to be get annoyed at being called Mrs..?

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I have always kept my own name and so use Ms, although I am married.

This means I am Ms X, DH is Mr Y and my boys surname is Y too.

It always causes confusion and I am for ever being called Mrs X. This makes me sound like I am desperate to cling to a previous married name!

What do other ms's do when you get called Mrs? Do you ignore or correct? It sounds pedantic yet it feels really annoying. If I wanted to be a Mrs I would have become a Mrs Y.

AIBU to pick people up on it?

Ms is also an abbreviation of Mistress.

Ms. is also an abbreviation of mistress. All three titles originated around the same time (I think) the 17th century but Ms fell out of favour until it was resurrected at the beginning of the 20th century.

I use Ms., did when I was single and still do now married. The different names thing can cause confusion but I just correct in as friendly a manner as possible in the same situations as I would if someone mispronounced. I don't think it's worth getting annoyed about, but also perfectly reasonable to correct people if they get your name wrong.

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I just correct them. It happens less and less. I mean my mum was a Ms, it's not exactly a new thing.

yabu. It really doesn't matter to anyone else. They are not going to be arsed trying to remember (unless they know you really well)

DH gets called Mr Butterbur at least as often as I get called Mrs HisName. He hates and loathes it, but still utterly fails to see why I should get annoyed at being called by his name.

You cant expect people to know what you want to be called?? ..if you have a ring on ..it's quite an easy presumption to make that you are a Mrs X...relax

Mrs is a fairly normal assumption TBH, as most married women take the husbands surname.

You made the choice to adopt the whole Ms thing, so its unreasonable to get annoyed when other people make a 'mistake'.

If you choose to keep your maiden name can you be known as Mrs MaidenName? Or does it have to be Ms MaidenName?

HRH, surely you can be either? I guess Ms would be more usual if you're keeping your name, but there are no strict rules about these things.

I get called Mrs all the time and I'm not married at all. I think they just assume I'm a Mrs from my age, appearance and air of total respectibility! (If only they knew) If I kept correcting people I'd just sound like that character Dick Emery used to play in 70's. Suspect so will the OP!

YABU...

Whether I'm single, married, divorced or all of the above is nobody's business but my own. So it's Ms for me, even though my husbands name is so much easier to pronounce than mine!

Why should we provide info on our marital status when men are always Mr?

The usual answer "tradition" really won't do, unless we challenge some stereotypes we'll always be nothing but somebody's wife (or prospective wife).

We got married in the summer and DW kept her maiden name,the kids are double barreled and I am forever being called Mr(wifes maiden name)by people phoning,delivering etc because she is in charge of online shopping,banking and the like.
We think its funny

For me, an insistence on "Ms" screams either spinster with too many cats or lesbian.

Sorry. Guess I'm from a different generation to most.

YANBU to politely correct them. I get called Mrs/Miss quite a lot, and I am Dr. I haven't corrected many people tbh, as it makes me seem stuck up. But really, why shouldn't you/I correct them? If they got our first names wrong we would point it out!

LookToWinward, yes, you are from the prejudiced, rude generation. I imagine you offend people all the time and don't even realize it. How quaint!

YANBU but I found no one in the UK who took my name, over the phone or in person, could ever really get their head around MIZZ and if they did, it was with a look like "ah yes, you're one of those who makes a big fuss about this, I ought to be careful" (I am FROM the UK by the way, not bashing it!!)

I made a huge fuss in my 20's and gave up completely in my 30's as life is too short. At least they weren't calling me fuckface, was my way through it.

I haven't read all the posts but just to make it clear:

It is being called Mrs X in particular which I get annoyed about. My husband and children have different surnames to me, so how, from that, do school assume I am a Mrs??

If you're silly enough to be offended when someone makes a pretty standard assumption about your name then that's your problem.

My name has a pretty common contraction and people who don't know me well sometimes use it but I'm not so uptight that I particularly care.

Sorry.

For example, say my sons and husband are called Jones and I am called Smith.

Why do school insist on calling me Mrs Smith?

It isn't just that I use Ms but that I kept my name - a name which is different to theirs - and yet they still say Mrs.

I can't always remember my own friend's married names, let alone expect everyone I encounter to get my title and surname correct, it's not obvious in our society and it's a bit funny to get upset about something that happens all the time, to most people, whatever title and surname combination they use.

I don't always ask friends 'so are you changing your name then?' so am not always sure what to call them after marriage, some change it later, some not at all, some aren't married, some have children with a fathers surname name, one with a mothers surname and some have new names with hyphens, or some with two surnames but no hyphen. This is without the Drs and Revs. This is enough options to cause confusion, why get bothered about it?!

I have kept my own name as both my husband and I have Dr titles, and didn't want there to be two Dr MrOnetoomanycornettos in the house. Beyond that, I don't object to my granny addressing me as Mrs Onetoomanycornettos as I know she thinks it's special and isn't doing it out of any malice.

Well I get grumpy when I'm not called Mrs and that comes from someone who in the 60s had the only divorced parents in the class (and village) and still remembers the complete shame of it and bitchy comments from those in a provincial community should have known better. I grew up determined to do it all in the "right" order, ie, engaged, married, babies and to make sure that if I had a family we all had the same name. And I can do a very snotty, esp in hospital departments: "well if my child is x x then I am of course Mrs x. Sorry but remember a lot of very snide comments from people like primary school teachers, drs and school nurse types.

Goes away to lick very old wounds.

Ok, onceamai, so what if they called you Mrs Smith and your husband was called Mr Jones and your kids Jones. What sort of weird marital set up are they implying there?

Well we all have the same name so I don't see your point.

I get Ms or Mrs when I am a Miss - it is far easier to just ignore it rather than to embarrass people if it's just conversational. I do correct it if it's business though.