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to have made my mum cry..

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natandchris10 · 20/12/2010 19:59

she deserved it..

saturday night her and my dad cancelled going to a birthday party because he was put on call from work.. so she said she would have LO (9months) over night for us to get a rest.. she mentioned they would nip the present to the person at the do...

bearing in mind my LO goes to bed every day without fail at 7pm, they took the present at 8.30. i spoke to mum just after 8.30 and she said they would be going straight home after 5 mins so i said fine no problem, i said please let me know your all home and LO is sleeping and ok, gets to 9.30pm and i had heard nothing so i thought i would call her.. i rang her mobile, dads mobile, dads work phone, house phone about 300000 times each and got no answer, got to 10.30 and still no answer...

I was going out of my mind..pacing the floor the phone rang at 11pm it was my mum, she tells me they are at the party and LO was 'fine'

i flipped. i couldnt belive how iressponsible she had been. her excuse was no signal. bollox cause it rang. i shouted at her until she cried.

OP posts:
LifeForRent · 20/12/2010 20:19

My son is 10 months old. He doesn't go to rainbows (beavers) or karate or anything. Good Lord.

usualsuspect · 20/12/2010 20:19

YABU

LifeForRent · 20/12/2010 20:19

No I don't rely on people to look after my son, that's why I had him.

activate · 20/12/2010 20:19

You - made - your - mother - cry - by - shouting - at - her

You love your mum

YOu trust her with your child

and you are proud you made her cry? This is why you need to apologise

NellyFartado · 20/12/2010 20:19

Making someone cry is utterly unreasonable. Act like an adult next time.

belgo · 20/12/2010 20:19

There's a big difference between being flexible with routines and staying out at a party and not being contactable until 11pm.

lololizzy · 20/12/2010 20:20

they did give you a break, and it didn't turn into the break you wished . not unreasonable for them to go out...but can imagine awful not to be able to contact them.

JaquelinehydeAllThePresents · 20/12/2010 20:20

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Igglystuffedfullofturkey · 20/12/2010 20:20

Pmsl at those who think 9 month old babies sleep anywhere. Maybe 9 week old babies. I know my DS wouldn't sleep anywhere at that age Hmm

Her mum could be a crier for all we know. Maybe she realised she'd fucked up. I'm sure the OP didn't keep going and going with the specific aim of making her mum cry.

Goblinchild · 20/12/2010 20:21

Wow, I'm a slow poster!
I do now realise that LFR isn't the OP, but now I'm even more confused that she thought I'd offered any advice about babies and routines.

Imarriedafrog · 20/12/2010 20:21

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MrsChemistrySetInMyStocking · 20/12/2010 20:21

It doesn't wash with me that just because they are doing the OP a favour, they can do as they please.

11pm is late for such a little baby, especially if they have quite a strict routine. Even if the baby was fine then, doesn't mean they'll be fine the next day.
Not staying in contact as well just isn't on, especially because OP was under the impression she would be kept up to date with what was going on.

However OP, as I said, YABU. It is never ok to shout at someone so much that you make them cry. She made a mistake, and if she didn't feel bad about it, she would have been angry at your reaction, not upset.

LifeForRent · 20/12/2010 20:21

NO I wasn't telling you about the feeding routine that was to someone else interfering themselves in when my child eats.

I found it funny you said "some people cry easily" hence why I mentioned it.

hohohohobnobsaremyfave · 20/12/2010 20:21

just wait til you have more dc's life and then see how .......oh what's the fucking point some people are smug from smugsville and wear big fat judgey pants

LifeForRent · 20/12/2010 20:22

Just the one suits me just fine :)

oneortwo · 20/12/2010 20:22

YANBU My mother left her phone behind when she took LO out once (I had no idea where they were, gone ages). She knows that if there is a second time there wont be a third!

hohohohobnobsaremyfave · 20/12/2010 20:23

That figures

mumto2andnomore · 20/12/2010 20:23

I can understand you were worried when you couldnt get hold of them but that does not excuse you making her cry :( You really need to apologise.

As for a baby going to bed at 5.15, thats sad, wonder if he goes to sleep that early or just lies there knowing that he has to :(

usualsuspect · 20/12/2010 20:23

good grief what did we all do before mobiles

christmaswrapping · 20/12/2010 20:24

And god help your son's partner when he's older.

Imarriedafrog · 20/12/2010 20:24

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HarkTheTragicalyHipHeraldAngel · 20/12/2010 20:24

I understand wanting to keep to the routine and being worried due to no phone call but shouting at your mum so much that she cried is not on.

She was trying to do you a favour fgs!

discobeaver · 20/12/2010 20:24

My 9 month olds slept anywhere. Maybe I was just lucky.

oneortwo · 20/12/2010 20:26

before mobiles one would give the tel number of the party to the mother and say how long they'd be there (and tell the truth or phone mothers land line if plans change)
My babysitting days were pre mobile and there was always a way for contact each way unless people were in trasit

christmaswrapping · 20/12/2010 20:26

BTW LFR I say this as a parent who had a child who slept from 6pm-8am from 6 weeks old. But she would sleep everywhere, so if we were going out, whether out out or just to friends she'd come to and still be asleep in her carrycot.

She was cared for by us, but very flexible. And we still had a life.

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