To wear a mid thigh tight velvet dress when i am 39?

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Well, thoughts please?

And it's not rude to say - there there now dear when you're a bit older you will understand??? She thinks people in their late thirties who wear short dresses look like tarts and in RL a lot of people agree (just not the the people on here in their late thirties who wear short skirts). If you're in your late 30's you could have a teenage child who would likely be cringing to death at you getting your legs out. If people that age want to do it then fine but some people will think it looks bad!

Plus, theres dresses and then theres dresses. Thigh high, knee high or barely-knicker-covering.
I have seen many a celebrity, in a Jodie Marsh type dress, that had more material than a knitted hanky, and thought, god thats vile.
Not age dependant.

Gonna follow Jajas lead here and give up.

Yep, gonna wobble my surface-of-the-moon thighs off this here thread

I did feel like my opinion was not worth much to you due to my age. Hence me feeling so strongly about trying to express my thoughts.

I never cringed at anything my parents done whilst i was growing up, so not all treenagers cringe at everything their parent do or wear.

Thank god for that :o

poly,not being provocative as i am glad this thread has calmed down but a genuine question here,you are married to a man in his 30's do you expect him to dress like an old man too,my dh is also in his 30s and wears very stylish and often edgy clothes.I really cant think of a good example for guys but do you know what i am saying?

He's 31 and dresses like a 31 year old! lol he doesnt walk about wearing the same fashions my 16 y/o brother does, but he doesn't wear an 'old man cap' (altho he does really like them which is a bit strange lol). He dresses somewhere inbetween and if i'm honest, dresses like a man and not a little teenage boy.

yes thats kind of what i was getting at,i think yes if an older woman wore for example a super dry outfit or a leopard print mini it would be vile but cos of excercise and better nutrition women do look much better than they used to in the past-i look at pics of my mum/nan at my age and they looked about 100 :)I expect when you hit your 30's you will have a whoops moment when you still like top shop or new look,i did.I still amaze myself that im the age i am arrrgh it comes quickly enjoy it,and be happy you will still be able to have a pride in your appearance when it comes!! Have a nice day.

Yes if you look good in it. I wore quite a short and figure hugging frock on Sat. I bought very high heels and very thick tights and I think I got away with it.

BF liked it - but then he's not exactly objective.

I dont think there is anything wrong with being in your 30's (or older) and shopping in topshop or new look. lol i think it's what people choose to buy from there that is the 'whoops moment'. They have lovely jeans, tops, work clothes, dresses & gorgoues shoes in NL :) but if u choose things that dont make other people cringe when they see you then there is nothing wrong with that :D

If only I had the legs for it

well at fifty I've just lowered my skirt length to mid thigh. my husband and teenage daughter thinks i look great, and so do my friends,(who are all women, i don't do this because I'm after a man) but bear in mind that you can only wear one slutty item at a time, if I wear a short skirt it is with boots with mid height heels a long sleeved top with a high neck and thick tights plus I am tall and thin.

ha if you don't wear the clothes you like now when are you going to wear them.

also match the clothes to the company, and don't go standing next to any teenagers

Well Polly I would wear a mini-dress to soft play. It was floral, high-necked, long sleeved, covered most of my (fairly long) legs, worn with a slouchy cardigan and 120 denier opaques.

I never realised that my flippant and rather dull & solipsistic piece of information would inspire such anger.

Do you measure the mums' skirt lengths when they come into your nursery?

A world in which the following people are banned from wearing short skirts:

Jerry Hall
Twiggy
Kylie
Ru Paul
Cilla Black
Tess Daley
Cher
Vivienne Westwood
Joanna Lumley
Janet Street-Porter
Lily Savage
Tina Turner

is not a world in which I wish to live.

a mini dress covered most of your fairly long legs? I dont get it?

Most of the parents that come inot the nursery are off to work. So they are either in a uniform or suits. And from what i have seen their skirts have all been part of a suit etc so are not short at all lol

Altho maybe i should stand with a ruler at the door? lol THAT IS A JOKE!!!

thighs
my bad.

I work - I don't wear a uniform or a suit.

Thighs, i get it now!!! lol It sounds like a nice outfit, i just dont know if i would wear a dress (mini one or not) to a soft play lol

I didnt say that u wear a uniform or a suit. I said most of the parents that come into MY nursery are wearing that. Or trousers lol

Damn, I find myself back on this thread again. I ought to have more self-control!

yangymac 'Any age can have a "whoops" moment.'

Indeed. I was in the supermarket earlier this evening, and saw a woman (early twenties at most) in a white skirt which almost just covered her bum, bare legs ('tis freezing out!) and a tiny vest top. 'Whoops' moment if ever I saw one!

I fear I may be getting irrationally irritated by this, but I really do object to women being told 'oh, you are too old for that ' or 'your skirt is too short, you ought to be dressed more age appropriate'. If you feel comfortable and confident, dress how you please and don't fret about the opinions and judgement of others.

Polly ... Am really not having a go, but 'I did feel like my opinion was not worth much to you due to my age. Hence me feeling so strongly about trying to express my thoughts. ' Really?

Honestly, I don't think you were given a hard time due to your age. More likely than not, it was due to your somewhat rude and judgmental attitude.

Expressing your opinion is fine, but cheerfully announcing that it?s ?slutty? (a horrible term for one woman to use about another under any circumstances) for a woman in her thirties or forties to wear a short skirt, after many woman on this thread have stated that they do exactly that, is rude. It?s even ruder to then up the ante and start ranting and swearing when challenged.
And the poster who said it?s because woman secretly know it?s true ? what rubbish, it?s because they know damn well it isn?t true that they are put out.
Frankly it is just not okay for to insult people and then hide behind ?just expressing an opinion?, and then being offended if people in return ?just? express their opinion on what was said. Can?t have it both ways, I?m afraid.
I?ll not be called a slut for my clothing choices. It?s beyond offensive.

Oh you're making my ears ache now.

What is completely ridiculous is the concept that one anonymous poster can genuinely insult another about her appearance by referring generally to a way of dressing as "slutty". Similarly, that anyone would care if someone states she thinks she looks amazing - they could be a bald 500lb man who cannot get out of bed -

toughen up a bit, move on, try something else -that's what I'm off to do.