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to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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bubbles22 · 18/11/2010 16:09

I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

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SummerRain · 21/11/2010 19:25

lol pieces, it's catholic rural ireland.... they still haven't quite accepted the possibility of unmarried parents Wink

piscesmoon · 21/11/2010 19:29

I see the problem! Where I live they are just as likely to be unmarried, have a variety of surnames and a variety of titles so 'parent of...' covers it all, without offence.

LeQueen · 21/11/2010 19:32

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Tori27 · 22/11/2010 21:21

Edam - I am not thick. Not sure why you feel the need for personal insults. In my experience, the only people I know who choose Ms are divorced women. All my unmarried friends are Miss and all my married friends are Mrs - therefore, I am not misinformed, simply expressing what I know from personal experience.

Most of us don't care what people call us - it's only those who want to be Ms that seem to stress. Wish I had so little worries in my life for that to be so high up!

whiteflame · 23/11/2010 04:17

Bunbaker unfortunately then you still have the same problem, and people think you're a bit full of yourself if you correct them!!

seeker · 23/11/2010 04:32

The obvious solution to the issue is for all women to be Ms.

The title has as long a history as Mrs or Miss, but fell into disuse before being revived in the 20th century.

Andfor those who say "Oh, it's so hard to pronounce" - are you saying Mrs is easy to pronounce?

I think you'd find Ms easy enough once you remove the unspoken inverted commas and lower your raised eyebrows.

dockate · 23/11/2010 09:12

I am Dr. I dislike Mrs although I am married, but I generally don't make an issue of it. It does irritate me though when people phone for 'Dr X' and are then surprised when it is me rather than my husband; I do quite enjoy their embarrassment when they realise the crass assumption they have made.

DH's family don't seem to be able to manage 'Dr and Mr' on cards etc; it used to bother me when we were newly married, but I have more important things to worry about these days.

iggiii · 23/11/2010 20:22

Lovely post seeker, so true about the eyebrows!

iggiii · 23/11/2010 20:22

Lovely post seeker, so true about the eyebrows!

seeker · 23/11/2010 21:57

I think raised eyebrows must stretch the mouth somehow, so that "Ms" becomes difficult to say.

iggiii · 24/11/2010 17:59

I'm going to market that as a facial exercise dvd.

ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers · 24/11/2010 18:08

"it's only those who want to be Ms that seem to stress."

Maybe that's because the only those who wish to be called Ms have a problem with getting other people to actually address them with that title.

seeker · 24/11/2010 21:09

""it's only those who want to be Ms that seem to stress."

Well, no shit, Sherlock!

iggiii · 24/11/2010 22:05

Just thinking,I ordered something in a M&S store this week and I was asked "what's your title?" - much better than the usual "is it miss or mrs?" Which makes the asker's expectations pretty clear!

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