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To be really fucked off with my family.

268 replies

Huskyflodynamo · 14/10/2010 11:40

I have a bad cold, the 'feel like death warmed up' type where you can't stop shivering and just want to take to bed til it's all over.

6month old ds has a sniffle and is being totally clingy, whiney and just wants to be carried everywhere. I am obliging because it is my responsibility to make sure his needs are met above my own.

This morning, I asked dh to stay at home because I feel so shit and had no sleep. He went to work anyway and I rang my mum who lives two miles away if she would mind popping for an hour to mind ds while i catch up on some sleep. She declined and said she is tired and has things to do.

I have two sisters who live within 5 minutes drive but they are busy as well. One is having a riding lesson after work and the other is going to a wedding show with her friend.

I absolutely cannot rely on my family to help me out in a situation like this and it pisses me off. My sisters don't have kids so they don't understand how hard it can be. I know people have their own lives to lead but ffs surely family comes first?

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BeerTrixSixSixPotter · 14/10/2010 23:55

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Appletrees · 14/10/2010 23:56

Grin a trend is born, I want to see "bally twerp" revived

booooooooooyhoo · 14/10/2010 23:58

'bally twerp' i have never heard that one. what does it mean?

Appletrees · 14/10/2010 23:59

"bally" is sort of bertie wooster for bloody

"twerp" is, well, general silly sausage I guess

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 00:01

it's a funny one.

twit always reminds me of roald dahl.

BeerTrixSixSixPotter · 15/10/2010 00:04

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Appletrees · 15/10/2010 00:08

curiouser and curiouser

yes boo I forgot about those Grin

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 00:09

my favourite was always fantastic mr fox, everytime i see a fox i automatically picture the front cover of teh book we read in school.

daftpunk · 15/10/2010 00:11

Sorry, have just been on twitter..... Seriously, ha ha ha

daftpunk · 15/10/2010 00:14

I love rotter and rascal....

" you scoundrel " That's a good one.

ManiDeadi · 15/10/2010 08:46

Oh My GODDDDDD!!!!

This thread is really starting to piss me off.

No-one has said she was being unreasonable to ask for help.

No-one said she should have just carried on in the face of adversity, without asking, because others have managed.

The point is that she did ask (totally reasonable IMO), and her family were unavailable. They were not being unhelpful - they had commitments.

Like I said in a previous post, if she had called them up and said that she'd fallen down the stairs and broken her leg/was unable to move, I'm sure they'd be over in a shot.

However what posters are saying is that a cold/flu is more copeable (a word?), compared to some other ailments.

FWIW OP I hope you are feeling better today and managed to get some rest.

roseability · 15/10/2010 08:51

I was not harking back to some golden age Appletrees. Neither do I expect grown up children to be mithered

Do not patronise me. That was not my point at all.

So are you going to expect your own children 'just to get on with it' when they are feeling low'?

Oh for goodness sake dear you only have a maternal headcold. A hundred years ago children had to look after themselves don't you know.

Good luck Hmm

Appletrees · 15/10/2010 09:16

Well obviously you were. Unless you think we've always lived in a naricisitic culture.

Am I going to let my own children get on with it with a cold or are "feeling low"? Yes I might, almost certainly, especially if I'm tired and I've got other things to do. Why not? They'll be adults. It doesn't mean I don't love them or are nacticissitc. Are you going to be a slave to every whim of them them "feeling low"? Now that's martyrdom.

Appletrees · 15/10/2010 09:37

Come to think of it I wouldn't dream of putting my mum on a guilt trip because I had a cold. And then going online to whinge and be horrible about it! That's more narcistic really. I think the op is being a bit of a madam.

GoreRenewed · 15/10/2010 09:49

Anyway.

Are you feeling better OP?

SpringHeeledJack · 15/10/2010 10:22

she's long gone. Can't say I blame her

and Appletrees- surely tis better for her to go online and complain anonymously to a bunch of strangers than to explode all over her family members? I can't see anything wrong with using mn as an outlet for this sort of thing.

In fact I sort of thought that's what it was for?

Confused
Appletrees · 15/10/2010 10:47

Oh sure, but to even be the sort of person that has the need to be horrible about your mum online because she won't drop everything, it's a bit distasteful. I suppose to even expect that is a no-no in my eyes.

PeachesandStrawberry · 15/10/2010 15:02

I hope your feeling better OP.

Ignore all those martyrs who say they have "had to get on with it"

FWIW It makes no sense to me.

I would say to that "And your point is?"

everyone is different.

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