To not bath my son in a month

[Ryoko]

He's 7 months old and it's too damn cold in here, (he is starting to get stinky tho).

Yabu take him to a friends house to bath if it's really too cold and fan heater out of question, alternatively take him to your local pool for a paddle then shower with you, sounds like you and df need a good wash too!

Why not wait until after 7pm when the parcel deliveries have stopped and have a bath with your DS.

My heating died last week and until it was fixed i washed the baby in the kitchen sink, i put the oven on full whack and left the door open for extra warmth.

My fan heater didn't cost that much at all. In fact it was a damn sight cheaper than having the heating on. Plus if you get a decent one it should warm the room in 5/10 minutes and keep it warm enough for you to bath your son if you keep the door closed.

YABU sorry, warm water and warm towel and warm milk with cuddles on the sofa. Lovely.

Agree about having a bath in the evening yourself.

Also agree that fan heaters are very expensive to run, but the whole point is that they are good for giving a quick blast to warm the room.
Bath the baby in a small room and it'll heat up really quick.

It sounds like money is tight, but even if you're a SAHM, you get child benefit, so use the next lot to buy a fan heater and agree to only use it for, say 10 mins on days you bath your baby.

Poor chap - all the grime dead skin etc in the folds of his skin. Can you not take a warm flannel and give him like a bed bath all wrapped up in a towel. As for waiting for a parcel vs having a shower or bath for me - I would probably wash first thing in the morning or last thing at night when it is highly unlikely that a delivery man would come OR I would have a clean up when dh is at home so he could answer the door?. Re the fan heater when does he have a shower or bath ? If he feels its cold then maybe he could compromise - as it would only be for 10 mins or so when the little one comes out.

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Why is your DH saying you can't have any heating and what he says goes?
Have you literally not left the house for a week? Have you seen anyone other than DH or DS during that time?
Ryoko I know you have posted about problems in the past and I don't want to drag stuff from other threads in but I think you need to make some decisions and make some changes.

Why don't you top and tail him? Keep his trousers on and wash his top half, then dry him and put his top on, then wash his bottom half and dry.

Then only half of him is cold at any time and its not so bad.

This is unbelievable. How can you think it is ok not to clean your child? If you really feel it is too cold like you claim there are other places you can bath him like your parents or friends

Get an oil heater, i'm surprised at how much heat ours gives off, cost something silly like 3p an hour to run too

I second the suggestion on having the oven on! Gotto be resourceful in this situation, will take 5 mins in and out of a basin if you have to! Have everything prepared before getting him wet so you can wrap him in towel straight after! ( or to open door for delivery )

Anyway hope you are ok, things sound tough

nextchapter, OP doesn't think it is OK. If she thought that, she wouldn't be posting.

Actually, bit of a strange poet, are you ok woman ??

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YABU. Take an evening, run a bath and all of you get in together to save on hot water. Fun for the baby too.

Or, wash him in the basin! DS is just 3 and I still wash him in the basin now (we do have a fairly big one though) first thing in the morning after removing his night nappy.

Failing that - do a blanket/towel bath on the poor baby - that way, only one section of him is exposed to the air at once while you wash it, then you cover it with the towel again and do the next bit.

If you don't do something, you run the risk of him getting thrush in the warm moist areas, including his armpits.

get in together in teh evening and don't be so silly.A cheap heater is better than nothing Who is df? he sounds a tight bugger if he doesn't want his partner and child to be warm and clean

If you can leave the house order a fan heater over the web.

Your DP will have to put up with the higher energy bills.

yes of course you're b eing unreasonable. what do you think people did before central heating???

when i was growing up we had a fire in the sitting room, no jheating anywhere else. we still had baths

and as for you not bathing fora week because you're waiting for a parcel???? wtf?

Ooops, typo. I meant can't leave the house.

Something is very wrong here. You aren't washing (or presumably leaving the house) because a parcel might be delivered, you aren't washing your baby and your fiance is also not washing and won't allow you to buy a heater to enable you to wash yourself and your baby comfortably. Your posts also read a little strangely. I think there is a lot more going on than being cold. Do you need help with something?

People are generally too precious about heating nowadays anyway.

How on earth do you think everyone managed before heating was the norm??

I was going to say something similar, Ryoko, I remember a thread about you just wanting to get out of here or leave it all or something. It sounds like you are in the not so good "mummy zone" and you need to break out and get back to reality.

Its not your fault things have got this way.

Is there anything we can do? Where abouts are you? Someone needs to drag you out for a coffee and a non-judgemental chat.

By the way, as a general rule, I dont think 7 month old babies need washing all that much if their nappy area is clean and they dont have reflux...

Oh, and cold wet-wipes are character building