to think my friend should've picked her small baby DD up 2 hours ago when I asked her to?

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I am looking after my friend's 5 month old DD today. Said friend has gone to an appointment that she couldn't take her DD to. I said fine, I would look after her. I have a childless house today and a day off work, so here I am. She was supposed to pick the baby up at 2pm, but sent me a text message to say she was doing something else and would be picking her up anytime from about now onwards.

I was not told before I agreed to the babysitting that there would be anything beyond this appointment and I specifically told my friend that I would not be able to look after the baby beyond 3pm as I had things to do.

To top it all off, the baby is exclusively breastfed and refuses to take a bottle (which my friend knows only too well) so I have had a screaming baby on my hands that my friend should have picked up two hours ago, no way to pacify her and no idea when she will be picked up.

It's the poor little baby I feel sorry for, she is hungry and tired and I can't do a thing for her.

AIBU to refuse to babysit again and be pissed off at my friend for not sticking to the plan? The extra thing is not something that needed to be done specifically today btw.

That poor baby. And poor you, it must be very distressing to have to listen to her crying, knowing you can't help her.

That's appalling.

is she back yet?

Very mashed up banana? My ds loved that at five months and he was breast fed at the time.

There is nothing wrong with friend, it's shopping and picking things up she has decided to do. I can't believe her nerve and I can't believe the way she is treating her baby.

erm, i really don't think you should give the baby food.

the mother is totally out of order here, but she may not appreciate you weaning her child early!!!!

I second the mashed up banana. You need to give the baby something. If she complains, just shrug and say "you shouldnt have left her so long with me without anything to feed her. That is really neglectful of you."

And, TBH, I had a number of hospital appts when DD2 was tiny (not connected to her in any way) and I took her with me to every one, just so that I could feed her on demand. The hospital were very accommodating of this (the nurses were usually quite happy to spirit here away for a cuddle).

I hope she has a damn good reason for why she has done this to her baby.

She will most likely sit on your sofa and feed her at yours. I don';t know how I would feel about that, relieved baby was happier but not keen to look at her.

She has acted very irresponsibly. Is she OK? Does she PND? I can't think of any other reason that a mother would leave her exclusively breastfed baby with someone else without arranging it and just bugger off....

I second the idea of the nurofen syringe.

Poor baby :(

.....and shopping and picking things up are not a damn good reason at all

'Shopping, and picking things up??'

I would be standing at the door, baby ready to go wrapped up warm, waiting for her, and close the fucking door in her face the second she had the baby.

what a piece of shit.

you can't give the baby solids! please don't

it isn't your decision to make.

the mother HAS left formula and breastmilk to be offered. i realise the baby won't take either of these, and i am certainly not saying the mum is in the right here, but you CANNOT wean her child early.

agree with medicine syringe for milk tho... or try cup or spoon feeding?

Have the baby ready at the doorwhen she comes.
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Do not invite her in.

She has stolen enough of your day already.

Poor baby

Yes - I wouldn't give solids and she'll probably need to feed as soon as she gets in.

Well I hope so for the baby's sake anyway.

Poor tiny baby. If I was anywhere near you I'd wet nurse (as I am a big ol' breeding sow). That's probably a bit of a weird offer though...

The mother must feed the baby as soon as she gets there. If it's in your house so be it.

walk out of room if you have to.

I am at this. I can't imagine doing that or having it done to me.

But chances are Jessie that she doesn't have formula in the house... do you OP? If not a little water then.

Please be sure to tell your friend that not only did she completely take advantage of you and make you feel that you don't want to help her again, that her baby was distressed, crying and hungry because she DEPENDS on her mother.

I am just

If she starts listing off some random excuses, just repeat as you close the door,
I DON'T CARE, I DON'T CARE, I DON'T F***G CARE!

I would give her back the baby and tell her you won't sit for her again.
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Don't give it any food though. (though my 5 month old has been weaned, and I dont believe the 6 month hype that was my choice and I think that really is not on to take that choice away from someone).

Can you take it out for a walk.

God I left my baby with a friend to go to uni last week and elft the class early because she text to say she was getting a bit unsettled.

I have a horrible feeling about this situation.

the only thing I can think of that would make a mother do that when she knows the baby is EBF is something quite serious like undiagnosed PND.

OH Xposted. You do have formula. Neurofen syringe then.

What a cheek. I am for you and baby