(Can I just mention that PeachyPossum is not me, the Peachy of old, Ta- my Peachy name will be back after Christmas but MN is mroe than big enough for two of us LOL, not an issue for me).
I wonder if the people saying size 12 is fat equate fat with bad? Would tehy therefore look at me proud in my size 14 askance? Because I am proud of teh good few stone I have recently shed and that would IMO render their judgement- well basically crap wouldn't it?
i;ve been so think I;ve been ill; where my sisters have told me my bones sticking through made them queasy. For me that's a size 8 on top.... and a 12 on the bottom. Every woman in my family ahs wide hips, great big feet and very easy births. Sadly without surgery there's a limit to what I can do about it. It's also worth me trying to remind myself that yes, I amy have a more solid build than what I would choose but I am not unfot- I do a lot of performing (dancing) and the oike, and the joke is how much energy I have comapred to the 18 year olds (mainly adrenaline fuelled IMO). For me, I think a fit, healthy eating where-I-am-now me is fine although I am not ready to stop the wight loss yet. I expect i will be a 12/14 when I stop, I will be more than happy with that. In fact that's where I was when orm last saw me I think so she at least knows how I looked then 
Al my dad's family are big- most of Mum's too but they live and stay independent into their 80's and beyond (Grandad independent at 90 still). I wouldn;t choose to play the odds like them but I reckon at a 12-14 weight, for me, with my body shape, peforming as long as I possibly can, I will be healthy. And that's all I am arsed with tbh.