To not replace something that i havent seen

[Ray81]

We went on holiday back in August and my sister who is 18 looked after my house.
She had a party which she didnt ask to have and evidently one of her friends left a Ipod docking station here.

She asked me for it last week and i told her there was nothing like that in my house (although didnt know what i was looking for tbh). Now i had a real blitz when i got back from hols and was alittle worried i had thrown it out by mistake, i do tend to just go into auto pilot when clearing out. I said to her perhaps i had and thinking it would be £20 or so that i would replace it. I only said that because i couldnt be sure i hadnt thrown it away ifswim. Well she has come back to me saying it is £350 and showing me what it looked like. I havent seen it and have looked ALL over my house.

I havent got that amount of money and i dont think i should replace something that for one i honestly cannot remember seeing and 2 that wasnt my responsibility in the first place.

So AIBU to say NO i am not replacing it. surely if something is that expensive you shouldnt even take it out of your own home and be that careless with it. Whats to say he hasnt left it somewhere else and my house was the last time he could remember seeing it.

I asked you to look after my house whilst i went on holiday because your are my sister and i trusted you.

Not only did you fail to adequately care for the birds resulting in the deaths of 12 of them, you also invited 11 or more people into my home without my permission or knowledge.

As a result of your actions Phoebe is now missing £120 from her money box, my engagement ring and my neckless are missing, and your friend is missing his I-pod docking station, which incidently i have not seen. When asked for this Ipod docking station i had no idea what one looked liked so assumed i may have put it away, possibly thrown it out. Once i saw the picture i know i have not seen it and it was not in my house when i got home from holiday.

I dont know the truth of what went on whilst we were away , all i know for certain is that my birds are dead, my belongings are missing and my hospitality was abused. I do not know the whereabouts of this mystery ipod docking station and therefore will not be replacing it.

I will also not be black mailed by you when you have abused my trust so greatly and i will be cancelling the mobile phone contract myself.

i would like to make it clear i do not wish to discuss this any further with you as i am extremely angry with you right now.

I think you need to have a long hard think about who is exactly in the wrong here, because my conscience is clear.

Hows that just added alittle bit i thought i should

Thanku for being proud of me. God i feel sick,

havent sent yet want your opinions.

perfect.

Spot on.

And I would then ignore ALL further communication about any of it. Cancel the phone so that she can't bother you about that anymore (what a nasty cow!) and refuse to discuss it further with ANYONE in your family

send it. well done, sounds great.

Really good, assertive e-mail.

have wine need a few more bottles glasses for dutch courage. dh here to for topping up wine support

Good email. Some phone contracts can't be cancelled without a penalty but I'd see if you can have the phone transferred to you if this is the case.

Ray that is spot on. Don't lose heart now, post and get as far away from your rotten family as possible. X

Get Dh to press send.

Send it. And get your house on the market.

OMFG i have sent it.

Now i just need to ignore any further contact. I get the feeling the shit will hit the fan more now i have realy stood up for myself.

Deep breath.

Anyone got more wine

Cicatrice i will be calling estate agents first thing monday beleive me.

My closest friend said that she wished there was some way we could get closer to ils sooner like this weekend but it isnt going to happen that soon which is a bloody shame.

Ray, good for you!!! I can't believe your sister is being so obtuse and shameless.

How do you feel now?

Ray could you go stay at your ILs for a long weekend? Might your DC like it? Would they have you?

IF she cancells the direct debt ,tell her you will send the police to collect the phone & sim card ,if your name is on the contract then its yours.

You will end up paying for it otherwise.

Or phone the company and tell them the sim has been stolen and could they send a replacement to you.

Revolting I am starting to calm down alittle and hope that she bloody realises how angry i am at her and that i will not be treated like shit anymore.

Re Ils not a possibility i am afraid because they dont realy have the room. They are coming to babysit tomorrow so me and dh can go and see harry potter {sad i know}.

if she responds should i respond saying

refer to previous message

well done ray ...proud of you .

If she responds you should say be really neutral, like you say:

'I have explained what I am going to do. I am really angry with you right now and do not want to have further contact with you at this point.'

And enjoy HP! It is not sad. What is sad is I feel

Perfect email. Assertive and gets you point accross but not rude or bitchy or emotional.