To open MIL's hideous presents early so I can exchange them?!

[MsKalo]

MIL buys my DD the most hideous looking granny type dresses - I have opened that part of the pressie so I can take it and exhabge it for some of the nicer dresses this high street chain does - I need to do it now before they go down in price after Xmas!

I mean, it is quite obvious how I dress my DD but she still buys her the most awful dresses! Yuk?

AIBU?

Diddl that dress is the exact thing I love on little girls.

Looking at how my friends dress their DDs, I have a feeling mine may look a bit 'girly' and slightly old fashioned but I don't care. I don't particularly like a lot of what their DDs wear. The stuff in the Jojomaman Bebe catalogue is exactly what I like.

I wouldn't do it with a dress, I would keep it tbh as you never know when you need something for some weird costume at school when you are then desperate for a Granny dress!

But I am about to do it with a present our very kind neighbour has given our ds (also given our dd one as well). Its chocolate selection box (she told me) and ds is allergic to chocolate and I don't want him to open something he can't have so I'm going to wrap up a tube of jelly tots and put the neighours label on it and he'll never know .

Lol rebl! That is funny! The keeping it for a play I mean

Jojo stuff is lovely. This is not like jojo stuff, it is like what grannies wore in the 1800's...

I can't imagine that she is trying to be nasty by buying pressies for her grand daughter! (although that is not to say it isn't true). Why don't you tell her? Or get your husband to have a word with her? I mean not too say that is horrible but a few words of guidance in the right direction or may be some suggestions of what you would like. your daughter is only 12 months old, do you really want every christmas to be like this?

You mean <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=4.bp.blogspot.com/_-GbegCZNlt8/SXmh0Ke81pI/AAAAAAAABNs/A-6o5LbYYWc/s400/Queen-Victoria-and-Sharp-border-collie-1866.jpg&imgrefurl=blogs.dogtime.com/border-wars-a-border-collie-blog/by-tag/queen%2520victoria&usg=__SGg-e46m-tUNhTzXQYgKsfvdZg8=&h=400&w=300&sz=31&hl=en&start=34&zoom=1&tbnid=7cQ8rcpueHBidM:&tbnh=161&tbnw=131&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dqueen%2Bvictoria%2Bmourning%2Bimages%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DX%26rlz%3D1C1GGGE_en-gbGB399GB399%26biw%3D1280%26bih%3D681%26tbs%3Disch:10,723&um=1&itbs=1&ei=W5sMTZrhCM_p4Aaf3rmGAg&iact=hc&vpx=560&vpy=148&dur=391&hovh=193&hovw=144&tx=59&ty=94&oei=JJsMTbHbG8uyhAe-1tW3Dg&esq=2&page=2&ndsp=22&ved=1t:429,r:10,s:34&biw=1280&bih=681" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this sort of thing that "grannies wore in the 1800s" ?
I'd definitely exchange in that case.

I think YABU too - she's just a baby. My ex's step-grandmother used to buy the most hideous (dare I say) chavvy things for DS, I used to keep them at the bottom of a drawer as a spare in case everything else was dirty and then put him in it, then as soon as it got dirty it stayed in the wash basket for ages. I always tried to make sure he wore it when we went to see them though. Now he's coming up for nursery age I keep them for nursery because I don't really care if he gets paint etc on them. They're still useful!

If the child is older and they're likely to get teased etc then I would exchange, yes. But for a baby or toddler, I wouldn't.

If my mum buys my DS something I don't like, I put him in it either when we're visiting, or take photos and send them to her. She is always pleased to see him in clothes that she has bought him. That's why she has bought them, because she wants to see him in them.

It's a bit harsh to deprive your MIL of that just because you don't like her.

Your taste is irrelevant in this matter.

Think about that last statement...

Would you wear a hideous outfit because someone you disliked bought it for you, just to be polite, to someone who is rude to you?!

Nah, bin it, Mil or no Mil, mine can barely dress herself respectably, there's some people who have no taste in this world and I won't dress my daughter in tgeir gifts out of duty

Which highstreet store? Tell us.

YANBU. Finding it hard to believe that people are saying you shouldn't be dressing your own child in other people's taste of clothes. Bizarre.

When I give a present I try to match it to the person, but I don't give a flying fuck if it is exchanged, or sent to a charity shop.

Thanks earwicga! I agree. I mean i wouldn't wear something I didn't like so definitely not going to put my little girl in stuff I don't like!

YANBU I have done this. Loads. No one has said they specifacally want a photo of DD wearing the clothes they pick out... anyway hardly a nice photo if DD is scowling at the camera and attemptint to remove offending item is it?

"Would you wear a hideous outfit because someone you disliked bought it for you"

But it's not for you. It's for another person, who probably really doesn't mind wearing it.

God, it's her grandchild, not your fashion accessory.

No link! Just in case it outs me! I can't!

Personally, I think it's a bit weird to put a 1yr old in any dress.

I have 2 DDs. They must have been close to 3 before they were ever in a dress.

No MsKalo, I didn't. It was all second hand or bought for him.

And I was grateful instead of being a snob about it.

Refusing to put your kid in something that someone else bought for them? It's just clothes, it's not a big deal. You sound a bit shallow to me.

Well thankfully noble you don't know me and I couldn't give a flying fuck if you think I am shallow. We can't all be as sanctamonious as you.

The two offending dresses have been exchanged - thankfully they were going to be a bit too small to wear soon so I have that excuse to use if asked!

Ps noble you obviously have a chip on your shoulder because when did snobbiness come into it? How pathetic!

Seems perfectly sensible to me. However I think once your dc are old enough then it probably isnt a good idea to exchange them (unless they really dislike them). It's a waste of money if you wont dress them in them or they wont wear them.

I think it is perfectly possible to be grateful for the thought behind your MIL's gift, and still exchange it for something you would like to dress your dd in frequently.

If I'd bought a dress for my gd I would want it to be worn a lot, and would be sad if I thought it was only brought out for painting or somesuch. What a waste!

I used to dress dd in the clothes that my mum bought her, when we'd visit my mum. This led my mum to think I liked the clothes, and to buy lot lots more in the same style. Soon wised up to that one.

Any chance you can get your dh to point out to his mother that she isnt buying clothes that as parents you'd want your dc dressed in. Different generations and all that.

YABU. It's the thought that counts and should be appreciated.