My DS (15) is responsible for his own room. If he wants it to look like a tip (as it usually does) then that's his choice, as long as he keeps the door closed. He isn't allowed to eat upstairs, so we don't have to deal with unidentified fungi growing on discarded plates up there. He occasionally blasts through the place, tidying, dusting and vacuuming, so we know he has the skills. He's even been known to clean the bathroom!
If I'm doing some washing, I'll happily throw in anything that's in the laundry basket. If DS doesn't put his clothes in there, then that's his problem. If all his school shirts are dirty and lying on his bedroom floor, then he'll just have to wear one of them until he's washed the rest. That doesn't happen so often now. 
He is responsible for ironing his own shirts and tee-shirts. In winter, that means he doesn't bother. He's decided that if things are put on hangers straight from the washing machine, they are fine to wear as is.
He also cooks one family meal each week and is building up a nice range of basic techniques and recipes.
The hardest part for me was having to step back and accept that, while I wanted him to do stuff, he wouldn't always do it my way. I DO iron shirts and tees, but he sees no harm in the odd wrinkle. Guess what? Nor do I now.