to think my friend should've picked her small baby DD up 2 hours ago when I asked her to?

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I am looking after my friend's 5 month old DD today. Said friend has gone to an appointment that she couldn't take her DD to. I said fine, I would look after her. I have a childless house today and a day off work, so here I am. She was supposed to pick the baby up at 2pm, but sent me a text message to say she was doing something else and would be picking her up anytime from about now onwards.

I was not told before I agreed to the babysitting that there would be anything beyond this appointment and I specifically told my friend that I would not be able to look after the baby beyond 3pm as I had things to do.

To top it all off, the baby is exclusively breastfed and refuses to take a bottle (which my friend knows only too well) so I have had a screaming baby on my hands that my friend should have picked up two hours ago, no way to pacify her and no idea when she will be picked up.

It's the poor little baby I feel sorry for, she is hungry and tired and I can't do a thing for her.

AIBU to refuse to babysit again and be pissed off at my friend for not sticking to the plan? The extra thing is not something that needed to be done specifically today btw.

Go out, and don't be in when she comes to pick her up. Don't answer your phone for 20 minutes. Scare the shit out of the cheeky bitch.

YANBU. She needs to get her arse back, pronto. That's a horrible thing to do to a baby! And like you say, she must have known. Frankly, I'd be demanding an explanation (and I speak as the mother of a 6mo baby who is BF and won't take a bottle).

Your friend sounds like she is taking the piss. YADNBU.

How utterly bizarre. No way I'd have left an exclusively bf baby for that long.

I would say to friend the baby has been extremely upset for a long time.

Yanbu, I was once left with a 4 DAY old baby whilst her mum 'popped out for some air' she returned 3 hours later, I was

oh my goodness! the poor baby :(

what on earth is she thinking leaving a fully breastfed young baby with someone for that long? esp knowing she won't take a bottle.

poor little baby, poor you :(

YANBU Think your 'friend' is taking liberties to be honest.

I got captured like that with an ex friend who always managed to get stuck in traffic after her three hour dental appointment, and then had the cheek to sit drinking coffee at my house as i cleaned up the damage her one year old caused.

I really like to help out as I know how hard it is. I have no inlaws near and my parents are miles away too so I rely on myself.

But when people start taking the piss I see red.

And she still hasnt given you a real time of arrival?

That's absolutely despicable of your friend.

Apologies if this is so obvious that you've tried it all:
could you try spooning some water into the little thing, or stimulating the suck reflex point at the roof of the baby's mouth?

Do you have a clean baby nurofen syringe or similar, that you could give water or milk in?

That is awful for the baby and you.

I would contact her the message she must come back immediately.

Ring her and tell her she has to come back right now.

Let her hear her dd screaming down the phone. If she has any decency that'll get her back pronto.

poor baby.

YANBU

poor baby. mum is totally taking the piss. i hope she comes back soon.

YANBU unless she was at hospital and told she is very poorly and has to have more tests or something.

How long have you known this 'friend'?
She sounds larrvley.
Is she not answering her phone?

Not only would i not babysit for her again, i wouldn 't be talking to her again.

I agree with Colditz - she definitely needs teaching a lesson! Totally out of order

agree, call her and tell her the baby is very upset and she has GOT to come hback now

I would do what nurseries do when parents fail to pick up their children....

I've tried everything I can think of, she just refuses formula and won't take breast milk from a bottle, I've tried different teats and everything. The poor thing just hasn't stopped screaming for an hour now and there's literally nothing I can do.

Friend is on her way now. No idea how long it will take though. I am seething. I have no idea what she's playing at.

Poor baby. I have patience with the baby, it's not her fault, but I'm fucking angry with my friend.

Text her back If she is not back within 10 minutes you are calling social services for them to pick up the baby.

And forget this "friend".

God - I hope your friend has a really good excuse.

How distressing for you and the baby.

Do you have baby rice? can she sip some cooled water?

I really hope you give her a sincere bollocking when she gets there

have you texted her, maybe she is not OK

No baby food here. I am pregnant so no baby stuff myself and have a 4-yr-old nephew I am raising, so obviously he's well out of the baby phase.

I will try the water. I may boil enough to drown my friend in at this rate. I am so angry.

I wouldn't be friends with someone who could do that to a baby. It's her baby, she knows they're ebf.