to have made my mum cry..

[natandchris10]

she deserved it..

saturday night her and my dad cancelled going to a birthday party because he was put on call from work.. so she said she would have LO (9months) over night for us to get a rest.. she mentioned they would nip the present to the person at the do...

bearing in mind my LO goes to bed every day without fail at 7pm, they took the present at 8.30. i spoke to mum just after 8.30 and she said they would be going straight home after 5 mins so i said fine no problem, i said please let me know your all home and LO is sleeping and ok, gets to 9.30pm and i had heard nothing so i thought i would call her.. i rang her mobile, dads mobile, dads work phone, house phone about 300000 times each and got no answer, got to 10.30 and still no answer...

I was going out of my mind..pacing the floor the phone rang at 11pm it was my mum, she tells me they are at the party and LO was 'fine'

i flipped. i couldnt belive how iressponsible she had been. her excuse was no signal. bollox cause it rang. i shouted at her until she cried.

[CokeFan]

II31 - ok maybe not that long but you wouldn't expect no fallout from a a party and a bedtime more than 4 hours later than usual would you? Remember they were still at the party at 11pm. OP did ring (upthread) to make peace and her mum couldn't see what she'd done wrong. That's when OP called her mum an arsehole (not sure whether to her face or just on here), triggering a lot more bile from other posters.

All parents/grandparents are different. My mum would have been very upset if I'd been cross with her at all, but she would also have understood how upset and worried I'd been and that's what seems to be missing in the OP's case.

[scruffybird]

Op I I had trusted my parents to babysit I wouldn't have been ringing every 5 mins to see what was happening. Would have said goodnight and then spoke to them at pick up time the next day.
If you are that worried when you leave your lo perhaps you shouldn't leave her yet.

[scruffybird]

That was if I

[StillSquiffy]

I agree with fellatio too.

But this thread's about mothers.

[scruffybird]

Just looked at op again. What did your parents do wrong? They agreed to look after your lo so you could have a break, then stayed longer at party than planned (haven't we all) then rang you as promised when they returned.
You instead of relaxing got yourself in a hysterical mess by wanting to know what was happening every few minutes!

[CokeFan]

scruffybird - OP's parents said they were going to the party for 5 minutes to drop off a present and that they would phone when they returned. They were then (out of character) uncontactable by mobile or landline, despite OP's dad being on call from work, until 11pm when the OP got in touch with them - still at the party, causing the OP to worry about them.

[Morloth]

I have been aging this thread today like a fine wine, have been watching the post number go up and been saving it as my after dinner treat, you have not disappointed people.

[FellatioNelson]

'5 minutes' is a euphemism. We all know that. What they meant was they'd pop in, stay for polite amount of time, but not the whole thing. If OP thought 5 minutes really meant 5 minutes she's very naive.

Nothing in my life that has taken 5 minutes has ever actually taken five minutes.

[ReikiKen]

I was frustrated at my mum for something relatively unimportant - but it's because she is stuck in her ways, at her late-middle ages, and that's just the way she is.

Sure, it was annoying, but soon, I forgot about it, I love and care about my mother for all her faults - I was needling at her about something but in all reality, it was not even that important - the point is, no matter how wrong your mother might be, I'm sure she always has your best interests at heart. It is NOT okay to feel smug about making your mother feel so ashamed, no matter who was in the wrong. Your mother brought you up, fed you, brought and nurtured you into this big, wide world. Sacrifices were made for you.

She might have been wrong, but once you calm down, you should show your mother respect. When one day you turn around and that day comes when your parents are no longer around, I don't think you'll feel so smug, in fact, you'll feel pain if you don't treat them with love and respect.

[FellatioNelson]

Nice post. Merry Christmas.