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"but that doesnt stop you sorting me out does it?"

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EhFattyBumBum · 01/01/2011 14:21

In brief, mine and DPs sex life isnt the best. We have a nearly 2 y/o and having a tough time with his sleeping habits. We both also work f/t and are both often too tired to do anything, but when we do its great. No real complaints so far.

However, I have had thrush for about 3 - 4 days, very sore, very swollen, very itchy and just generally a bit miserable with it but hopefully its going away.

All last night DP is saying/hinting how I should have another drink and get pissed, and another, and "oooh the boy is tired maybe he will sleep for us tonight" to a generally less tactful "is your fanny still itching, maybe we can have an early night?".

I explain that not only am I still resisting the urge not to get a scouring pad, but he can catch it too and just pass it back to me if we did anything and sorry but I just dont think its the best idea.

He whinges that the one time for a little while that we get chance I have an excuse. I agree that yes it is shit that the one time we are BOTH awake I happen to have this.

Then, he says "well that doesnt stop you sorting me out does it?". I changed the subject, ignored him and he kept saying it.

We got to bed and more of the same, pawing me, grabbing hold of my hand and asking if that had thrush etc and eventually he tired of it and left me alone.

AIBU to now feel a bit offended by how he spoke to me? I felt like saying to him, yea I'll sort you out, now leave £20 on the nightstand.....

(namechange btw)

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northernrock · 02/01/2011 10:54

Brian are you really a bloke? Because I think that would be the reaction of most men too.

There's your wife, in a pool of blood, having brought forth an actual human being, and you are going to get your cock sucked...??

Really??

SantosLHalper · 02/01/2011 10:58

Connie, you really are determined to make a show of yourself aren't you? BJ 45 mins after giving birth. I don't believe you. And if it is true, you really are a strange one.

And again, lets reiterate, the OP was not feeling sexy, did not want to wank her husband and should he should respect that. Now I am leaving this thread as some of you are just pissing me off.

QuickLookBusy · 02/01/2011 11:00

Exactly northern, not a normal thing to do after that experience. Mind you very few of Connie's posts describe normal behaviour.

SantosLHalper · 02/01/2011 11:03

northern, I think you meant blueshoes? Brian was equally shocked.

ledkr · 02/01/2011 11:03

can you imagine a woman pestering their partners for a bit of light relief when they were ill,why do we still treat men as inferior beings who have no control over their desire or sexual activity.Make excuses for them to cheat on their entire families cos "they are not getting it from wifey"the very idea that you would do ANYTHING that you dont feel like doing is just subservient nonsense.My dh has a healthy sex drive as do i but he has equal control over it as well as me and the fact he has is a huge turn on for me rather than being pestered for wanks or finding out hes sat on porn sites cock in hand or out perving round other women disrespecting me and his dd's which frankly would be a massive turn off.
Sorry for lack of commas i got carried away,the pedants will be after me.

SantosLHalper · 02/01/2011 11:04

here here ledkr

northernrock · 02/01/2011 11:15

"Brian are you really a bloke? Because I think that would be the reaction of most men too."

I know Santos, I was saying that I think most men would share Brian's reaction.

Gluggy · 02/01/2011 11:33

Hi,
I feel very sorry for you - its bad enough having to deal with thrush but to have an idiot as a hubby.......

My husband would NEVER act like that - the reason? I would NEVER put up with it - he would be out on his arse to be honest.

Sex is something that should be enjoyed by both parties and not seen as a right of passage - what a selfish git!

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ledkr · 02/01/2011 11:39

elective section for me on the 31st just going to add some crotchless knickers to my bag alongside my mat pads-very important to keep my man happy Grin

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northernrock · 02/01/2011 11:43

Grin saf
I dont care that Brian is a lady. She has the best name!

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gibbergabber · 02/01/2011 12:15

He sounds like a tosser.

In which case he should know exactly how to sort himself out.

twinklingfairy · 02/01/2011 12:17

Jesus, That has got to be made up!?

I pity you connie and I pity your fear.

SantosLHalper · 02/01/2011 12:31

Sorry, northern, I misunderstood!
Sensing a theme here Connie? Pity.

northernrock · 02/01/2011 12:37

Quite alright Santos.It was probably garbled due to incredulitySmile

SantosLHalper · 02/01/2011 12:38

Crazy people huh?

moondog · 02/01/2011 12:41

Dittany

'I've never said a single word to women who feel the urge to sexually service their husbands - that's up to them. My problem is you trying to spread that ethos to women who don't want to.

So you're talking bollocks basically.'

You don't want anyone to have any other point of view but your own.
That's my only objection to you.

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moondog · 02/01/2011 12:46

Your posts just reinforce everyone's worse prejudices about 'femininsm' unfortunately.
Ill humoured, dogmatic and so ...joyless really.
Always sniffing out the worst in men whether it is there or not.

moondog · 02/01/2011 12:47

worst

I don't think men are as vile as you do.
I know some really rather pleasant ones.
Including my own dh.

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