To not bath my son in a month

[Ryoko]

He's 7 months old and it's too damn cold in here, (he is starting to get stinky tho).

If money is tight, I would definitely NOT use wet wipes though!!

I never used them on my babies .... plain water and a cloth is fine for cleaning the baby while nappy changing... cheaper and probably better for baby!

"I'm worried he will get a cold" - he could get a cold anywhere. What's the worst that could happen?

Ryoko, I'm going to be frank: do you think you may have post natal depression?

Do you have a shower attachment, or even one of those plastic hose things with a shower head that clip onto your bath taps?

Get water to a reasonable temp. Strip baby. Get nice, bubbly soapy hands and rub baby all over (especially the crevices). Shower with a gentle spray of warm water. Scoop baby into warm towel. Dry and dress. No more than 5 minutes from start to end, in fact for most of the time the baby will be in warm clothes/warm water/warm towel/warm clothes.

Baby will be too busy enjoying the novelty to complain about the cold. Being chilly for a minute or two won't hurt.

Do the same thing for yourself.

You will both feel much, much better.

you can afford a plethora of games consoles but can't afford 10 minutes of heat once a week or so? regardless of whether they're 2nd hand or whatever, add on the cost of games, the electricity etc.... sorry, I must be missing something

HDNL stop deliveries at 9.30pm, We have GSH but it doesn't really do much and I can't crank it up to full because of money.

I've said before I don't get out much and don't talk to anyone, I'm a loner and DF is lazy and does fuck all, because he's tired after work (boo hoo), especially at the moment with his man flu he's a bigger kid then DS.

He's not a controlling abusive partner he's just a nice but dim whiny little bitch as I all ways say.

I know that sound harsh but if you was putting up with his constant moaning about that guy on the train, that customer in the shop, those people on TV etc he really does whine like a little bitch about pretty much everything.

I agree with other posters. This doesn't sound good. Ryoko, are you OK?

Get an oil filled electric radiator - much cheaper to run than a fan and very effective too. Failing that, buy a fan heater, use when DF isn't around, hide the heater. He will be none the wiser. There isn't going to be a huge serge of power and a massive bill for him to rant over - he probably won't even notice.

What is in the parcel that is so important? They do redeliver if they don't get an answer first time or they can redeliver elsewhere. It isn't the end of the world if they miss you.

However, as others have said, this sounds like it runs deeper than that. If you aren't even allowed spend a few pennies to wash your baby and you can't just make your own decisions about what to spend family money on then something is clearly wrong.

This is not a normal way to live insulting your partner and both of you depriving your baby of some basic human needs.if you really think so little of each other its time to re evaluate.

I know heating is expensive, but really that's what money is for - to buy stuff. And you don't get more fundamental than housing, warmth, food and clothing

Ryoko - your situation sounds quite grim. Your baby needs a bath, get a heater and sod DF. If it's not warm enough to bath the baby, it must be uncomfortably cold to live in that place. Do you have family or friends you and DS could stay with?

How can we help?

Can u just point out that that colds are caused by a virus and not cold air. Also not washing for 2 weeks is rather disgusting, I dread to think how the smell must be. really we are talking about basic hygiene here, it only takes 10 minutes, do you melt if you touch water after 9 30 pm or somethi?

Agree with noddyholder.

You have chosen to have a child with the person you describe as a 'whiny little bitch'. Take some control of your life.

i not u

Am I missing something, DF? Isn't that her dad?

Can be used for "dear fiancé" as well, supernoodles.

You do realise that always saying your partner is a 'nice but dim whiny little bitch' is emotional abuse?

And that if this was a man posting about his wife, he'd no doubt be getting considerably less sympathy than you are?

I think the same as everyone else, its grim not to bath your baby, and even grimmer (is that even a word?) for adults not to bath for 1/2 weeks, it being cold isnt an excuse, he is 7 months not 7 days, run him a lovely hot soapy bath, dunk im in, quickly pour the water over his shoulders and hair if he has any, get him out and wrap in a big fluffy towel, he isnt going to suffer from being exposed to a chilly room in the few seconds it takes to get him out of the water and into the towel, and you dont catch colds that way anyway, I always seem to be waiting for parcels, especially at the min, but have a bath the night before even if you have to have one at 10, it wont kill you then you are ready to get dressed the next day, come on, give the boy a bath

the babys 7 months old and your not bathing him.poor thing i hope you wash his bottom etc when you change him
how anyone can go as long as you are without having a bath it's not really normal is it.to not have a bath incase a parcel is delivered is certainly not normal

What about one of these? they run off those old gas cylinders so then you are paying for the heat up front and don't need to worry about bills.

YABU though and stinky. I used to live in a house with single glazing and it's not nice getting out of the bath, but often getting into the bath was the only way to warm up.

I have also read that you dont get out much and dont speak to anyone, are there no baby groups nearby, or little cafes/softplay places/parks you can take the baby to so you have a reason to get up and out (and washed), in a couple of years he wil be at nursery and you will HAVE to get out and speak to people, better to start now than having a big shock when the time comes.

:( Sounds like your relationship is not great OP, and that you're not really meeting your sons basic needs. He could easily be washed in under 5 minutes, with no risk of a cold. It's either laziness or PND. Either way you should seek some advice, as it sounds as though you need support.

he needs emotional abuse might make him grow up and stop acting like a five year old.

I had a job when I bought the games and consoles.

I've had enough of this it was a simple question, I'll probably attack him with a sponge under the armpits and that, see if that sorts him out.

Run a bath on a Sunday, at the very least... no deliveries then.

Take your baby with you and have a bath together....

get dried and dressed quickly and you will be fine.

Your baby will be fine, just get yourself ready with towels and robes beforehand.

you need to keep the skin folds clean.

DS was born on 14th Dec, it was bitter, even with heating on full bore 24 hours a day I still couldn't keep the baby bath at a decent temperature without it going icy cold in seconds, so I did leave it a week or 2 between baths, but washed the skin with warm water and the bottom etc.

Plug in radiators are much nicer and cheaper to run than fan heaters.