to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

POINT {here}

DOMINATRIX {here}

missed by miles.

Um, that's what we just said? What's your point?

The thing is, if someone calls me Mrs or Miss, they've already made an assumption about my marital status - and they've already assumed I would prefer to be addressed in such a way that gestures towards that.

Obviously, ignoring them using those terms doesn't do anything to correct those assumptions, does it?

Oh do calm down dominatrix, there's a dear.

Fair point, LoudRowdyDuck:
..it's only fair to say that some men would love to be able to announce their marital status, too. It's not my thing, but it's perfectly understandable.

Perhaps instead of insisting on a neutral term for women to bring us in line with men, we should be looking to bring Master/Mister again!

I might start doing that...asking men if they are Master or Mister when I meet them or am doing business with them!

Cross post.

I don't care if people think I'm married or single. But I don't very much like it when people think they should make my marital status part of the way they address me. I don't want to be called 'MsLRD-ethnicallyCaucasian-bisexual-brunette-with-a-34D-cup-bra', so why should I enjoy being called 'Mrs', either?

They sound like my kind of people! I like people who speak out against equality.

Yes, I know what you mean Dom. I do know some people who use it just to annoy others - I'd never complain if someone elderly used 'Mrs' or even 'Mrs Husband'sFirstName Husband'sLastName', because it's often just what older people think you have to use.

I have noticed though that those people my age who use 'Mrs' tend equally to be of a particular personality type - huge bridezillas who're still chewing over their perfect day years later. In fact I could safely say that on facebook, the number of people who use 'Mrs' is exactly the same as the number who still have profile pics of themselves in wedding gear!

Inequality I meant to say!

Why do I care? There are titles available, Ms, Miss, Mrs, Dr, High Priestess of Fecking Pluto if you like...and I have chosen mine. I expect my choice to be respected and used.

You don't repeatedly call someone Dr if you have been told they are Mr (or vice versa) so why is it ok to repeatedly call me Mrs/Miss if I have told you its Ms?

WTF is wrong with wanting to be called that?

How so?

If you mean people who use 'Ms' aren't the sort of people who're bridezillas, I'm pleased! You may well be right, too.

'Priestess of Fecking Pluto'

Bonnie ... you know who I am?

Of course. Shame your planet isn't a planet anymore, though a lot of people still insist on calling it one. Fucking rude if you ask me.

Sorry, how have I proved your theory? What's the theory? I'm curious.

A bridezilla, btw, is a faintly derogatory term for someone who thinks their wedding is more important than their marriage.

Billy - Lies! How dare you? I choose to use an antiquated title that's been in use for hundreds of years, that should be good enough for you.

It's not as if Pluto being a planet was a recent discovery, I ask you.

I think that Ms is over represented on here-mainly because the few people who are bothering are posting. In RL I find that people are generally Miss or Mrs. I find it odd that I have had 3DCs go through school and collectively they have had 2 teachers called Ms. I supply teach and go to lots of schools and in my whole career I could count on one hand the number of teachers who use Ms. The whole thing is a waste of time anyway as the DCs don't understand it, in primary, and they interchange Mrs and Miss!
I can see that it isn't anyone's business, but I can't see why it matters if they know.
It isn't anyone's business that I am short sighted but wearing specs lets people know-again it isn't important-I'm neither ashamed or proud of it.

Schools are terrible for Mrs and Miss. So socially conservative. It's like going back to the 50s.

Sensible edam-have you ever heard a 5yr old trying to say Ms?!

Erm ... doesn't it just sound like 'miz'? Rhymes with fizz? Why is that hard for a 5-year-old to say?

You are another one who hasn't heard it either! On the odd occasion that a teacher has been Ms, they are quite agressively so (I don't bother-if they call me miss I just let it wash over-it isn't important),and the DCs have corrected me and the way they manage Ms makes me quite pleased that I don't use it!

they can't seem to cope with it rhyming with fizz.