To open MIL's hideous presents early so I can exchange them?!

[MsKalo]

MIL buys my DD the most hideous looking granny type dresses - I have opened that part of the pressie so I can take it and exhabge it for some of the nicer dresses this high street chain does - I need to do it now before they go down in price after Xmas!

I mean, it is quite obvious how I dress my DD but she still buys her the most awful dresses! Yuk?

AIBU?

I liked the dress in the link too!

I can honestly disagree with you LifeofKate

she huffs and sighs at my kids if they do not do as she wants! she makes them feel bad!

you are lucky to have a lovely MIL
mine is not lovely but is she was I am sure I would feel like you and keep more even if not to my taste

but she is alienating, weird and drains me and so many people around her - I am not the only one with this opinion - although I do not discuss how I feel about her openly, I see how others feel and have heard some conversations!

I'm not saying I am perfect, I know I am not, but she is HARD work!

how can you not like hello kitty dresses?!

tee hee

Of course it's not wrong :P

It's not to my personal taste is all. I wouldn't use it as a 'best' dress if it was gifted to us, but I wouldn't exchange it either.

I hate Hello Kitty too. Sorry!

I did get a Hello Kitty vest that I put DD in. But not often :P

Mainly because it wasn't 100% cotton.

poor kitty!

All the more for you :P

To be fair, I like the ones with the small kitty in the corner! meowwwwwww

Thanks for all the chat ladies, has helped me x

YANBU.

If it is something you aren't going to put on your child, then it is a waste of money and it is better that you exchange it for something you like.

My sister does this. She thinks she is fashionable and buys DS the most hideous stuff. I'm not putting him in it because it was a gift, I would rather change it for something he will get use out of.

Yes, I know I'm lucky to have a lovely MIL, but that's my point. You need to take a step back and think about whether you would exchange stuff if you did like your MIL, and you've already said you probably wouldn't. The buying of (in your eyes) hideous clothes may well not be because she is a PITA, it could just be that she has different taste to you and is buying stuff she would genuinely like to see your DD dressed in. I have to admit that when anyone I know has a girl (I only have a DS so can't indulge in this, sadly!), I enjoy buying them beautiful dresses that are totally to my taste and don't really give a lot of thought into what the parents of the child actually dress her in
My example of my MIL was supposed to show you that she might not be buying stuff you don't like just to spite you, as my MIL doesn't buy things I like and is the loveliest person on the planet, so is clearly not doing it to get at me.

I hope I've made myself a bit clearer. I'm sure you're not a horrid person and I'm sure your MIL can be very trying, but that doesn't mean that you aren't reading too much into her choice of clothes :)

PS, the only thing worse than Hello Kitty clothes are those with slogans such as 'Mummy's Little Princess'.. do you have some of those?! :o

I like this & am sure many wouldn´t.

I wouldn´t dreamof buying Hello Kitty clothing tbh.

Kids do pick up on this sort of thing. When she gets to you, try to take a breath and remember without her you wouldn't have DH. It does help, honestly...been there done that.

Interesting thread! Just proves how it takes all sorts really. I HATE character clothing of any description and would never in a million years buy a hello kitty dress of my own free will. DD is now 5 and of she asked for one and it was reasonble then I might get a t-shirt or something like that for her.

I like old fashioned prints and styles too - cannot abide 'trendy' stuff on little children - like a lot of the next girls stuff etc. But I do like Monsoon & DPAM for little girls etc.

Over the years my mother has given a lot of clothes and a lot of them would not have been my first choice, it is absolutely amazing how in an entire shop of beautiful clothes she can find the one horrible thing and say 'isn't this lovely'.....it's a skill!
She also tend to go for the cheapy things where as I would prefer far less clothes for her but for the things she has to be nicer quality. I generally let dd wear what has been bought for her (provided it's not too awful) and if I am with my mum I steer her to the things that might suit better. She's always had very dodgy taste but on the other hand my dad has enerringly good taste - would far prefer if HE could do the shopping!

It is a waste to keep things you don't like, band I do understand how MIL can be using things like this as a way of controlling...

OP-maybe your MIL just has bad taste, then.

My MIL has never bought our daughter anything as she "wouldn´t have any idea what to get".

My husband is an only one.

I have a sisiter & a niece but have somehow managed to buy for my son

I'm with Diddl on the pretty old fashioned dress. The only Hello Kitty clothes I ever bought (and hopefully ever will buy!) were for my sister when she was eight or so, and then only because she is unfortunately appropriately named.

Weirdly, though, despite loving 'proper' dresses, I also love my little girl in dungarees and things as well.

Oh well. It takes all sorts, I guess. The High Street would be buggered if it didn't!

Diddl - I love that little dress!

Oh. Ok then Quentin. You were just agreeing with me. Fair enough still loves Quentin too

I do like modern stuff as well, but that´s probably the sort of thing I would buy for a granddaughter.

Another one here that shudders at the thought of 'Hello Kitty' stuff. However, my DC are not my own personal fashion accessory or dolls, so if someone bought them H K stuff I wouldn't automatically exchange it (well, unless it had been bought for DS I suppose!)

I suppose I tend to think of stuff with characters on for when they are older & actually like the character themselves.

I've got a mil who buys fecki g terrible clothes for my dd who is 4. I take things back without a seconds thought, otherwise they fester in the wardrobe until they are too small for her and I give them to charity. I don't know about opening them before christmas though.

I dunno, I just like seeing my daughter in clothes I love, and mil buys (well intentioned) polyester pinafores which were old fashioned when I was growing up in the 70s. There are so many lovely clothes for little girls, I can't see the point in keeping fugly ones. Dd has a smock for painting so I don't need painting clothes!

I do the same with my mum too, so not an anti mil thing. I point them both to ranges I think we'd both like - autograph in marks for eg - and most of the time they get things we both like so I keep them. Mil gets the 50s garb from bhs and it is honestly the kind of thing my mum wore as a little girl and looks highly flamable!

Oh, and I usually say "thanks so much for the dresses, but dd has quite a lot of pinafores at the moment, what she really needs is some tops and a jumper, would you mind if I exchanged as she'd get so much more wear from them.

I probably do sound like a brat, but really I just hate wasting people's money and using up limited space with clothes I loathe.

I'll undoubtedly be that mil buying beatiful subtle dresses for a future grand-daughter and tutting at my awful dil who dresses her in cartoon character clothes

Seriously - I'd keep the dresses and let your DD wear them.

MsKalo i dont think that you are bu but i think some posters on this post are
every one is entitled to their opinion but i feel that some posters are trying to force their opinion on you

Thank you Annie ! I really appeciate that - I mean my DD is only a baby so of course I am going to dress her in what I like! When she is older she can start making her own choices! She is my daughter and if I don't like something I don't think I am a bad person for not keeping them!

Lifeofkate - no they really are hideous! She has bought some that are fine but there are a few that are really horrid!

The hello kitty dresses I have are cute but appreciate they not to everyones taste and NO I do not have 'mummies little princess' tshirts or slogan stuff - yuk!