To tell her to fuck off

[yertile]

I've been going out with this guy from work for the last 5 months. I really like him and he likes me, there is an age gap he's 21 and I'm 33 but its not an issue. His sister is driving me crazy, she obviously does not like me at all, today was the worst. She invited me out for a coffee supposedly to get to know me better so I thought I'd go as I would like to get on with her. When I got their she just ripped into me and told me that I was too old for him, she didn't like me and that I was just using him for a bit of fun. Then she said I had to end otherwise she would step in and do it herself.
I just told her to fuck off and stormed off but I'm fucking furious whats it got to with her, we're very happy together.

So a big sister, protective of her brother.
I do worry about my DS and his future, he combines good looks with naivety and would be ripe for the plucking by a manipulative older woman. Ah well, we cannot make their mistakes for them sozzledchops, just be there to pick up the pieces.
If I was the sister, I'd be warning him to be very careful about responsible contraception.

6.5 years. Yes. And I don't recall having written that age gaps are bad.

Ah, yes, that's because I didn't, before you try to say, 'Well, you're older than your spouse'?

I know I should have kept my cool but I'm 33 and not married and I don't want anyone ruining what might be a great thing for me (and him).

Erm what does she think you'll do to him exactly? Just sounds like a nosey cow tbh...This guy hasn't just turned 16 hes 21 pretty sure he can decide who he wants to be with.

Tell them but out, If your both happy thats all that matters. Both Adults.

Also I would be thrilled...aslong as they were happy. After all that is what matters. Unless it is like 15 and 40 or something like that!

Why would she ruin it, yertile.

Because if it's meant to be then he'll be the one telling her to mind her own business.

If he doesn't, you're better off without him.

No need for - you did say you wouldn't be happy for your dd to be with an older man- sorry if I have misunderstood

Men might want to be with someone regardless of chidren or past marriages it doesn't mean anything to some people. Wouldn't stop me

33 with kids is not what most Mothers want for their sons...I kind of cringe at it...BUT...some guys of 21 DO know what they want..and they may want tosettle down early...but telling the sister to eff off was wrong..better to be gracious. Now she will report back to their Mum that Billy's new squeeze is from the gutter...

definitely needed, winny, because you also didn't read the post, instead just came in getting personal and making assumptions, because I wrote:
'I have to admit I wouldn't be entirely thrilled if my 21-year-old got involed with a 33-year-old with kids already.'

And since you know so much about me, you'd know I have children of both genders.

I also didn't write 'older'.

But carry on trying to twist things round and get personal rather than stay on topic.

It's a nice change from the welfare/benefits threads.

hahaha@ MuGG

So apology accepted, thank you so much, yes, you misunderstood and didn't read properly.

Happens to everyone.

If my DD was 33 and met a man of 45, I'd be fine about it.

And some people just want sex, ForMash :o.

I wouldn't be happy for my DD to be with an older man..they are manipulative..and I would prefer her and her partner grow together..is that wrong?

What's older, though, MumCentre? For me, personally, I'd say 10 years. But even then, it depends. I mean, the difference between 45 and 55 isn't as great as 16 and 26, IYKWIM.

I am 39 DP is 31 my "baggage" are now 14 and 10 and my EX is my best friend, I would how ever be appalled if DPs sister/mother/random family member spoke to me in such a way

I have to admit I'm , I wish I could have a 21 yo toyboy. She's being a big sister who is having serious worries about baby bro going out with a woman who is 12 years older than him. If my younger sister (24) was going out with a guy 12 years older than her then I'd be worried that she was being used for sex and a trophy, so I understand her concerns.

Lets be honest she's right you are too old for him and it is extremely unlikely that it will last the distance and even if it does I would bet on a divorce within 5 years. Enjoy having a young 21 yo body to curl up with though (have to confess I'm a bit jealous).

expat, I wasn't trying to 'get personal and twist things'.

I am sorry you took it that way, I shouldn't have brought your life into it, sorry, but that had more to do with me being fucking exhausted and not thinking straight than with any attempt at malice.

I see more in him than sex byrel although we have had it. He's nice,kind and thoughtful and I had actually known him for a while before we started going out. He's a student who does part time work at the shop that I work at.

I use the maximum 5yr gap system older or younger...not saying it cannot work with more of a gap but its nice to have something in common, with shared memories and experiences...my parents had an 11 year gap and at the beginning it was about my Father being older and having more experience...till my mother grew up...

wouldn't you worry about getting in deep (if you see it as serious, of course) and then years down the line him wanting someone younger? Doubt I'd have the confidence to think I could hold a much younger man TBH, in the long term. Unless you are just enjoying the ride.

DP is 11 yo older than me.

But he's very childish and I'm very mature