to have wanted to scream, :"F**K YOU!!!!!" at a woman at playgroup today?!

[Diziet]

OK, just having a rant here, getting it off my chest type of thing...
We were all giving our DC snacks at around 11 - some of the older ones start nursery at 12.10 so it makes sense. My DS decided he didn't want his sandwiches. I said to him, "you can't have chocolate spread EVERY day, sweetheart!". Then I heard one of the other mums say, "oh, I don't give mine anything like that".
Wanted to say: "F**K YOU!! Not everyone is lucky like you and has children who are good eaters.
Some of us are grateful for our children to eat ANYTHING."
But I didn't. I gathered my son and my's belongings and we went home. He is munching his chocolate spread sandwiches (on WHITE BREAD - HA!!!!) with deafening slowness as I type.
I will return once I've dropped him at Nursery.

You left because someone criticised your choice of sandwich filling?
Yes, she is rather rude, but I wouldn't have left.
I wouldn't care all that to be honest.

You shouldn't have left.

You should have just rolled your eyes at her and just stayed there.

You will meet judgental arses everywhere, you musnt't let them get to you.

Pointless...

and yes YABU for wanting to "scream" at the woman

YABU to be that angry over a choccy spread sandwich

if you are comfortable in the choices you make as to how you feed your child then who cares?

i don't give mine chocolate spread anymore, DS is allergic and the odd time DD has had it, she's licked off the chocolate and left the bread.

if your DS has food issues and does not eat much, it really should not matter what other people think

She was rude, but she will be her own punishment as no one will like her.

Have more confidence in yourself and don't let it get to you.

Well, I'd have said that to her (minus the fuck you bit obviously).

But I am rude assertive like that

you could have said , ' he just won't eat anything else, poor lamb, i struggle to get him to eat, at least if he has this, i know he's had something'

why you felt the need to leave is beyond me

you should have told her not to worry, it was organic choc spread after all.

I find that particular brand of unasked for tut-tutting smugness really presses my buttons too, so I empathise. And you didn't shout at her, so that's good. Nutella on crusty white bread...mmmmm

YABU - I don't think it merits such a vehement response, even if it is just on MN. [hgrin]

If you are secure in the knowledge that you feed your DS appropriately, why does it matter what some random rude woman said?

Going home over the incident seems a tat OT if that's what happened - or did you have to go anyway?

x-post Lulu! [hsmile]

Lulumaam - you've got to read between the lines - I'm guessing that Diziet's DS is a picky eater and never wants to eat what he's given - it would make me angry at a random person judging my food, too.
(and yes, it does seem irrational if you don't have to live with "but I don't want it!! twenty million times a day)

Do you, deep down, feel bad that you feed this stuff to your kid? Is that the reason for the extreme reaction? Did she hit a nerve?

i see that coldcomfort, i alluded to that also

i think that if the OP is upset, instead of storming off, she could have said something about the fussiness and the problems and garnered some sympathy and made the judgey one think twice before opening her mouth.

It does sound a bit of an extreme reaction. Console yourself that karma will probably bite her on the arse for her smug self-congratulation, and ignore. Agree you will meet lots of smugger-buggers throughout your time as a mum, and as the years go on, they generally have to eat humble pie somewhere along the line. Has taught me never to be judgy- or at least to keep it to myself!

sorry, i meant pickledbabe ..

YABU for want to scream fuck you at someone who was remarking that she doesn't want to feed her child something that's devoid of nutritional value. Isn't that her choice, and her right to express it, just as it's your choice to feed your child chocolate spread sandwiches? You could have explained, if you felt the need to justify yourself, or rolled your eyes if you didn't, but storming out or screaming fuck off seems a bit of an overreaction.

fantastic... now i know what to have for lunch. nutella on white warburtons bread. heaven. i might have a side order of peanut butter on white bread too. yummmmmmmmm! (am preg btw - white warburtons is my special preggy treat)

I hate judgemental, smug people like that. I would have just given her a filthy look and ignored her. Like someone else said, she will be her own worst enemy as no one will like her.

If ds didn't have nutella he wouldn't have a glass for his milk.

I don't know why it's assumed people will get on just because they have children the same age? If you weren't likely to be best mates otherwise ur not likely to be now if u only have kids in common. Who care what otherpeople feed their children? That's surely their business unless they invite comment/advice?

'spose I'd say something if I saw a mum giving their tot salted peanuts etc but choc spread? A staple in many a child frriendly household.