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AIBU?

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Original poster

to dump a SMALL WILLY!

290 replies

gobbledegoop · 03/11/2010 13:55

Bit of backround for you, this is a fairly new relationship, he's a nice guy and wants everything i want from life but AIBU...... to finish with him because his willy is too small for me to get any satisfaction Blush

Ive been in relationships in the past where they have had sexual problems/issues and it's soul destroying, i've also had very satisfying sexual relationships so i know what it can be like.

Opinions please.............

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RumourOfAHurricane · 03/11/2010 14:27

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NordicPrincess · 03/11/2010 14:28

well maybe she just typed it out quickly and wasnt really hinking she had to worry about offending anyone since it wasnt aimed at anyone on here? people get really precious about the wording of some posts. I think a slack fanny on a website based on females who have given birth probebly creating the slack fanny would be more insulting, the birth of babies does not create small willies etc...

Lotster · 03/11/2010 14:29

No, but small willies can still create the birth of babies Grin

Headbanger · 03/11/2010 14:31

I don't understand why this is an offensive question: sex is an important part of relationships, right? Or you might as well just be pals. I have only ever seen the one erection and genuinely had no idea they could be as small as 4.5" Confused. I am not sure that would do much for me, I must admit...And no jokes about wizards' sleeves, either Grin

tinierclanger · 03/11/2010 14:31

Weirdly, objectification and offensive statements do offend me, even when they're targeted at men.

gelflingirl · 03/11/2010 14:32

I understand why she used the title, its the question she wants answering and she has said in her OP that hes a really nice MAN that she cares about so i think its fine.

Im sure i couldnt live with a less than satisfactory sex life either, LARRY ive been with my DH for 13 years now and we still have very frequent and extremely satisfying sex ty so dont know what you mean by sex not being important after a number of years!!!!
Stupid comment imo

abr1de · 03/11/2010 14:35

Poor bloke. :(

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gobbledegoop · 03/11/2010 14:36

ok if you can just get over the fact that i didn't use the word 'man' in my title, can i please have some honest opinions?!

Thank you to those i have received so far.

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narkypuffin · 03/11/2010 14:37

If I was happy with oral, fingers and toys I'd be with another woman. Penetration is the most important aspect of sex for me.

loopylou6 · 03/11/2010 14:37

Grin at this thread, if it was little and fat I wouldnt have as much of a problem, infact I would prefer it to be little and fat rather than long and skinny. Im quite lucky as DH is a good size and width Grin

loopylou6 · 03/11/2010 14:39

GG you wouldnt BU to dump him over this, not if you're the type of person who is very sexual.

wouldliketoknow · 03/11/2010 14:39

gobble, if part of the relationship doesn't work, dump him and move on, but honestly, objectification of men is not ok, it's when like a man says 'i like to have a pretty thing hanging on my arm', there isn't a difference, i would have more respect if you said that the sex part of the relationship doesn't work and ask for advice, rather that wanted to dump his for his size...

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gobbledegoop · 03/11/2010 14:41

That is a very good point Narky!!!
Are we the only people who find sex important. Otherwise we would all just be friends or as you say, lesbians! haha
Oh and no, there is nothing wrong with lesbians before i get slated for that lol.

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Pixie83 · 03/11/2010 14:41

YANBU - if you liked him enough, and his other 'techniques' were good, you wouldn't want to dump him over such a small thing anyway (titter!).

Anyway, lack of length wouldn't bother me as much as lack of girth. Especially when you've given birth to whoppers like I have. Enough said {blush}

BlueCupcake · 03/11/2010 14:42

If you truly loved him I don't think it would bother you imho.Smile

larrygrylls · 03/11/2010 14:42

How strange that when posters come on here and say that their man has told them that they "have got fat and are no longer attractive", the man concerned is called a twat, twunt or various other derogatory terms but it is OK to dump someone over a small willy.

Surely it either is Ok to dump someone over an aspect of their physiology that makes sex unsatisfactory or it is not OK. So which is it? Because a serious change in one's shape (e.g putting on a couple of stone or more) can certainly change how much sexual satisfaction a man can get from a woman (or vice versa I assume). I am assuming all those who defend the dumping of the "small willy" will support the husbands dumping wives who have become obese with no intention of dieting.

TheEvilDead2 · 03/11/2010 14:43

Why so defensive Larry?

Pixie83 · 03/11/2010 14:43

or maybe Blush....Blush

ShirleyGunpowderPlot · 03/11/2010 14:44
TheEvilDead2 · 03/11/2010 14:44

btw there have been a million "fatty" threads recently and most of them thought it was fine to dump someone who wouldnt lose extra weight.

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gobbledegoop · 03/11/2010 14:45

Larry, what you are saying doesn't apply to me. I haven't been with him long and he hasn't suddenly changed shape, size or anything else for that matter. I am simply trying to decide if this realationship could work out with the help of the MNers.

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AlwaysbeOpralFruitstome · 03/11/2010 14:48

I would be worried that you are throwing the baby out with the bath water, tbh. DH is not that well endowed, however he knows how to use it and I am much more satisfied with him than with my considerably larger ex who was useless.

If his technique is iffy but he's great in other ways, would you not consider working on it a bit before you decide whether or not to ditch him?

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gobbledegoop · 03/11/2010 14:48

Is there something YOU would like to discuss Larry...... Grin

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larrygrylls · 03/11/2010 14:49

TheevilDead,

I have not seen anyone who said that. Do YOU agree with that, then? You accept that fatties should expect to get dumped?

Why so defensive? Would you rather I said to the OP "I have a nice fat 8 incher, so why don't you come and test it out"?

I just think it is a horrid attitude and maybe have a more romantic view of life. And, no, I am no more actually going to comment on the size of my willy than the price of my watch (see the other thread about that). I prefer to discuss things theoretically than use an internet site to stroke my ego.

scaredoflove · 03/11/2010 14:50

I wouldn't turn around, after being with someone for 10 years and ask them to get a penis enlargement

I wouldn't dump a partner of x years if muscle had turned to fat

But I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone 10 stone overweight or one that couldn't satisfy me sexually

They are totally different things