to have wanted to scream, :"F**K YOU!!!!!" at a woman at playgroup today?!

[Diziet]

OK, just having a rant here, getting it off my chest type of thing...
We were all giving our DC snacks at around 11 - some of the older ones start nursery at 12.10 so it makes sense. My DS decided he didn't want his sandwiches. I said to him, "you can't have chocolate spread EVERY day, sweetheart!". Then I heard one of the other mums say, "oh, I don't give mine anything like that".
Wanted to say: "F**K YOU!! Not everyone is lucky like you and has children who are good eaters.
Some of us are grateful for our children to eat ANYTHING."
But I didn't. I gathered my son and my's belongings and we went home. He is munching his chocolate spread sandwiches (on WHITE BREAD - HA!!!!) with deafening slowness as I type.
I will return once I've dropped him at Nursery.

well I'll never give DD chocolate spread sandwiches (if I can at all possibly avoid it) - as I know if she knew they existed she'd never eat any other type of sandwich ever again & demand choc spread all the time. Just asking for hell trouble from a toddler IMO, but don't shout at me OP, cause I really don't care that you give it to you DS!! Each to their own.

Bummer you go so upset you left - a good eye roll would have carried your disdain very well.

I left because:
a.) I thought I was going to slap the wench
b.) It is my Special Time Of The Month and I am
feeling rather sensitive
c.) I know this woman, it is not the first time she has made such comments: she also comes to a playgroup I help to run. Last year we were all putting our names down on the list of food to bring in for the DC's Xmas party. She regarded said list and moaned (to me) 'ooh - it's all crap, though, isn't it?' I was so gobsmacked - I mean, it was for a PARTY, FFS- that I was lost for words!!
Her DD goes to the same nursery as my DS2 so our paths crossed briefly at dropoff time a few minutes ago.
I kept quiet.
Perhaps I ought to ask Santa for a punchbag this year...!

We don't have chocolate spread in our house at all .because I would eat- it all

sorry but i am cringing at 'special time of the month'

Oh, SOOOOOOOOOOO SORRY!!!! PERIOD PERIOD PERIOD. There. Better???

I take special delight in rolling past our toddler group when my children are eating cheese pies from Greggs.

Although, as yet, no one seems to give a shit what I feed my kids.

wow you have anger issues

on the blob is fine with me

An Butterbur - I do not have anything yummy in my house because I would do the same.

Entirely unreasonable to react so violently to a drive-by comment. Many mothers make comments like that all the time, usually because they are trying to convince themselves that they are doing the Right Thing (and therefore everyone else is doing The Wrong Thing).

I read somewhere that sleep deprivation has a different effect on women than men, and leads to more rigid thought processes and decreased ability to relativise, which may explain a lot of what irks people about the other mothers in in mother and toddle/ playgroup/nursery settings.

I suggest that next time you produce a packet of Haribo and ask if anyone wants some.

okaaaaaaay
i'm backing slowly away from the thread now

Diziet - calm down love . This woman is SO not worth the stress. If it makes you feel any better my 7 year old son was discovered under his covers with a half empty jar of choclate spread last night - it's his Dad's spread. If you don't give it to em they will taste it eventiually anyway - as this smug woman will discover when her prescious little one starts school/attends a party/goes to Grandmas. Invite her child for tea and give em a Happy Meal lol

She was annoying ,I would have just laughed at her tbh and she would forever be nicknamed mrsfoodpolice

I think your reaction is OTT, regardless of it being 'time of the month'.

YABU to want to hit someone over something so trivial

I think your reaction is OTT, regardless of it being 'time of the month'.

YABU to want to hit someone over something so trivial

When DD2 was at nursery there was a woman like that there, who would poo-poo everyone's parenting. But she'd say it to the children, so things like "Oh dear, your coat is a bit filthy, doesn't mummy know how to use a washing machine", in front of the parents. Really annoying. But no one liked her and everyone avoided her like the plague. People like that must be very insecure if they need to put down other peoples' choices and parenting all the time.

Oh I'd never give my DC chocolate spread because I would eat it all out of the jar with a spoon....

[hgrin]

Damn strike outs.....

I wouldn't feed my 3 choc spread sandwiches because it is a tad crap and DD1 would then only want that in her sandwiches for ever. No sense in introducing that to an under 5. However, she was very rude and smug to say something as it's none of her business. I wouldn't bat an eyelid as your choice.

However, leaving and feeling the need to scream obscenities at her is somewhat unreasonable.

Oh and, was the party food 'all crap'? I mean it doesn't have to be crap just because it's party food, does it?

Calm down dear.

Maybe she has been concerned about how you feed your children for some time and felt she had to invtervene? Perhaps she was dropping hints at the party?

Maybe try houmous on rye bread tomorrow.

HTH.

I think you are being a wee bit touchy and the woman making the remark was being a wee bit rude or thoughtless.

Having said that... give it 10 or 12 years and both your DC will be quaffing cheap cider and eating kebabs on the sly.

Their nutella eating/avoiding days won't matter a jot.

She may have said what she said but she doesn't actually care what you feed your kid.

I know I don't give a darn what anyone else feeds their kids as it's their choice. I feel sad when I hear stories about babies getting coke in their bottles and so forth but I would never say anything because I only care about my own child.

I can imagine how frustrating it must have been for you.

I'm not normally like this - honest!!!
Mild-mannered is my middle name. (Well, actually, it's Jane, but you know what I mean).
It's just...people can be so INSENSITIVE. I've probably put my foot in it myself sometimes - but I'm usually so paranoid about offending people that I often end up apologising to someone and they say, 'but I didn't even hear you say anything!' or similar.
I tell myself that hopefully my children will get bored of eating the same old things (eldest is starting to try, at last), but I do sometimes find it rather hard to deal with: my DH reassures me that they seem to be ok on their rather limited diet, but all the same... I do worry!!

Yes, as has been said, they will taste these things eventually but whilst you have control why would you introduce choc spread? All 3 of mine would just want that for evermore and being a lazy cook, I'd just end up agreeing!