To wear a mid thigh tight velvet dress when i am 39?

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Well, thoughts please?

Well i dont think of ladies as being someone that has to wear a hat and gloves? altho im sure women wear them too!! FFS

A lady to me does not conure up thoghts of something unpleasant as it clearly does to you 'women' so if u would prefer me to have used women then i would have.

I didnt know you would all over react as i used the word lady instead of woman.

Polly I mean the kind of hats and gloves you see on Mad Men not the kind of ones we've all been wearing this winter!
And you wondered why some people might find the term 'lady' offensive and I'm just not comfortable with the restricted code of behaviour that goes with that term in my mind, but hey that's just me.

mad men?? lol There i go again, only being 21!!! lol altho hubby is in his 30s and he doesnt know what that means either.

If thats what you think of a lady then thats fine. Your mind

zoley ... She is fecking fab! Although I am a wee bit jealous of her tiny legs!

Polly , I think zoley meant 'hats and gloves' in the 60s hats and 'little white gloves' sense. As in, being a submissive, meek, little white glove wearing 50's housewife.

zoley... Slap on your best inappropriate dress and lets go out for wine

Tis a TV series, was on BBC4 and has been apparently inspiring a lot of retro fashion. The 'Ladies' for the most part dress very ladylike!
Trying to find a pic of Betty Draper in full on hat 'n' gloves 'n' handbag mode to give you an idea...

I'll pass

Untitled I have many such items in my wardrobe! Where's the corkscrew?

Hmm. Am in my wee black, strappy dress ... Cin cin!

Polly, altho you may be mature in some ways, being grown up isn't all about having children, an older husband and a business.
It's about accepting others for who they are and for their lifestyle choices. Our attitudes to others change as we age and what seems certain at 21 can be very different at 31 - as you will find out for sure.

That's very patronising.

untitled In my skinny jeans, thanks for the white, cheers much appreciated!

I second Lara-Jade's comment, certainly found that the case with me. Not being patronising it's just the mellowing effect of age ha ha!

Not meant to be patronising, i just know MY life and attitudes, and those of my friends have changed a lot in ten years or so. BTW i first wore a hoody at 13, a ra-ra skirt at 12, skinny jeans at 11, leggings at 16 and chunky boots with minis at 17. Didn't think we'd be wearing them all again now!
The best part of being older is that everyday products or treatments we now take for granted were either expensive luxuries or didn't exist.

YANBU - if you have the figure. Which I do not.

how do you feel when you put it on? if you fel fab you will look fab . the black tights sound nice with high heels its a look i often go for . have a great time ps the dress sounds gorgeous.

All body celebration, etc., aside, though, what can be indulged as a foible of youth on a young woman will be judged much more harshly on someone older. You do have to choose your attire a bit more carefully once you hit 35ish, or once your boobs and derriere begin to go south and you start to develop 'laugh lines', whichever comes first.

Velvet is actually making a come back, I was in my local NewLook The other day and nearly everything I picked up had velvet on it!

If you like it, feel comfortable in it, then go for it. It is ultimately your choice at the end of the day, you'll be the one wearing it.

My mum is 61, she has great legs and regularly shows them of (yes of course opaques, not with cleavage etc. She looks great. I am 34 never remotely considered changing my hemlines .Luckily we all have nice legs in my family. I dont however wear bikinis or hotpants anymore.

I don't think age is as relevant as what your legs look like. If you have a great set of pins, why not show them off? I don't any more - but I did at 39. Then I had a baby
and it all went a bit wrong and I acquired too many wobbly bits.:(
Oh yes, you probably need to have a non-saggy arse as well. And actually having an arse would help - I knew a Malaysian lady years ago who had no bum at all - it was just flat! Amazing. Very limiting for nice clothes.

I'd wear black semi-opaques under it though - probably 20deniers or something like that.

Another point - I could never, can never and will never wear a skirt that ends just above the knee - it looks shocking on me. My legs are just the wrong shape/length/whatever for that style.

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polly thank you for the private message.

If you go back and read my post you will see that I was fair, I didn't patronise you, I didn't get personal, I just offered my opinion on the issue. I wasn't 'sticking my nose in' and I would appreciate it if you didn't send personal messages to my inbox which are aggressive in tone. I was actually nice to you in my post, I thought - I just objected to the use of the word 'slut'. If anybody else goes back to my post, a couple of pages back, then they will see that I said nothing even mildly inflammatory and nothing which warrants such a message.

As you say yourself, this is a public forum, so I feel I had every right to comment. And as I wasn't offensive or rude in any way, I would like to have that right respected, thank you.

God wouldnt you like to meet polly when she is our age?I thought people were "old" when i was younger too but would never have insulted them.

Maybe that will learn her!She does seem immature and clueless tho.my dil is 22 and is always very complimentary about how i dress and calls me yummy mummy in law we have the kind of relationship that she could(and has) told me if something is a bit muttony.
Polly dont be frightend off mn,just remember the majority of us around the age that you consider too old to be fashionable.

I really don't want to gang up on you at all polly and I have no doubt that you are a successful businesswoman and a great mum, and I totally agree that you're entitled to your opinion. I am just a bit at the way you've gone about expressing it - I hope you know that's all I am objecting to.