to turf out DH's family?

[squarebobspongepants]

I had DD three weeks ago and DH's family are staying with us (we live abroad so they've come to see our baby and turned it into a two week holiday, grr.) This morning BIL said to me "Can you find a way to keep that baby quiet at night? It woke me up and I found it impossible to drift off again." Arsehole.

Then MIL said "Haha, you better throw those jeans out now 'cause you're never going to get your pre-baby body back." Even bigger arsehole.

And I've had MIL and SIL hanging over my shoulder 24/7 telling me I'm doing everything wrong.

After having a good cry in the bathroom I told DH that they would have to go and stay in a nearby hotel as I just can't cope with them. We have not had any time to be alone with DD because MIL is always grabbing her off me "to give her a cuddle" and then won't give her back when I ask/beg/plead. Anyway, DH says we can't possibly chuck 'em out and that I'll just have to "get over it and fast."
I just feel so sad/lonely and I really don't want to feel like that considering I have a beautiful, healthy baby.

Sorry, haha, rant over.

Thinking of you squarebob.

Ditto

Just a thought, squarebob, but if you do decide to go back to the UK with DD (agree with those who've said check with a lawyer first), then it may be quicker for her to get a Brazilian passport than a UK one, assuming she was born there.

She should then be allowed into the UK with you (double check with UK embassy). I did this with my DS - still haven't got around to getting him a UK passport but we go to UK every year. No-one's batted an eyelid.

Wondering how you are squarebob. Hope you're ok.

OMG, I've only just read this thread. What a horrible bunch of inlaws! i'll never give off about mine again.

I hope things are OK, awaiting your next post....

just checking in to see how spsb is? Any news? X

Bump. Any news?

Thinking of you Squarebob. Hope you're ok???

Hope you're doing ok. Thinking of you x

Oh my dad Spongebob...he sounds horrendous. Dont let him spoil this magical time with your DD xxx

Bumping this and hoping Squarebob lets us know how she is.
Hoping her spoilt immature DH has seen sense or her Mum has made it over.

bumping - hope your ok

Hoping that you and your baby are ok.

AFAIK brazilian mums love to control their sons, so I guess you are up agains the whole fanily if your dh thought they are more important than you

I hope it all goes well for you

Please check in and let us know how it's going. Hope you and DD are okay.

if OP's husband comes from a culture where wives are subservient, mothers are matriachal and family is always consulted over every matter, perhaps its not surprising that he has done a runner, it will be outside of his experience on how to deal with it

just another view

Hope that all is well and that your mum has arrived to help or your DH has seen the light.

Bumping this thread again. Hope all is OK, OP.

Another bump to see if all is well.

I feel so sorry for you. What awful people to spoil what should be such a lovely time.

Is your DH from Brazil? My DP is Brazilian and he can be very stubborn and sulk for ages. Its not nice.

I hope you and your baby are ok and your DH realises how childish he is being so you can sort things out.

Hoping 'no news is good news' sponge & you're all doing ok x

If the ILs came from overseas to visit SquareBob and her H in Brazil, then it's unlikely that they are Brazilian. Especially as they were using the stay as some kind of holiday. Although SquareBob doesn't say, I would assume that her H and ILs are British.

SQuareBob - hope that your Mum has arrived and that things are ok for you.

Bump Squarebob, hope you're ok and DM is with you now.

Hope things are going better with you, and that your Mum has arrived.

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any news, Squarebob?