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URGENT. I am fecking stuck halfway through a 3 point turn

203 replies

ChristmasTrolleyRage · 21/12/2010 16:54

On a very snowy underused road.

slightly downhill need to reverse so can drive out of cul-se-fecking-sac.

Any advice?

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TwilaAndTinsel · 21/12/2010 23:46

Sorry I see this thread has taken a serious turn.

Penelope I am very sorry. I have never been in a car accident and I do attribute this to not driving myself but I have to learn because my son has SN. I don't want to do it at all.

Good on everyone who drives despite their scary experiences.

notmyproblem · 21/12/2010 23:47

OP you weren't stupid for getting stuck in the first place (though I would say if you don't know how to drive in snow or get yourself unstuck, then don't drive).

You were a bit stupid for repeatedly posting to MN for help, as if that was really a useful way of getting yourself out of the situation. In fact not just stupid but pretty idiotic. Especially loved the URGENT bit. Best part was you couldn't even look in the boot and notice a bag of rock salt there?

Next time knock on the neighbour's door FIRST, and post to MN later. Sorry but by creating this thread you were pretty much asking for it.

It's quite amazing actually how God looks out for fools and drunks or whatever that saying is. No shovel, didn't notice the salt, too embarrassed to knock on doors, yet MNing away like you were sitting on your couch at home... Hmm

Thingumy · 21/12/2010 23:48

so what you are saying is,if you have another accident you could die?

Bit like the rest of us really albeit 1st,2nd,3rd accident,we all could die.The same as if you were a pedestrian,you could get hit by a car at anytime.Life can be short.

Good luck with your counselling.

Justthisone · 21/12/2010 23:52

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giraffesCantDanceOnAllThisSnow · 21/12/2010 23:55

Glad you home safely :)

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ChristmasTrolleyRage · 21/12/2010 23:58

notmy - no I certainly wasn't posting like I was realxing in my sofa. Confused

I was stuck, had no-one to turn to and was getting increasingly cross at myself, so I thought the might of MN would be able to give me some ideas - and they did - the car mats got me out of the turn in the road and started me off up the hill slightly. I know I should have knocked on doors in a bid to gain help, but really my adrenalin was pumping and my decision-making process was flawed.

As for looking in the boot - I didn't know the grit was there - we were warm and didn't need blankets, torch, or potty at that stage.

Yes, you're right perhaps posting in MN was a strange thing to do, but I was calling on the resources I had available to me, which I don't think is unreasonable.

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ChristmasTrolleyRage · 21/12/2010 23:59

Sorry - that wasn't clear - there had been no reason at that stage to look in my boot as hadn't meeded the supplies in there .

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PenelopeTitsDropped · 22/12/2010 00:10

There were two Asian Men in the car; both very very alike. I remember from that before the crash (it later transpired that they were cousins).

One dragged me out of the car, after the crash. I remember his voice and shouting at me to get out because the car was going to explode. But I couldn't move.

They (someone ?) dragged me out the car. By the time the police arrived they'd abandonned the car.

The police tracked them down. breathalised them that evening and they were both 4.5/4.7 times over the limit. But the Father said that his Mercedes (the one that hit me) had been stolen that Morning. And he hadn't realised.

Then I couldn't honestly identify either one as the Driver. I'd only looked in the rear view mirror or glanced sideways; because I was trying to drive .

So there was no prosecution.

A couple of month's later; I had a 'phone call from the "Driver". He didn't give his name. He got my name from my injury solicitors/ solicitors acting for "them".

"You have ruined my life. I am being sent to Pakistan to marry a cow. How can you do this to me, you fucking whore"

So no; no legal satisfaction. No satisfaction whatsoever.

But things have a way of sorting themselves out.

I was TTC but working 90 hours a week in my own practice.

Nothing would have stopped me apart from this car crash.

When I picked up the pieces and could walk a couple of years later; I was told that I wasn't an IVF candidate because of the disruption to my thyroid/body/disabilities.

And then I got pregnant naturally; and she's 12 early next year,

I believe that I would never have had my daughter if it hadn't been for that car crash.

PenelopeTitsDropped · 22/12/2010 00:20

Do you know.
A lot of my RL friends think I'm entirely nuts but at the same time, very very useful and wise; harsh but kind.

I drive like it's a nuclear science test and then the whole world will explode unless it's done properly.

Actually; I'm like that with everything. I'm very serious about loads of things.

ebonyfish · 22/12/2010 00:24

Sounds like you're a bit intense, but with good reason.

