Would you let you DC go to tea at a friends house who was on the child protection register?

[Fruitina]

I am really struggling over this.

DS is 9 and has a friend of the same age. The friend is often round at our house playing with DS. He is a lovely boy and I have no problem with the friendship at all.

The friend has now invited DS to go to his house for tea on Thursday and DS really wants to go.

The problem I have is that the friend is on the Child protection register and there is a lot of SS involvement due to issues of neglect.

So do I let DS go? I am really worried about it but don't want to hurt the friends feelings because he really a lovely child.

You can't use confidential data which you have come across professionally to get out of a playdate.

Oh.

How utterly mad that you are not able to be 'honest' when you have done nothing wrong.

OP, I don't want to get you into trouble and TBH I would still instigate a conversation with the Mum about it - even if you have to take a different tack "do you mind if I drop him off, he is funny at first time visits" or something? Or even "I am completely paranoid and always drop him to a house the first time" - you could invent a reason why this is the case if you felt you had to?

I just think it would be such a shame to deprive the boy of a chance at friendship over someothing that may not even be relevant to how the two children will spend time together.

*Tom - but I LOVE Tom Hardy. Not fair.

Coldtits that's just genius, perfect!

Altinkum I was referring to post from slightlyjaded, not the fact that op has used info on the postas that is what you where making reference to. ff second time on this thread I have been called on responding to someon elses post . tsk read the posts ffs

is the social worker comment aimed at me? and if so not sure why?

"Figcake - there are no words sufficient to describe what an utter muppet I think you are.
Snobbish, superior, ridiculous, ill informed, paranoid, smug and bad mannered are a few to start with though...."

You sound lovely. Shame we can't all be like you. What exactly was your contribution to the discussion?

Deepheat - good to hear from someone who knows what they are talking about.

McHobbes - I have reported your post as it is an explicit personal attack and nothing else

don't be such an arse, figcake

Must appologise altinkum, think I may have just taken you last post in the wrong way. I initialy thought you where being pedantic. sorry have just read back you probably where not.

it is very highly charged thread. [ sculks off, winds neck in having a word not to gt so suckked in to the feeling of a thread in future]

no worries

I don't care how you got the info but if I am being honest I would not let my child go there. You don't know the mum and you know there are serious issues within the household.

I wouldn't send my child into the care of someone else that I didn't feel confident with.

However, its not this childs fault and as you don't see the mum much then I would just continue to invite him back to yours.

Have you?

Yet, I wasn't the person who put a well intentioned and considerate gift to my child straight in the bin because I disapproved of the gift giver's morals and the chocolate came from Poundland. Was I?

Report away. If it makes you feel better about your astounding wastefulness and snobbery then it'll be worth it. Or something.

Add message | Report | Message poster Bucharest Wed 19-Jan-11 08:30:07
No, in all honesty, I probably wouldn't let my child go. (I wouldn't let my child go and play anywhere when it was the other child, rather than the parent doing the inviting, but that's not what this thread is about, is it?)

But OP, neither would I have started an it's-all-about-Me! thread. I think this thread was started so you could bask in your superiority and smugness, thinly veiled as wanting-to-help-the-child. Which sticks in my craw.

I totally agree with that Bucharest.

Poundland food is mainly branded stuff anyway...... What's wrong with it op???

it ONLY costs a pound!

i think thats the OPs problem anyway !

i have to say i wholeheatedly agree with what mchobbes said.

No way. If I had the faintest idea that my childs friends parents were heavy drug users, then my answer is No. By all means keep having the boy over to yours but personally I would never put my child in that environment

Yes - me too. It's childish to go running to mummy because someone makes an assessment of you that you don't like.

Odd to quote directly something that you find offensive, then ask for the original post to be deleted but not yours.

Goodness me figcake, snobbery exudes from your original post. Any psychologist worth his salt could read between those lines. Were the chocolates open?? I assume not as you stated they were from Poundland which must have meant wrapping of some kind. So did you throw a closed packet of chocolate in the bin?? Genuinely would like to know.

Regarding the confidential information about the child being on the plan, does everybody who works in a school have access to it?

If not, how come OP has seen it?

Badbagal only if it is cinsiderd neccesaryto enable them to carry out thier duties, so no.

unfortunatly op seems to have done one, for various reasons I suspect.