DSD abortion thread part II

[GivesHeadlessHorseman]

carry on ladies....

Well done GHH- perhaps link back to the original too?

I think it sounds like phipps might be able to shed some light- I hope she sticks around to share her experiences.

Link to the previous threadm please Gives Head

Poor Tess! I hope it's going well with her DH, the chat.

Previous thread

Yep, I'm here if I am wanted.

I hope OP comes back to let us know how the discussion with her DH goes.

OP - If you want anyone to talk to, feel free to PM me.

God. It's such a harsh situation, there's no right answer.

The more I think about it, the more I think an abortion would not be a solution for this girl. Her problems seem to run a bit deeper than 'just' being underage & pg. I suppose it comes down to how the workload will be divvied up, ie not just 'Tess'll do it'. It could just be a couple of years til she's 16.

Tess you are very strong. Hopefully your DH is stepping up now too.

I just did a link. WTF is it? And the post accompanying it?

Amongst everything else I would be asking the GP to refer your DSD for some counselling/therapy she has admitted how alone/abandoned/unloved she feels due to her Mums behaviour the sooner she gets some professional help to come to terms with that the better chance she has of being an emotionally stable Mum.

Big hugs Tess I am dreading being in the same boat.

Anyway, LL what I meant to say on the previous thread is that you can empathise with the OP's DSD, not the OP. I'm sure you realise my cock-up, but anyway..!

I hope she sticks around too. Perhaps something good will come out of AIBU again.

There are many of us I'm sure who are poised to help and not to bicker or to pontificate.

I have nothing to offer other than my general support to you Tess - you are being very strong and you sound like you are holding the door open for your DSD to talk further.

I wish I had something practical to say but I don't - other than that your DH needs to pull his head out of the sand.

Best of luck to you all xx

I get what you mean(t) GHH. But tbh, I actually sympathise even more with the OP!

To quantify that statement - OP's dsd has choices to make in this situation. Where are the OP's choices?

GivesHeadlessHorseman I am sorry I think I was overly vehement towards you I know my situation was differnt to the ops and I find this a very emotive subject. I was 15 when I had the termination and I think I was further traumatised because the termination went wrong. I have nothing against abortion just coercing or bribery being used.

I was 17 when I fell pg with my ds and the father is a very supportive man. However this thread has offered me a sence of closure and healing I have now accepted that in my circumstances there was no easy answer and either answer would have caused immense pain to me so that makes it easier IYSWIM.

Also reading yours and others opinions has made me think maybe I wont burn in hell for it, It has also made me accept that having a baby may not have been a solution or a easy answer and would have entailed many hardships of its own. So thank you to all who posted here ( I know it was in support of tess) but I think you have helped me come to terms a little with my own experiences. Sorry for the essay.

[[scaredandalone]]] you get my first ever MN frowned upon hug.

That wasn't right was it? I've linked you to something or other!

heh heh

I love the way MNers give each other loads of hugs, but always pretend it is frowned upon :o

It's a weird kind of stiff upper lip thing.

Thank you

stiff upper lip is me all over!

How painful to have a stiff upper lip all over! My stiff upper lip is confined to my upper lip. Although occasionally I purse my lips (but only when reading AIBU)

Okay. Am typing out reply, will take awhile but it doesn't end very well I'm afraid.

Oh Tess, I hope you manage to keep your relationship with your DH strong through all this.