to be catching on).. bring back "hubby" pleeeeeeese

I had never heard it until it was mentioned here. I can take it or leave it.

It is interesting to read the new words section of a modern dictionary "Gabby"

Dee has seen this thread several times before. And will see it again in the future. Because people don't like it for all the reasons detailed here and they won't know the backstory. She would stick two fingers up at it and continue to use the term. And good on her.

Did Dee get married to 'manshape' then? I know he always used to be 'dp' and then changed one day to 'manshape'.

Yes, it's horrible.

It makes me think of that episode of Sapphire & Steel with the faceless man.

Knowing the backstory doesn't really make any difference to me thinking it's a horrible term, really.

I hate that phrase its so aghhhg and unintelligent, you wouldent way womanshape would you

Quite. I can only imagine the furore if a male poster was talking about his "Womanshape".

Oh, god, I despise it too. It makes me shudder whenever I read it.

Ok, I have no problem with the term manshape, but on the 'First Orgasm' thread last night Deemented said that her first was with the Manshape when she was 16 and the guys before had been twats. But someone said earlier that Manshape was the term she used for her new partner after her husband had died? Im confused!

Sams

Black humour I suppose. wait for the split. "Gabby"

samstown, she's known 'manshape' for many years iirc. Even before her dh I think.

YANBU - really awful term

AIBU to wish we could be a little more original with our threads on Mumsnet - see this from a few days ago.

It is so very rude to publicly single out a poster like this and criticise her way of "speaking".

I see manshape as, literally "shape of a man" and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

100% less offensive to me than hubby, hub, bub, bubsy, squeeze, boyf, imindoors, erindoors, thewife etc etc etc etc.

I prefer hubby to dh. Who the hell calls their husband "dear husband"?

Aah but bibbity, you object to terms too. It's all subjective isn't it.

Because there will always be people who don't know that only one poster uses it (because other posters use it and people in rl too, they don't know it's mainly one poster) and they won't know the reasons.

I sort of understand dee's reasons (doesn't matter whether I do or don't though, she can say what the heck she likes) but in isolation, I can't bear the term.

Sadly this thread will come up again and again.

My father used to call my mother
"the mother figure"

deemented is the only poster allowed to use manshape.

everyone else must use DP/OH if not married (sorry, I allow OH because when DH wasn't DH, I couldn't bring myself to say DP because it means partner and he's not my partner cos we're neither in business nor gay)
DF if engaged
DH if married.

BF would be okay but it is also used for beft friend, so it's confusing.

AF sounds better than auntie flo, it sounds more like AnyFucker, so it makes me feel like i'm swearing when I use it (although the viroids on ttc thread use ERTD (evil red tide of doom) which is much more accurate)

counts - don't use hubby, it sounds too NMish, and just makes me want to vomit. hubby is twee and sickeningly sweet. that's not MN style.

dh always sounds like dickhead to me

nickelbaby thanks for the heads up lol

Not that it matters in the utter least, but when I read Deemented's posts, I think Manshape is a lovely name. I'm not quite sure why; perhaps because I see it as a personal nickname for him that yet keeps him anonymous?

Anyway, if I was going to ban terms from MN, it certainly wouldn't be manshape...

nickelbaby, I got really confused for a few minutes once reading a starting post that used "BF" liberally. Wasn't sure whether it was best friend, boy friend or breastfeeding at first.

oh, yes, i didn't remember that - I've had a BF and a BF but I've never BFed.

I wasn't going to get involved in this again. Changed my mind though, to lend support to Dee or anyone else for that matter being able to call their partners anything they damn well like. FWIW I quite like Manshape, and can't stand Hubby or DH. Think I might start using Him or He with a capital H.