To think it is wrong for a surrogate to have a child for two men?

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The men in question are Elton John and David Furnish.

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It feels wrong on so many levels.

You need to explain why you have a problem with it, otherwise it just looks like shit-stirring.

The only problem I have with it is that EJ is 62 and DF is 48, far too old to have a baby in my view. The poor child is pretty much guaranteed to lose a parent at a young age which isn't fair. That said, growing up with that pair is bound to be a great laugh.

How many levels and what levels?

Or just the level of homophobia?

I am neither homophobic nor nasty so you can move on from that.

Thank you, EauRudolph, for giving me my first biscuit on MN - very worthwhile contribution.

So why do you think it's wrong?

I think it's lovely that two people who so obviously love one another want to bring a child into that and share that love with them.

The only reservation i would have is their ages, but i would be a hypocrite if i said i thought it was wrong.

Good luck to them.

You are being the definition of unreasonable. You have no argument.

In an ideal world, every child would be brought up in a loving, caring environment by a mother and a father. However, we don't have an ideal world and I'd far rather a child be brought up by them than by some of the people who are deigned suitable simply by the fact they are of the opposite sex to each other.

I saw this this morning - and was a bit . The first thing that popped in my head was "money WILL buy you anything"

Their ages are a concern. Also are they taking this newborn baby straight from his birth mother? Is she going to stay involved? There is something a bit icky about that - taking a baby from his mum and going to live with 2 middle age blokes doesn't sit well with me at all.

It's a bit early in the day for popcorn, but I think I'll get some ready.

No problem with it except it's a shame they are creating another child instead of adopting one.

I suppose this is the only way they get a brand new one though...

I dont see why its a problem, as a couple they are fully committed to each other and have been together a long time.

In fairness they tried to adopt but are too old, IMO it would have been better to give a child that already needs a family, the chance of a better life.

I wish them well.

I really think that you have to say why you think this is wrong. I'd have concerns about their ages, as others have said, and about the celebrity culture that this child will be inevitably caught up in. But no issues with them as a couple wanting to parent (but I wouldn't as a gay parent myself, would I?)

Though they weren't releasing any details about the surrogacy process, so my "buy a baby" thoughts might be well wide of the mark. It's all a bit Michael Jackson for me....

Is it just a gay couple you object to, then? What about lesbian couples? Single women? Single men?

I think you have to be very careful and really think this through before you start judging and criticising.

The money thing worries me most, to be honest. The idea that you can buy a baby I find appalling (and you can in the USA and many other parts of the world).

The idea of a gay couple bringing up a child, though? Personally, I have no problem with it.

Pantofino it's not as though they are stealing the baby from a mother - she is a surrogate, a host. She has lent them her womb and the egg may well have come from a different woman.

On the comments you have made so far you avvvvvvvvvvu and everyone will think it's is because they are gay as you have failed to give any reason for feeling this way.

Altinkum - I believe it's ideal as it is more likely to give the child a balanced view on the world as men and womem ARE different, wether people choose to see that or not.

They can provide stability. They have the financial means to provide for the child. They have been together a real long time.

Good luck to them I say.