To tell her to fuck off

[yertile]

I've been going out with this guy from work for the last 5 months. I really like him and he likes me, there is an age gap he's 21 and I'm 33 but its not an issue. His sister is driving me crazy, she obviously does not like me at all, today was the worst. She invited me out for a coffee supposedly to get to know me better so I thought I'd go as I would like to get on with her. When I got their she just ripped into me and told me that I was too old for him, she didn't like me and that I was just using him for a bit of fun. Then she said I had to end otherwise she would step in and do it herself.
I just told her to fuck off and stormed off but I'm fucking furious whats it got to with her, we're very happy together.

Intrusive? If you post on the internet, you are surely happy for the information to be available to anyone who wants to finds it.

Why would people voice their opinions to people that are happy? Surely if no one asks your opinion you just shut up?

I see what you mean goblinchild as that was only posted yesterday on behaviour . Seems we might have a troll/fake poster amongst us admittedly a very good one.

why canvas opinion?...not everyone will agree with you...surely you are only hearing one side of said story...??

sometimes posters change little details to avoid being identified in real life or have 'other posters stalking them'. That's why I name change fairly often.

You might be right sozzledchops or she could have just mistyped and actually meant ds but typed dd. I have done that a couple of times

My life and person must be majorly boring...because I just don't give a toss...if you have time to work out who I am I would be well impressed

you don't need much time, google your name or something in the search device and every post just pops up. I was shocked at how much private info I had given out about family and friends thinking it was all anonymous - but then I've a big gob on me at times! I've heard how manipulative and twisted some posters can be.

OP just ignore the sister she's probably jealous that little brother has another woman in his life and her status of top dog is under threat. I admit I was jealous of my dbs first girlfriends and I was 27 when he got his first.

The first time I (almost) had a boyfriend aged 16; He was 21. His Sister hovered.

I accidently hit his balls when I dived into the pool with him.

His sister (almost) ducked down to kiss them better.

She sufficed by kissing him "better" whilst I just kicked water.

I'm a Feminist.

At the same time Men have Rights too.

Whilst I'd hitch my pony to a 21 year old and have a quick ride, I wouldn't pin a relationship on it, if I was 33yrs old.

It's just unfair and unequal.

There are exceptions (but few).

We've all seen the 60 year old star with the 20 year old bit of skirt.

It only changes when public attitudes change.

A 33 year old Woman with a 21 year old Man.

In all my 48 years I have never met a Man that was grown by 21.

Leave him till he's grown and if he comes back to you; it'll be worth the wait.

re: above-it could almost be a poem.

So most people on here are saying that they would be be completely happy if their 21 year old son or daughter cam home with 33 year old?

I don't think that's true. I think they would be as upset and horrified as this young man's sister.

My mum is 80 and her dp is 51 they've been together 18 years. Obviously he didn't want children but they're very happy.

And of course he was in his 30's when they met but you never know it could work for you OP? I still wouldn't have told her to fuck off though just walked away.

Anyways... yeah, ywbu to tell hr to f off, rather than try and convince her how sincere your intentions are.

Bollocks- YANBU. He is 21 not 12. She sounds like a cow and I'd have told her to fuck off too.She needs boundaries immediately! But then I'm hot headed. She can't control him. or you.

Gosh- most people on here are quite traditional aren't they? Age gap relationships have been accepted for na while now. I'd be more upset if a 50 year old man went for my 16 year old but the age gap here is nowt.

"Traditional".

Hmmmm. So your 21 year old child is going out with someone 12 years older with a failed marriage and a child and you would have no concerns at all about this?

Bloody hell people, I was 29 when I started going out with my DH and he was 19. We are now married and have three lovely children. We are incredibly happy and very solid so it can and does work.

On my gap year my 18 year old girl companion was dating a 58 year old. Now THAT was wierd but not unheard of. I think a 21 year old man should be free to date anyone he chooses. Mabe he finds women his own age boring. He must LOVE dating an older lady. thay all love a women with experience. Nothing perverted at all. If you were 50 I'd expect a few more eyebrows to be raised but 33 is still young. Hardly Mrs Robinson. ENJOY op!

I would chill on the marriage and baby front for a bit. Is she pissed because your a single mum?

Failed marriage and a child? Get over yourself seeker. There's no shame in having a child and a marrige that didn't work out. Gosh- people really are stuck in the dark ages traditional.

We only have one side of the story here.
Perhaps the OP is looking for husband and father/step material, but in his mind, she's a Gap Year project and he will move on. Maybe the sister is worrying about nothing.
He can't survive on a part-time job forever.

OP I don't see anything wrong with a concerned sibling checking you out, she may be his older sister and just be looking out for him. You should have been aware of her concerns, acknowledged them and reassured her.

I have a best mate marriEd a bloke 5 yrs younger, another marrying a man 10 yrs younger - and yes some eyebrows were raised when they first got together, but they're doing well 5 yrs on, and another in long term rel with man 8 yrs younger.Oh, and my aunt & uncle- 10 yrs apart, she still calls herself his cougar after must be over 30 yrs, but she is Californian and truly fabulous. My best male mate married a girl of 21 when he was 31; he got some stick about that at firtst but only because we were trying to protect our best mate of falling into sexy young body trap.. Ok we were jealous of her figure!!
I think if it's really right, only you 2 know, and so long as you both want the same thing for you then there's not a prob. She may not want to be your bridesmaid but in ten years time you may be able to look back and Utterly take the piss out of her narrow mindedness back then.