To open MIL's hideous presents early so I can exchange them?!

[MsKalo]

MIL buys my DD the most hideous looking granny type dresses - I have opened that part of the pressie so I can take it and exhabge it for some of the nicer dresses this high street chain does - I need to do it now before they go down in price after Xmas!

I mean, it is quite obvious how I dress my DD but she still buys her the most awful dresses! Yuk?

AIBU?

I would say not in the slightest unless MiL would notice that you hadn't sent her a picture of DD in the dress.
IIWY, I'd unwrap it, iron it, photograph your DD wearing it then hotfoot it to the shop it came from and change it.
My SiL is always knitting stuff for DD. Ridiculously she expects a photograph of her wearing it. Some of the stuff has to be seen to be believed. It goes straight into the sack for the less fortunate of Antwerp.

Ha ha! I don't really give a stuff if she notices lol! But I do appreciate it can be hard for poor you If you need to photograph it! My MIL sees how I dress her and I point out the new dresses I buy! She has never asked me really about the stuff she has bought... I think I mat say I exchanged for bigger sizes and had to get different ones! I do find it quite rude in a a way that she so blatantly buys stuff so different but I shouldn't really - I can just change it, I wish sh would give me a gift receipt though...

Those lucky kids in Antwerp! :-)

YANBU. No point in having clothes that you would not use. Much less wasteful to exchange it for something your DD will actually wear.

Maybe MIL thinks your taste is 'awful' and is trying to re-educate you?
My ex mil would buy anything cheap - if it was a quid in the sale, you would have it. She would spend £20 or so on crap when all you wanted was one nice thing for the dcs.
Exchange it, before the queue commences and have your excuses lies ready

I am also amazed this high street chain that does such lovely clothes can also have such ghastly granny type dresses! Yukkkkkk

I'm going today! Thanks ladies!

YANBU to change them, not at all if it means she gets wear from the new ones, but are a bit in calling your MIL rude for buying things she likes for her grandchild. That's human, surely? We all do it. Taste varies - your granny type will be someone else's charmingly traditional.

link to dresses please!

oh blimey i could never chuck anything away someone had knitted! all taht work

Southeast, I think you'd change your mind if you saw what arrives. SiL is a bit of a lentil weaver and buys jumpers from charity shops and pulls them to pieces and reknits them. That way you can have the musty smell intact and the wavy bits of the knitting on show at the same time. Goodness knows where she gets the patterns or why she doesn't wash them before sending them.

I think YABU.

It's a present, ffs.

Don't be so ungrateful.

I want a link too. I bet I like your granny dresses

I think YABU, and ungrateful. No body has to buy you or DC anything. Be happy someone bothers.

Perfectly reasonable. All gifts are not welcome.

we need pictures and examples, i'm very eager to find out why these dresses are so revolting.

examples please!

YABU. If you hate them that much keep them aside for painting or playing outside or something. You are coming across as very ungrateful.

And give us a link!

Yes we must see examples.

I have done this before with MIL, she buys the strangest things for DS. One year we got a nice combo of a lovely chunky knit type jumper, teamed with shiny navy blue tracky bottoms. I kept the jumper and changed the trackies for some jeans.

I've exchanged a few times and just say I needed a bigger size, which is a viable excuse as DS is huge for his age.

Oooh, that's not very nice. After all the trouble she went to getting the gifts. And as for binning hand knits kreecher

Mind you, I don't really bother what my kids wear as long as it's cosy and comfortable. I know some people bother with fashion on small children.

I want to see pictures too! I have really old fashioned taste in kids clothes, so would probably love them. I know my mum has been disappointed at times that she hasn't seen young relatives in the clothes she has bought, and she tries to choose something that she thinks nice while also being acceptable to the parents and kids. These days she just doesn't bother as much as she would if she thought people were grateful.

God you sound pretty awful tbh.

It's a present, does that mean anything to you? or are you terminally ungrateful?

Yanbu

I would do the same and I wouldn't be bothered if someone did that with a gift I had bought.

Keeping for the sake of keeping is a waste of money.

You are not upsetting or offending anyone so I fail to see a problem.

If you are very skint yanbu but in the normal run of things - get over it

Shouldn´t it be about whether or not your daughter likes them?

Is it something like this?

I have to say- what a stunning child! I always wanted hair like that as a kid. If it's like that, it's also not to my taste. Would keep for painting.

link to dresses please! (I'm another one who would probably like them )

yanbu though, if you don't like them and will probably not use them then change them for something else, no big deal.