KatieMiddleton · 22/12/2010 00:49

Just caught up with thread. Didn't post earlier because I had no advice. Have roffled in places and then a serious turn to the thread.

However, I am a little confused. Penny you say you were pulled from the car but in your first post about the accident you had to be cut out if it? Am I missing something? Confused

TwilaAndTinsel · 22/12/2010 00:50

Fucking hell PenelopeTD.

I agree with your RL friends and I hope that when I am able to drive that I'll drive like you do.

TwilaAndTinsel · 22/12/2010 00:52

Aaaaaarrghh Oh Christ I don't agree that you're entirely nuts Shock but do agree that you are wise and kind.

cakewench · 22/12/2010 01:06

Coming into this thread late. I just had to post that, from the original updates from the OP, my favourite bit was "I have biscuits" tacked on to what was essentially an SOS.

"am stuck in car etc"

"please help"

"I have biscuits."

aaah. lovely.

Glad to hear you made it out alright, biscuits and all. Xmas Grin

PenelopeTitsDropped · 22/12/2010 01:41

Katie.
You're missing the juicy details.

I don't know. I don't actually remember. I just remember a "cartoon situation" (like Tom & Jerry). Like being hit over the head and resonnating.

I remember the man (driver/passenger ?) shouting at me; and pulling me out of the car .

He just kept pulling me. He was saying denecif, denecif (?) over and over again; and then he ran off.
He just pulled me and got my head/ lower body out of the car/flopping over the sill and then left. I remember saying "No Please Thankyou"

And then I don't remember anything.

The cutting comes from my motor insurance record. My knees impacted the steering column apparently; and the car had to be cut.

In trying to pull me out of the car; by my head; he made my spinal injuries a lot worse.

I do hope this meets your concerns KateMiddleton; always happy to oblige and revisit healed scars. If you want to further verify facts/information please feel free to Pm me. I'll give you access to the solicitor that "dealt" with my claim. He has all the gory details the surgeries the X rays etc

"I've googled and asked very many friends what "denecif"; means.

I've had no answer.

KatieMiddleton · 22/12/2010 01:47

You posted details on a public forum. I asked a reasonable question. You can drop the shitty attitude thank you.

KatieMiddleton · 22/12/2010 01:58

Actually I should apologize for my last post. It was rude. Sentiment is the same but there was a real lack of grace and manners. Sorry

PenelopeTitsDropped · 22/12/2010 02:15

I was also shitty. It's my default state.

Your question was reasonable; hope I've dealt with it.

There wasn't a real lack of grace or manners. You asked a valid question.

I am feeling angsty and confrontational at the moment.
This whole thing has made me revisit my accident (in the snow).

I can't explain it; I just become judgemental, because I did absolutely nothing wrong.

Jajas · 22/12/2010 08:14

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FlightoftheCrimbleTree · 22/12/2010 08:44

De Nacif is a common surname. If you google it.

FlightoftheCrimbleTree · 22/12/2010 08:47

and I think an apology is in order.

Whatever may have happened to you (and yes, it was an awful thing, obviously) it has nothing to do with the people on this thread. You should not take out your own aggression on them.

It doesn't do you or them any good.

DontLetTinselDragOnTheFloor · 22/12/2010 08:57

"I'll see if I can book myself on a toadcraft course."

Yes, I'm giggling at that too. What with the carp phone and toad craft courses, we have a lot to thank the OP for :o

trixymalixy · 22/12/2010 09:00

I'm sorry for your situation Penelope, it sounds awful.

You say you have "roadcraft", that you learned from years on the road. So how do you expect others to learn if as according to you they avoid the roads at the slightest hint of snow?

nickeldonkeybethlehemsinsight · 22/12/2010 10:52

it snowed here in kent this time last year - it says on my daily takings spreadsheet

18th December 2009 Snow.

(that was the friday of last week)

Sorry, I had to stop reading at the half past 10 posts, because it got a bit repetitive.

I learned how to drive in the snow by driving in the snow.

The twat that caused Penelope's crash was not the same as a person trying to get her kids home in the snow.
He was a twat, and would have done the same to anyone, until he killed himself or someone else (i hope he was prosecuted).

Point being, you have to practise this stuff to be any good at it, it's not built-in.

allnightlong · 22/12/2010 11:20

Wow Penelope Never mind councling your in desperate need of some anger management.