to be saddened by a three week old baby in full time childcare?

[lilystyles]

At a local toddler group last week there was a childminder who I'm friendly with, she had with her a new child, a baby of 3 weeks who's mother had gone back to work full-time in teh pub she and her husband own. I am not judging this woman, it's her choice but I couldn't help but feel sad at the situation.

YABU

It's utterly sad - my parents ran their own business and we had a live in 'nanny' - a friend of family who also worked for them. Maybe an au pair would be a better, cheaper idea for them.

It may be sad but you don't know the woman's circumstances. It might be a matter of having to work in order to keep the roof over their heads. I am a Childminder and I have never cared for another baby this young but even in my job, it would mae me sad too as it's not something I could or would ever do.

YANBU.

Poor little mite.

I posted on another thread earlier about a mother at my dc's school who doesn't work, yet has all childcare handed over to others, and has done since her ds was 2 weeks old. She's expecting her 2nd, and will do the same thing.

YANBU, and it's very, very difficult not to judge, but according to a friend who's a nursery manager, it's quite common :(

YANBU

I was only just about walking again after 3 weeks! How is this woman working!!

I'm assuming as its their own business, they have no choice.

Seems a shame though.

Yes its sad that this baby's mum is missing out on this time with her child. But thats her business. Like someone else said if she and her dh own the business there may be no choice.

I want to say YABU as it's none of your business...but it is sad.

Yanbu

Full time in a pub though might be a lot ofevenings and weekends so her dh might be with the baby
if you run your own business you don't get the luxury of maternity leave
perhaps if she doesn't work the baby won't have a roof over it's head
yabu

That is very sad but she probably doesn't have any choice.

Maybe the mother cries in the loo all day at work because she misses her baby so much
I'm sure it's not a choice to work so much but a necessity

YANBU, I'd feel sad too, 3 weeks old and with a complete stranger? They must be desperate!

Obviously I don't know her circumstances but either way I think it's a sad situation

I wouldn't imagine that anyone could do this unless they had no choice.

Why have a baby then if you KNOW you will have to go back work 3 weeks post delivery?

Of course it's sad, poor mum and poor baby.

I think you'd get a different type of response if you posted this in the evening. I shall come back and have a look then.

At what age do you all think a mother should go back to work?

If you are self-employed running your own pub you know the situation you will be in if you have a child. This was a choice - have a child and pay for a childminder, rather than have a child and pay for extra bar staff. It is sad for the tiny baby and the parents choice.

I can understand why you'd find it upsetting but I imagine there are babies in this country (not to mention around the world) who are in a much worse position than being cared for by a registered child minder.

In the evening when the mum's get in from work you mean LS?

I meant;

What age do you all think a child should be before the mother goes back to work back to work?