to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

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YABU,but then I really struggle to understand why people get so upset about names! (I am a very happy Mrs!)

Melrose - because men don't have to reveal their marital status when they use a title, so why should we? What's so important about classifying us women according to marital status?

For me, it's the principle. If there was an equivalent for me, I wouldn't bother about it and would happily use Miss/Mrs. I think the use of a 'marital status' title harks back to a time when women were men's property. I can't think of any other reason why a man's title would stay the same and why a woman's would change. Bit old fashioned to me!

Equivalent for men I meant to say.

'Pisces I will judge women who say they are "sexist" because it's a slightly sick thing to say'

I said it very much tongue in cheek quoting from the pserson who said it was sexist-it is a pity that inflection isn't heard in written language!
I am amazed that anyone is bothered about marital status and thinks that others are!

Why do women not mind women's marital status being announced in their title whereas "Mr" is a neutral term?

I realise that some people say "it doesn't matter" but are people not bothered by the double standard?

Piscesmoon it's the people who insist on using (or calling others by) Mrs/Miss who are bothered about marital status, not the ones who want to use a neutral term.
With regard to age, I find the younger women I work with much more likely to use Miss than Ms, and also to change name when they get married.

Jessie, it's only fair to say that some men would love to be able to announce their marital status, too. It's not my thing, but it's perfectly understandable.

I don't think that those who use Mrs or Miss could care two hoots about whether someone is married or not they just find Ms unpronounceable and cringeworthy. Are you suggesting that somehow it is inferior to be a 'Miss' or a 'Mrs'? -I really don't understand. I am married and I don't care who knows-if I was unmarried I wouldn't care who knew-it isn't a secret.

Of course not a secret but it is none of their business!
Don't know why I always let mysel get sucked into this debate, it's one of those ones where no-one ever changes their mind!
Feel a coming on.

You really don't seem to understand, but it has been made very clear.
Women are supposed to announce their marital status to all and sundry.
Men are not.
This says something about the view of women in our society. Why does it matter to anyone but me if I am married, or divorced, or single, or widowed? Its old-fashioned, outdated and irrelevant.

pisces, it may be a generational thing, but most of those people I know who call themselves Mrs are either very proud of being married and want it to be public knowledge, or their husbands find it very important that it be public knowledge. Few people these days call themselves 'Mrs' as the default, because of course it is much more of a faff to change your details than to keep them the same.

Hundreds of years of tradition?!

Erm ... please, do tell me about those hundreds of years when 'Mrs' was a standard title ...

Who rattled your cage Dominatrix?
Not sure if you actually read the OP, doesn't sound like it.

Your username is not appropriate Dominatrix.

Dominatrix - that's ridiculous. And your attitude is why I continue to politely request people get it right. I don't wnt to be different - that's the point. I want to be treated similarly to a man and not have my title reflect my marriage.

I also made it clear to DH that if he didn't wear a wedding ring, I wouldn't. I am happy to wear one and love mine, but there was no way I was declaring my marraige to the world if DH didn't.

You clearly give a shit, Dom, since your're taking the time to try badly to be clever and sneery about it.

And who the fuck mentioned being independent or radical? I'm neither, I just don't wish to advertise my personal relationships.

Wrong actually. Wife was synonymous with woman for centuries, neither Goodwife or Mistress advertised a womans marital status.

And you're proving our point. Thats exactly what we are saying, the only people concerned about our marital status is ourselves, so why do you have a problem with us keeping it to ourselves?

Yes, Dom. But also, over past centuries, men had Father, Gaffer, Goodman, Husband, and so on. As a rule, these titles (for men and women) weren't acquired at marriage, but denoted seniority. Even as recently as the beginning of the last century, it wasn't unusual for women in certain professions to be 'Mrs' whether they were married or not.

This contrasts with the modern situation, in which 'Mrs' denotes a married woman.

Cross-post.

Btw, 'husband' literally means the person who keeps the household together - not necessarily a married man. Wife just means a mature woman.