To not bath my son in a month

[Ryoko]

He's 7 months old and it's too damn cold in here, (he is starting to get stinky tho).

TyraG - You're hardly one to preach are you - your last post was removed for being offensive.

Ryoko is unhappy. She's venting. If that helps her get her act together at home then all's good.

are we really congratulating someone for bathing their baby?

queen, people congratualted me for bathing my girls when I was severely depressed

it really did help

and I woud like to say that depression can turn you into someone you are not

my girls ended up on the register after neil died because of the state of the house and the state of them

I am disgusted with myself and they were off the register at the first opportunity that they could have been taken off
the huge amounts of supprt and help I got from masses of people on mumsnet was invaluable, literally priceless, I cannot thank them enough

I think the op needs help

I grew up in the arctics of Scotland where there was ice on the insides of the windows(and that was in spring),we still had to wash, brrrrr!
Go on, don't be so soft, give that baby a bath.

Queen maybe literally, yes but more so, I congratulated Ryoko for making huge progress today in the care of her son. Hugely beneficial to both her and her baby, I think and baby steps of progrss are what inevitably gets you out of these situations.

Ryoko, please come back. There are those like trinity here, brave enough to share your story to let you know you are not being judged by all and sundry and at the end of the day are human.

Jesus - sorry about all the mistakes in last post. Complete baby brain (Im blaming it on anyway )

Yeah Animation I told someone who got snarky with me to go fuck themselves.

Venting is one thing, advocating abuse is something entirely different. Rationalise all you want, but no matter how you wrap it, it's still crap.

I see some did not read the intervening posts since about 1am until posting, hence there are still some misconceptions floating about...

And the MN Nazis strike again.

Hi TyraG. I earlier asked where BarbieLovesKen had actually suggested that abuse of another was 'deserved' (as to the best of my knowledge, BLK had written no such thing, yet was at the sharp end of your subsequent comments (some now deleted) and I still think you have been directing your comments at the wrong person.

On the matter of yet another post of yours being deleted... It's pretty much standard that if you are argumentative or abusive to moderators or owners of a message board, your comments may be deleted and eventually if you continue to annoy, you may be banned. I guess you are looking forward to that as you may claim it is another nail in the coffin of free speech, where others may see it rather differently...

I never said BarbieLovesKen said that. If you had read my post, I stated that Ryoko had said that in an earlier post. If people ever bothered to read a whole thread before posting, perhaps they'd be more informed about what is going on. I know it may be asking too much for people to do that, but I guess I'm just a PITA like that.

I don't have a copy of your (first) deleted post but you went from an insult directed at BLK to a statement that anyone suggesting someone deserves to be abused was wrong.

I don't believe there was any mention of Ryoko having said it, else I would never have asked for a quote from a post by BLK. I had seen earlier comments in the thread, and asked first time (18:42) whether there was some post from BLK you could quote from, or whether you had mixed her post with that of someone else...

There was no clear explanation for your abuse directed at BLK, or at least, no explanation in your post... must have been some justification, in your head at least, that was missing from the post you made.

While it may have been clear to you as to who wrote what, I don't do "mind reading" and would not have asked for clarification had I known what you were thinking but failed to adequately communicate via your post!

So yes, I did read your post, but trust I can be forgiven for not knowing the aspects you were thinking but failed to include, when you came to click the 'post message' button..

Fine, you want proof you got it. I went back through the whole thread and found what you wanted. As for BLK, she made a snarky remark aimed at me and I just told her what she could do with it.

Ryoko Sat 11-Dec-10 14:15:52
he needs emotional abuse might make him grow up and stop acting like a five year old.

I had a job when I bought the games and consoles.

I've had enough of this it was a simple question, I'll probably attack him with a sponge under the armpits and that, see if that sorts him out.

TyraG Sun 12-Dec-10 08:40:41
Clean the poor child, get off your ass, get a job and get the hell out of there then apply for child support.

Honey if I can bathe a 3 and 4 year old by myself (together no less) you can bathe one 7 month old baby. Give me a damned break.

BarbieLovesKen Sun 12-Dec-10 09:10:51
Ryoko how are you feeling this morning?

I cant actually believe some of the replies on here - absolutely fucking disgusting. Very helpful all. Well done. No doubt, the OPs child will now be very well looked after as you've told her how awful she is and to get a grip. Job done.

Tyra your medal is in the post..

TyraG Sun 12-Dec-10 20:08:45
Ryoko mentioned in an earlier post that her DF deserved some emotional abuse. If she thinks that way then I will not be giving her any sympathy. NO ONE deserves to be abused. If he's an ass, leave him, but "dishing back" is not acceptable. It just drops you down to their level.

Thanks for posting, but it really only gives concrete proof to the mixture of comments you responded to, in a somewhat OTT way.

So, yes, Ryoko posted her views (and you were not alone in deploring them). Quite understand your viewpoint (and hers, FWIW).

Your 'get a grip' style comment was 'jumped on' by BLK, only in respect of naming you as one eligible for a medal (think the criticism was more widespread, and FWIW, I have to agree, many of those critical views may well not have helped Ryoko at all).

Then, you decided to "dish back" in writing what you did and directed your 'go f%$! yourself' at BLK, in the post MN deleted.

At least that has cleared up the why and what happened, even if first time round I read the comments as being that BLK had suggested Ryokos partner 'deserved some abuse' and that was not the case, just unclear when you failed to mention Ryoko (again, in the post which was deleted).

Finally some real clarity as to why you posted. Thanks for your patience.

Not bathing a baby in a month is neglectful. If you have such sever depression that you can't wash a baby then you need to get help. If you chose not to then it really is just neglect.

As for waiting in a week for a parcel...

Strictly - if it is depression then it's unlikely to be a case of choosing not to get help.

I'm almost sure that OP has said previously on other threads that she is on the spectrum and has an unusual way of looking at things?
Apologies if I'm wrong but I don't think I am.

homeboys - someone was in touch using 'message poster' - hope some with personal experience have also used that mechanism.

BPB OP has a history of depression, though isn't keen on medication from what I remember.

Really hope she's ok. :(

wow. cannot get over the lack of common sense still prevailent in some people.