to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

Well, fair enough. As I said, it just puzzles me that anyone would want to be deliberately rude to someone they didn't know. You can't pretend it doesn't smack of a slightly judgmental attitude, I think.

YANBU. This is really annoying. Basically, your gender and, in the case of women, marital status, is announced before your flpping NAME. It drives me crazy, but thirteen years of marriage and four kids down the line I am starting to give up a little bit when it comes to my feminist principles...

But it's not being deliberatley rude... it's just trying to be polite.
I personally don't take it as a judgement on my marital status.

Am happily married but did not take DH's name. Was Ms as much as possible before then too.

Hear hear timeforanap. I take the point which some have said that people should not know your title unless told but it is really annoying that there are so many ridiculous categorisations for women all based on the irrelevant fact of whether they are married or not. For men: Mr. That's it. That's all you have to say to address them, show a bit of deference if you want to, whatever people have argued for why titles are good. Why not just one title for women too?

Or none at all.

Me, I couldn't even buy a cotbed without revealing whether or not I'm married. 'I have to put something on the title and there's no Ms'

But.... why does it matter?

I'm a Miss, I get called Mrs, Ms and Madam.

tbh, the only one that really pissed me off is Madam

Has anyone pointed out yet that Mrs and Miss are only courtesy titles anyway? There's no legal requirement to use either of them regardless of marital status. In the past, unmarried men and boys used be addressed as 'Master' and older/married men 'Mr'. So calling a woman 'Mrs' rather than 'Miss' is really reflecting maturity rather than an assumption of marital status.

I really can't see why it matters. I find it more irritating that they pronounce my surname wrongly, but it isn't worth getting upset about-just correct them.

I am single and use my maiden name. I hate being called Mrs Maiden name, that was my mum. I was married once when I was in my early twenties and was always called Miss Married name, presumably because I looked too young to be a Mrs, that pissed me off a little when I was still in love with him.

I always go by Ms but hate it being assumed that just because I am a grown woman I must be Mrs, therefore married. YANBU

I'm a Ms.

My reasoning is I refuse to be titled with reference to marital status. It should not matter a hoot to British Telecom or Hydro Electric or anyone else that is likely to address me by my title whether or not I am married.

Men are not defined by marital status, why should I be?

Agree, it should be Master for a younger man, Mr for an older one and Miss and Mrs for women regardless of marital status or even forget the whole thing and just address us by our names.

Henceforth I shall insist upon being referred to as DrBeta including and especially by newbies who dont know me.

Good on ya Dr Beta.

Psst....are you a Mr or a Mrs?

I think it's wnaky

When I refer to myself I never use a title, I opt out of them on sites wherever possible, etc. The only people who call me Mrs (DP's name) are door-to-door salesmen, and telephone wankers.

I tell them Mrs DP doesn't live here [shrugs]

Sorry, I've got more important things to worry about.

A lot of my relatives (not dh's - they have made it clear they would prefer me to change my name, but do at least abide by my decision) insist on writing cards to Mr and Mrs X. This is in spite of the preacher at our wedding (at which they were all present!)making it clear that I would continue to be Ms Y, and the fact that I always write back to them putting 'FantasticDay Y' on the back of the envelope....

The school my dcs go refuse to use my real name - I got my Mrs dc's surname. Whether I'm married or not is not relevant to my dc's teacher, by continuing to refer to me by not only the incorrect title but also the incorrect name shows her as being lazy and disrespectful - not that she cared what I thought, I was only a parent!

I do correct people - but only once so they know my preference, after that it's up to them. Mostly though I prefer to use my first name, Mrs really grates on me.

I am a Ms to anyone I owe money to- bank, credit cards etc., as I need to be able to pull them up on something when they inevitably call me 'Miss' as they demand their money back.

I am a 'Miss' when I'm teaching and internet shopping, which is most of the time.

I will only be addressed as 'Mrs' if it is prefixed with 'Oooer'.

I was married at one point, and now am not, so Miss just seems really inappropriate.

At the doctors I get called Mrs My Dad's Name, and that's not me, thats my step-mum.

I have Ms on all my cards but am always b
eing asked on forms and stuff "is that Miss or Mrs"
I said Ms at Homebase, oredering some paint, and the kid working there said "oh, does that mean you are divorced?"
I said, no, it means it's nobody's business but mine. You know. Like Mister.

Mostly now I just say Dr. Or Lady. That shuts the fuckers up.

People I work with found it easy to accept me being a Ms before I got married, I think.
Children at work if they see my wedding ring are confused, as of course a Ms means someone who is divorced . Guy I bought my last phone off thought the same - couldn't understand how he could be filling in "Ms" and "married" on the same form, bless him.

Bloody irritating, esp from people who know very well that I do not call myself Mrs. H (MIL). Seems a bit up oneself to correct though.

It's a statment of fact isn't it. If you are not married you are a Miss; if you are married you are a Mrs. Personally I don't understand why anyone gets upset about it and kind of feel that only those who are unhappy about their status actually make a fuss about it.

I mind if they call me Mrs because I am Dr!!!

I do use DH's surname because I am old fashioned and it is nicer than my maiden name.

oncemai...it's not a "statement of fact" at all....how could it be when there is a third option?

You are wrong aboutthinking oly those unhappy about their status making a fuss..I am happily married...I am Ms Revenge...which is my own name.

I choose that because no man is expected to reveal his marital status in his title so why should I?
I should not have to...it's sexist and outdated.

Well I'm happy being sexist and outdated and it's never stopped me having a career.

I sexist and outdated too. I would much rather be a unit with DH and DCs than my brothers and their DCs. I get nearly everyone to call me by my first name, and if formal it is MRS but I'm not going to get upset if people change it to Ms-it isn't important.