To not bath my son in a month

[Ryoko]

He's 7 months old and it's too damn cold in here, (he is starting to get stinky tho).

Another person here thinking of you this morning, Ryoko. Let us know how you are if you possibly can x

It is the woman who fills in the tax credit form and applies for it, not the man.

Bath she is on ML

She doesnt need a heater she has gas central heating but refuses to use it, it cost about 50p to put it on for an hour. Why hasnt she done that.

She is not stupid, she is apathetic, and maybe of low intelligence. That however does not excuse putting herself wtih regards buying games before a young baby who only needs 50p worth of heating a day.

Someone who does the obsessive game play needed to be a games tester is NEVER on ML...

What she is in is DENIAL about how much she is playing on computer games and how much she is neglecting her child if she hasn;t left the house in 2 weeks and hasn;'t bathed him in 4..

I agree there are too many inconsistencies here - I am concerned for this child... What can be done?

Ryoko just realised DF means fiance. You already know he is tight and lazy. Don't marry him.

Ryoko buys food, dc has toys and warm clothes. Problem is washing of dc and DF controlling what is spent on heating bills. Also rykoko seems depressed, finds stairs and going out difficult etc.

What can be done? Ryoko has said she will give dc sponge bath. Ryoko needs to get outside help. But she has been driven away from advice here by judgemental posts.

Just thinking further about this situation I'm now concerned that the child hasn't left the house while the OP has been waiting for her PS3.

Have I missed this being mentioned, all children need fresh air as well as cleanliness.

OP - can you reassure us that your DS is getting regular freash air and walks please.

where I live is freezing, its like being outside sometimes - single glazing etc. I bath mine every night because it WARMS HIM UP - the water is warm! I put his towel and jamies on the radiator and wrap him up straight away after a dunk. If you have a hot shower in the bathroom, then do his bath in the bathroom immediately after the room will still be a bit warmer from the steam

And if you miss the delivery won't you get a delivery docket with a way to pick it up elsewhere? I have a package comming some time this week but DS has been out to town and play group etc.

YABVU. Take the kid out to the public swimming pool, it needs an outing and a wash.

Well done, Ryoko!

I dont think the OP is coming back. And how can you all check her previous posts when i caqnt click on her name!

Cheeky - use Advanced Search, up on the top Right of the page. you can search any poster's posting history by name.

That's so good Ryoko! There are nice people here to advise. Ignore the horrible ones. And I hope you get some RL help as well.

Do we know a location so someone can maybe offer some RL support?

Well done on bathing your ds, you both must feel much better for that :)

The censorship on here is unbelievable. Yes you're allowed to have an opinion, so long as it's the right one. Whatever happened to freedom of speech?!

TyraG - Maybe you are mistaken with your venomous attack on 'BarbieLovesKen'...

I saw mention of depression from BLK but nothing about "another person deserves to be abused". Is there an actual quote you can show for her suggesting that ? If not, have you mixed her post with some other ?

I could not quote ZacknJakesMuma's post in full but it was an out-and-out attack on the OP (certainly in the view of MNHQ) so perhaps the solution is to tone down the language used.

I suspect many are shocked and/or angry but however strong one's views, there comes a point where criticism goes over some threshold and becomes offensive - maybe you have guessed what triggered your post being censored ZJM - I feel positive I know the key word that caused anxiety at MNHQ and resulted in your earlier post being removed.

For obvious reasons I'm not going to repeat it, but it seems like a poorly thought out comment to have made and undeniably offensive, especially if Ryoko has been depressed. Don't think you should shout too loudly about censorship - it was unspeakably nasty to post as you did.

I'm thinking of you Ryoko. Ignore the nasty posts. Your situation sounds really hard.

Ryoko, well done on bathing your ds. I understand how difficult the most medial of tasks can appear some times but regardless, you've got up and got on with it. You've said before that your ds is well fed, played with and loved - now hes clean too . You should feel a little better about this.

I think its sometimes hard for people to understand when they have never being in the same situation (or close to) so again, please ignore those attacking you.
How are you feeling tonight?

To clarify: my earlier post was in direct response to the question being asked - the topic of this thread which states "Am I being unreasonable to not bath my child in a month". Not a comment on the health, mental or otherwise of the woman asking the question. Unlike other people posting on here, I do not consider myself to be a qualified health professional who can diagnose any type of condition by reading a few forum posts. What I cannot understand is how it is ok to band around glib diagnoses of a very serious condition such as PND but to use a word to disagree with a question which references mental health is not.

On the subject of this thread and my response to it, I stand by everything else I said as I do find the thought of a 7 month old baby living in a house that is so cold he hasn't been washed for a month largely due to the dysfunctional situation his parents have created for him, extremely disturbing and upsetting.

Furthermore I am astonished that any parent cannot see for themselves that this is an unacceptable
situation and has to ask people they have never met on an Internet forum if this is the case.

To censor my response entirely is a massive overreaction and to call what I said 'unspeakably nasty' melodramatic to say the least.

If MN is going to allow people to post about neglecting their children, then it should expect people to react. And I'm sorry, but the person I'm worried about is that poor little baby, not the adult who is supposed to be caring for him who is playing computer games and typing on the Internet instead.

Ryoko mentioned in an earlier post that her DF deserved some emotional abuse. If she thinks that way then I will not be giving her any sympathy. NO ONE deserves to be abused. If he's an ass, leave him, but "dishing back" is not acceptable. It just drops you down to their level.