to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

I have been addressed on an envelope as Mrs husbands initial, both our surname (I changed my name to his on marriage). I liked it. I am still me.

Beenbeta - I am a bus driver however I don't expect to be called bus driver when I'm off duty; why do you expect to be called Dr?

Sounds a bit pompous tbh

Moos - I was making a joke. I dont expect to be called Dr ever. In my earlier post I said people call me Mr all the time and never say anything. I just dont think anyone should make a fuss about Mr, Ms, Mrs, Prof, Sir, Lord, whatever.

Plus a Dr called 'Mr' in his profession makes higher up the ranks eh Beta

And so you should. Because your private, or indeed public, opinions on what anyone chooses to call themselves are completely irrelevant.

It is a non-issue, except apparently for those who think that their opinion on other peoples titles are worth listening to.
I'll call you Mrs, you call me Ms, and lets all shut the fuck up about it.

Nothing changes unless people want things to change and without the small vocal minority demanding change it usually has no basis to spring from. Sometimes change happens quickly somestimes changes need to simmer for a while.

Maybe it is a non issue - maybe there's no difference in the way woman and men really get treated...maybe there's no such thing as sexism or rascist or homophobia anymore - just bitter, twisted, aggressive overbearing failures...maybe nothing needs to change, it's already perfect.

Your opinion of my first name is irrelevant but I will correct you if you get it wrong. your opinion on my choice of hot beverage is irrelevant but I will correct you if you say coffee when I chose tea.

Do you really find it so hard to understand? Ms is my title. Mrs is not. Ms is on my driving licence and my credit card. If you are using a title for me I would like the right one. I could not care in the slightest whether you think all Ms types are strident harridans, or whether you think married women should be Mrs, or whatever your opinion is. Your opinion does not matter to me, whatever it is.

Surely anyone with an IQ higher than a potato can grasp such a simple prospect

Its like talking to a fucking wall.

Piss off then.

If someone calls a woman Miss and she said it's Mrs then they would change to Mrs * without thinking about it.

However, if someone calls a woman Mrs and she says it's Ms people seem to think that she's making a big fuss about it.

Why? She isn't, she's simply correcting the title, same as the first example. People only seem to think that a woman is making a big fuss when she asks to be called Ms.

Okay completely off topic but why did my *s come up as 3 when I put 5 in

Hmmm interesting..i will go back to my original point..no one gives a fuck about your title..sorry if that hurts...if you are fortunate someone may get it right..but they will mostly make a guesstimate/presumption and correct themselves after you have informed them perhaps with an apology in tow if you are lucky...unwind ya neck and come to terms..

I have no problem with someone getting it wrong the first time, although it's better to ask then assume. I would be annoyed if someone insisted on using the wrong title once I'd corrected them.

I don't think she's making a fuss I don't give a shit..quite happy to accept correction...

I think chaoticchristmas has summed up the issue beautifully.
I don't get the "noone cares about your title" posts. I never use a title when referring to myself, but people often ask me for one, for forms etc. Titles clearly matter to those people.
If someone called me Mr I would correct it, why shouldn't I if they call me Miss/Mrs.

I think chaoticchristmas has summed up the issue beautifully.
I don't get the "noone cares about your title" posts. I never use a title when referring to myself, but people often ask me for one, for forms etc. Titles clearly matter to those people.
If someone called me Mr I would correct it, why shouldn't I if they call me Miss/Mrs.

The only people who your title matters to are people who barely know you and also care deeply about your Date of birth, Postcode other such gems ..

so if you are filling a form then you make the choice, if a person who barely knows you has to make a choice they will make one they deem appropriate unless indicated in another way..ie they have your details infront of them on paper...and that in turn may cause a person to be given the incorrect title...

I have actually called a woman Ms..and was corrected and told 'Actually I'm a Miss' you take a leap and you could be wrong..but no one but you truly cares about your title I see nothing wrong with a person correcting a person who mis-titles them...but to get annoyed?...

I haven't read all the posts, so this might have already been said.

Why not do a PhD and become Dr?

Because to embark on a Phd with the primary intention of getting your title changed to Dr is one of the worst reasons to partake in that level of academic activity?

dp and i aren't even married and the school send me letters addressed to Mrs. [dp's surname]

That is a bit odd SummerRain-they generally play it safe by addressing it 'the parents of....' and that solves the whole thorny problem.