/ a bridezilla over my hen do?

[doublequack]

We have had a thing booked for months - it was an amazing deal Hotel, bed, breakfast, lunch, dinner, 2 spa treatments and use of the facilities over 2 days for £100. I have a few friends and some family coming - i.e. all ages.

Today was the last day to make any cancellations. My friend broke her leg last week. I do sympathise with her as I realise it must really hurt. But hen do is in 3 weeks and she has cancelled. she cancelled by emailing me and my sister at the same time knowing that I am often not on email. Not so much as a text for a warning. She says she wont be able to get around so has no choice but to cancel.

I am left footing the bill for a single occupancy room now at late notice, so not cheap.

Her treatments are a facial and a back massage and dont invove her leg and my aunt who is coming with us has had a stroke so we wont be running around. She insists that she cant possibly come now.

Am I being unreasonable to be a bit p'd off?

P.S if she said she couldnt afford it or something, I would have been fine with it and have told her this.

`yabvu

Have you ever broken your leg?! I'm not surprised she doesn't want to come and if she's cancelled within the correct time frame then I think you're being rather selfish.

I don't understand. If today was the last day to make cancellations and she let you know today then why are you left footing a bill?

I think YABU. I have never broken a leg but I imagine it must hurt somewhat and she has no idea how she will feel in 3 weeks time. Also she will presumably have reduced mobility so may find travelling and general getting around more difficult and tiring then normal.

You are being a bridezilla I am afraid.

YABVU - not a good mate either are you?

You're not being a bridezilla at all.

You are being unreasonable and selfish though.

She has a BROKEN LEG. Get a Grip.

YABU.

Why would she want to hobble about.

Why are you footing the bill? She has cancelled on the last day she was allowed to. Presumably to see if she would feel up to it and has decided that she won't.

OMG YABU, VVVU

So you'd rather she was broke than injured? What a joke!

Yes. Sorry. You are being unbelievably unreasonable!!!

Oh my. YABU!! Your poor friend.

yabvu!!!!! seriously bridezilla. she has a broken leg, she is injured, its not like she has done it on purpose is it?? fgs, do people have to be on their death bed to get the ok from you for cancelling

I don't see why you should foot the bill surely if today was the last day to cancel then thats fine or you could see if you can invite someone else to come and request to change the treatments if they want something different.

I wouldn't want to come with a broken leg because you wouldn't be able to go in the sauna, steam room, pool etc and I wouldn't want to pay to come where I couldn't fully enjoy it. She is probably on strong painkillers too so wouldn't be able to drink.

Doublequack

My friend was in an identical situation i.e. being a bridemaid and she went arse over tit and shattered her ankle.

She was out of it on very strong painkillers for days and was in hospital for two weeks with pins and surgery etc.

She went to the wedding but was in sooooo much pain. I felt for her because she was on the same table as me.

She wanted to be at home with her leg up on a sofa.

The bride complained that she ruined the photos by not smiling! She still has six inch scars down her ankle.

Hope your wedding goes well and lots of congrats

Yab very very very unreasonable!!! Ffs have some bloody sympathy-not everything is about you, you should get her some choccies and a card sharpish

yes bridezilla

"P.S if she said she couldnt afford it or something"

Why not assume a broken leg counts as "or something".

Seriously - get a grip.

Good God. Please tell me you are joking? You are being not only unreasonable but also a crap friend.

YAB so U. So much for your "sympathy".

Ok looks like I am then.

My main problems were - I would have thought it would have been courteous to give me a bit of a warning i.e a call or a text?

And that I dont really see "Not being able to get around" as an impossible barrier as other members of the party cant get around either. Thats why everything we are doing is in the same building. Had she said she was in too much pain, then of course that would have been a different story. I am not that mean!!

I say broken leg but meant fractured ankle. I have not broken my ankle but have torn the ligaments before so I do know that it isnt fun. I would have arranged transport for her door to door so thats not a problem as the hotel is less than an hour away from where we live.

Other people cant come because of time/money etc and that is fine.

Yanbu. Your friend has broken her leg. Give her some sympathy.

YABU. I always thought that women who become selfish bridezillas on the lead up to their Big Day were just urban myths. I guess I was wrong.

at anyone having this attitude. Lets hope your mate waits til a more convenient time to break a leg next time