To not replace something that i havent seen

[Ray81]

We went on holiday back in August and my sister who is 18 looked after my house.
She had a party which she didnt ask to have and evidently one of her friends left a Ipod docking station here.

She asked me for it last week and i told her there was nothing like that in my house (although didnt know what i was looking for tbh). Now i had a real blitz when i got back from hols and was alittle worried i had thrown it out by mistake, i do tend to just go into auto pilot when clearing out. I said to her perhaps i had and thinking it would be £20 or so that i would replace it. I only said that because i couldnt be sure i hadnt thrown it away ifswim. Well she has come back to me saying it is £350 and showing me what it looked like. I havent seen it and have looked ALL over my house.

I havent got that amount of money and i dont think i should replace something that for one i honestly cannot remember seeing and 2 that wasnt my responsibility in the first place.

So AIBU to say NO i am not replacing it. surely if something is that expensive you shouldnt even take it out of your own home and be that careless with it. Whats to say he hasnt left it somewhere else and my house was the last time he could remember seeing it.

huge well done!!!

Well done, have you cancelled the phone contract? You should do, cos if she doesn't pay the bill it will effect your credit rating.

howannoying yes told them it was lost they are sending me a new sim card.

haha her face will be a picture when she tries to use it. hehe!

So glad you've rang them straight away. Well done you :)

I would send it too. Is it also possible the birds died around the time of the party? Actually, that's not a very helpful thing to say so it's irrelevant, but either way your family are toxic and I can't see any hope they will improve so moving away seems like the best idea.

Bloody hell. These are some inventive crazies - yet somehow also soooo tedious! The sooner you come to find their antics boring, the better it will be for you (and for them )!

Well done.

(P.S. Nice letter, Reality!)

Sorry, just saw you sent it - congratulations!

I would love to be a fly on the wall when the silly cow tries to send a text and the penny finally drops.

The rest of the toxics will all turn on each other when they find they cannot pick on you all the time.

Perfect e-mail ray so glad to see you standing up for yourself. Don't know if you relise you left dd's name in your post might want to ask mnhq to edit for you.

Hopefully things should start getting better now you don't have to pander to their unresonable behaviour.

Fab Ray! You've done brilliantly.

Hint my sister gave me for when people are trying to wind you up by email or text ...
Whatever they write just reply
Is infuriating!

Bonzo - i love it may have to respond with that if she comes back with anything although not sure what exactly she could say now. I have made my position clear.

I wonder if she will show to mum and dad am thinking not because doesnt portray her in a good light now does it .

Reality _ thankyou so much you have been a great help.

Thankyou everyone else for your support.

Have just caught up. Well done!

Stick with what you're doing, you're totally right.

Sorry your relatives are such shitbags but you and your little family sound lovely

Well done. Excellent email, excellent advice. Glad to see you finally standing up for yourself.

:)

Enjoy HP!

well done for standing your ground! and loving our work on the sim card! Ah to be a fly on the wall at their house this morning.

Good for you Ray.
You're definately in the right, stick to your guns.

Brava Ray, hope you manage to find a lovely new house closer to your lovely in-laws :)

I am so proud you did it! You will probably feel quite shaky for a bit but in the long run it was the best thing to do!

Hi all have had no response from sis.

Spoke to my aunt who is VERY proud of me for standing up for myself. She said my sis had posted on facebook about being ill and being up all night crying and my other sis posted "dont take any notice of what anyone says".

They are clearly trying to play the guilt card and make me feel sorry for her. Makes me laugh how i get an earful for posting something that will get people asking questions but she can without a problem

i am going to be so much better off without them.

Pleased to se that at least one member of your family supports you

Wow I have sat here all morning reading through this thread. Ray, I just want to say to you a massive well done and i feel so proud of you, you sound such a nice person and it must have taken so much for you to finally stand up for yourself against these terrible people abusing you.

Now I do not want to say too much here as I KNOW EXACTLY what you go through, and for that reason do not want to give myself away too much as I am always a bit worried about my family finding me. But really, take my advice, don't respond to any texts or emails or calls. You have seen already the barrage begin that they are attempting yet again to rewrite history to make YOU out the villain of this piece. Trust me when I speak from experience, you will never win this one, there are more of them than you and they will totally believe whatever story they as a family have decided upon.

Walk away from it all now, physically and emotionally as much as you can, and that means no more texts etc and trying to defend yourself, you cannot defend yourself from their insanity.

The good news is that I am living proof of what a wonderful life you can have once you have got them out of your life, believe me it will be so much happier and so much better for your children, reading your first posts made me realise how glad I am I made the break so long ago.

I'm so sorry for such a long post, I truly know what you are going through and I am truly sorry you have this blood family that you do not deserve. But you have made your own family, a wonderful DH who has supported you through this nightmare and lovely children, give you and them the gift of loving yourself enough to move away from this poison in all your lives and let 2011 be the year you start your wonderful new life away from these people.

I wish you every happiness and please don't ever doubt yourself.

Will shut the hell up now

OP have been watching your thread and feeling more and more angry on your behalf.
Hope evrything works out for you. It sounds like you deserve some happiness and a loving family, and hope that's what you get when you move!

Cannot believe how some people are prepared to treat their own family!