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AIBU?

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to be horrified at this 'Kids in care' documentary?!

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TanteAC · 05/10/2010 21:49

Have never posted in AIBU bfore, but would be really interested to hear what you think as I am really astonished at how one social worker is talking to a troubled teen?

Some of them are obviously doing a great job in difficult circumstances, but the man who is dealing with the teenage boy needs to realise how bloody vulnerable and cornered some of these kids must feel!

Am not a social worker or anything which is why I think I may be BU, but saying to a kid who has just looked at his whole family at his mum's wedding when he couldn't go, had only 2 hours with his little sister and then got upset that he couldn't have contact when he wanted that he 'keeps moving the goalposts and asking for more and more' is horrible and not very insightful?!

Of course he is angry and upset - and of course he wants more, he is entitled to want more! Angry Not always possible, and I appreciate the circumstances but frickin' hell!

So - anyone else watching? AIBU to think that this particualer social worker should communicate better with teens he works with and stop making it seem like the child is being unreasonable? Seems like that reaction was inevitable to me...

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piscesmoon · 08/10/2010 08:03

Little Connor's family did not want to adopt! They said quite clearly that they didn't. They were being ruled by their heads-not their hearts. The daughters would have left home when Connor was still in an infant class and then he would have been alone with them as elderly parents in his teen years. They didn't think they could, or wanted to, cope at that age. They wanted the best for him. If their dream of a nice family didn't happen and the alternative was care then I expect they might have been forced to reconsider. They hadn't gone into being foster carers to adopt. You have to be hard headed about these things, otherwise it is like people getting an appealing puppy for Christmas and then not wanting it when it is fully grown and comes with responsibilities and ties.
Sadly it didn't shock me either A1980-you see similar cases all the time as a teacher.
I get shocked by the treads saying 'I hate other people's children' as if children are some breed apart! I find that you can find the good side in any child-some you just have to search harder than others. It is very sad that the ones that you have to search hardest for are the ones damaged by their own parents.

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